Scandi Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Hi! Sorry for long post but I can't figure myself out which I'm usually good at. First a little about me. I'm a 25 year old guy from Sweden. I'm currently on a break from my studies and is on sick leave due to depression which I've been suffering from since 2014. Something I noticed which have happened before also is that whenever I'm interested in a girl in a way that I want more than just sex is that I get obsessed by them. I met this girl on a party last Saturday that is a friend of a friends girlfriend, she is quite shy and we haven't talked very much before. None of us was that drunk, I was a bit more than her. We hooked up (She told be before we began that she was a virginity but still wanted it) and she stayed the night and for breakfast. We texted again on Sunday evening and Tuesday evening where we decided to meet again (she asked even though I wad kind of fishing for it) and talk later this week just the two of us. The thing is that I think a lot of her, visit her Facebook page daily just to see her pictures etc. I'm not unfamiliar with the opposite gender and have had two longtime relationships and been sexually active since I was 17. I have no problem to meet a girl at a party and take her home for the night and maybe see her a few more times but where both of us just want sex. This oppsession only happens when I'm interested in more than just sex. Does anyone know or have an idea of why I'm like this and how to stop it? I don't recognise myself and just feel creepy.
smackie9 Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 I don't think you are obsessed, but just really interested to find out more about them. I feel instead of ogling them on social media, ask her out on a date and ogle at her in person to curb your appetite.
Author Scandi Posted November 16, 2016 Author Posted November 16, 2016 Smackie9: We're meeting later this week like I said and it's for getting to know each other better. Don't know what we'll do but what you do isn't really the important thing. All I know is that we'll be at my place. Here in Sweden we don't really have a dating culture where your directly ask someone out for dinner and maybe a movie or something. We are quite subtle. P.S. Is there a way to reply to a specific person or tag someone on this forum?
Gaeta Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Smackie9: We're meeting later this week like I said and it's for getting to know each other better. Don't know what we'll do but what you do isn't really the important thing. All I know is that we'll be at my place. Here in Sweden we don't really have a dating culture where your directly ask someone out for dinner and maybe a movie or something. We are quite subtle. P.S. Is there a way to reply to a specific person or tag someone on this forum? What do you do if you don't date? How does a relationship go from casual to serious? I think when people get obsessed with another human being it's they de-humanize them. They're more like a shiny new toy they want to acquire. I also think that when you understand why you have a certain behavior, and how it works on you, it's easier to work around it. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 You mentioned you are off studies due to suffering from depression, sometimes depression can cause symptoms of anxiety or there could be other underlying mental issues that cause the obsessive behaviour like bi-polar or schizophrenia. I don't want to worry you, it is likely just the depression causing you anxiety which in turn produces obsessive thinking and actions. Are you treating your depression? As per our question regarding alerting a specific member you might want to ask about that in the Questions portion of the forum and either the mods will respond or the person you are seeking might see it.
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