Overwhelming feeling of loneliness lately..

[Jim nine three]

I can honestly say over the last months,from a third eye view my life seems great.I have managed to get a steady job with a nice income,I have been hitting the gym over the last weeks and have taken foreign language courses.On paper everything seems great and I am constantly trying to add new activities to my daily routine.However truth is I am feeling really lonely lately.

 

I have quite a small social circle.Single for the last 4 months after a 2-month relationship and about a year and a half after my long term serious relationship.Outside of my 6 good friends I really don't have anyone else to hang out with.Our weekly routine of hanging out seems to bore me lately as well.It's basically the same thing every week of the month so nothing new ever occurs.

 

Also after my last break up I haven't really have had any romantic interest going on.I miss the feeling of being in love and loved by someone.About 3 weeks ago I saw my long term ex holding hands with someone else.I honestly believed I would flip out when I thought about this once.It did hurt of course,but I believe it really just bolstered the feeling of not moving forward with my social life as I want it to be.

 

I try my best to change this,however some days there is really no time to focus on my social life and the feeling of loneliness is unbearable.How does one cope with these feelings when they have so many responsibilities in their life?Also,what would be some good ways to improve my social circle and make new friends and meet new love interests?

[MsJayne]

One of the worst things about being single is that once you reach a certain age the social possibilities are ever-shrinking. Couples often overlook you, and like you say, friends become boring if you are just doing the same old same old. Personally I hate date sites but you could try them, if nothing else you may get to widen your social circle, though when I used them I always found that people were looking for relationships only and usually weren't open to the possibility that maintaining social contact with someone you met through a date site might actually lead to you meeting a partner. You're doing better than me, I literally have no social life unless I want to go hang out in a bar on Friday nights with a group of cackling women who bore me senseless. My closest friends live interstate, as do my family.

Maybe you should suggest to your buddies that you go away weekends? Or check out singles events run by date sites?

As far as coping with loneliness, I can't answer that. As someone who lives alone and has been dealing with it for many years I can only say that it doesn't get better. Sorry, but that's the truth.

[mortensorchid]

Nearly everyone complains about just what you have just complained about above. And sometimes it's far worse than what you have described. Learn to be happy with you, change things up, be active. Life will change unexpectedly for all of us when it's time to let it.