Boyfriend addicted to porn

[elaine567]

This is a high school sweetheart relationship and it probably has really run its course. So staying in there just because it has now been 7 years, makes little sense. It is crunch time here, marriage and commitment or cut and run.

Dating is about finding someone who ticks all the boxes, or as many of them as possible.

He has now shown her, that their values are different, he is capable of breaking promises and he is capable of lying directly to her face.

He also has a porn addiction which is NOT an easy thing for many women to deal with. Living long term with porn addict is difficult, addiction erodes trust, destroys intimacy and decimates emotional connection, not to mention the harm it does to a woman's self esteem.

 

“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”

― Maya Angelou

[Sicilian]

oh like you can only accept one or the other? How about neither...thanks

 

 

 

so men are capable of using their imaginations, they are just too lazy. No guy "needs" porn, they just don't want to give it up. Just like no woman needs to accept it in her life either.

 

OP I suggest you check out the website Fight The New Drug for support and information.

I will definitely check out that website, thank you.

[marky00]

Thank you so much for your input. I totally understand what you're saying. I think that is my main issue right now whether I should stay with him (being that this is the second time I have caught him) and help him ( BUT HOW? HOW CAN I HELP HIM?) or step out of this relationship before it's way too late? ...Once again thank you for your response.

 

A 7 year relationship deserves quite a lot of fighting for. This dialogue has only been going on with him for a matter of days?

 

 

That doesn't seem to be a lot of time in the grand scheme of things.

[hestheone66]

I and my bf both love porn. Together or apart. I know that when I'm really stressed or depressed I'm more likely to use porn in an unhealthy way.

I'm addicted in the sense of hating never to watch it again, but I can go weeks without looking.

We have a very active and loving sex life, partly because we're well matched in terms of appetite levels, but also there is complete openness and sharing. He likes tranny porn and some gross stuff, I like all sorts..and not just fake models but living depictions of conventional looking people of all shapes . When were apart we may share images we've seen that remind us of what we're missing. Explore what about porn is feeding him...is it escapism, need for variety, mindless waste of time, getting tips on what else can be done.

I know it's confronting but don't think he's comparing those fake people with you or would prefer them. He loves you but uses porn as a crutch...if it's not debilitating and he still gives you plenty of attention and affection then you shouldn't worry. But. If it's a deal breaker and he wants professional help to stop for your sake, help him and support him, or leave and don't turn back.

[MrPlop]

I don't think it has anything to do with your appearance and you need to understand this. It's about his fantasies, you guys been together for 7 years, time to really open up, maybe a change of peace and spice things up a bit? Same applies to you.