Winesar21 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I have been seeing someone for a little over two months. A couple weeks ago he said I want to see you and no one else. I asked what that meant and he said exclusive. We begun having sleepovers and spending quite a bit of time together. I had pressed him about a title and he said we are exclusive. I guess looking back it was kind of odd. Then this weekend he tells me last minute as I'm laying with him that he is getting together with his friends but he isn't ready for me to meet them. He never even told me what he did or where he went. I get the impression that he is a partier and likes to go out. Today he told me that he thinks I'm absolutely amazing but he realized he wasn't ready for a relationship because he likes his freedom too much and he's not sure he can give the effort needed. I told him ok and said my goodbyes and wishes him luck. He then said that he still wants to talk to me he just can't commit to a full blown relationship. Everytime I said goodbye he kept telling me that. He said he figures himself out soon. How soon did you become boyfriend and girlfriend? Has this ever happened to anyone? We are in our late 20s.
JewelD Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 When I was in college, fairly quickly. It lasted 3 years but ended horribly. We didn't really know each other and I had no business dating someone like him. Sounds like this guy went out with his buddies, maybe saw some girl he liked/wanted or did something with someone and realized he didn't want to put you through the drama of being in a relationship when he still wants other women. But he wants to keep you as a 'friend' so the door is still open for those girlfriend/boyfriend benefits without you being his girlfriend. If I were you, I would be grateful he at least had the decency to be honest about it instead of dragging you through pointless turmoil. Time to move on. I doubt he will ask you to be his exclusive again. 1
Popsicle Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 He wants you to not see any other men but he wants to see other women. 1
Miss Peach Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I would let him go unless you are comfortable being no more than a casual FWBs with this guy. He's showing you right now he's not emotionally available enough or willing to commit to being with you. He wants his cake and to eat it too basically.
Toodaloo Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Don't bother returning his calls. He doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you. Quit wasting time on this one and move on to someone who will proudly show you off to all his friends and family.
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