is it considered a social failure for someone to not have a SO?

[Kovalchoke]

Does this tie into the person's status and ego? Because I've heard of people who are in a relationship for the sake of having someone.

[Zippy2000]

What is an SO? Standing Order? Wish people would put what the acronym means.

[Buddhist]

Signifcant Other.

 

No it's not failure. A lot of people are in relationships because they can't stand being alone or their own company. It's neediness that drives them to seek out someone else. Not a genuine desire or liking for the other person. It's only failure if you think the destination in life is to be partnered.

[Zippy2000]

Signifcant Other.

 

No it's not failure. A lot of people are in relationships because they can't stand being alone or their own company. It's neediness that drives them to seek out someone else. Not a genuine desire or liking for the other person. It's only failure if you think the destination in life is to be partnered.

 

 

Thanks for confirmimg, Buddhist.

 

 

Some of my friends go from one relationship to another. They have not been single fo any length of time. Once they have finished with someone I ve seen some people get into a new relationship within the next couple of weeks.

 

 

They cant seem to be alone for any amount of time.

[elaine567]

Thanks for confirmimg, Buddhist.

 

Some of my friends go from one relationship to another. They have not been single fo any length of time. Once they have finished with someone I ve seen some people get into a new relationship within the next couple of weeks.

They cant seem to be alone for any amount of time.

 

When younger I feel people need to gain experience so that they have a good idea of what works and what doesn't. Jumping from one relationship straight into another is the norm. Loads of options too.

Sitting at home contemplating navels may need to be done when older, but passing by experiences, when they are so easily gained, is not good.

[Gr8fuln2020]

Well, the obvious is that IT CAN BE A SIGN OF 'SOCIAL FAILURE', of course. If what you mean is whether not having a SO COULD be a sign of one's inability to connect socially, then that can also be the case. People who have a tough time connecting, get into fewer (or none in rare circumstances) relationships (romantic).

 

So, it is not NECESSARILLY a sign of social failure, but it could be.

[Gloria25]

Signifcant Other.

 

No it's not failure. A lot of people are in relationships because they can't stand being alone or their own company. It's neediness that drives them to seek out someone else. Not a genuine desire or liking for the other person. It's only failure if you think the destination in life is to be partnered.

 

Very well said...on point!!!

 

Just wanna add that although it's not a failure, the brood will make you feel like you're an outcast when you're not "one of us" - while a lot of them are so miserable with their SOs.

[xxoo]

Does this tie into the person's status and ego? Because I've heard of people who are in a relationship for the sake of having someone.

 

Ego, sometimes yes....but this just depends on the person. Many people are perfectly content to be single, but some aren't, and those are the types to bounce constantly from one relationship to another.

 

Status...in some ways yes. For example, when is the last time we've had an unmarried Presidential nominee? For the masses, much less so. Pretty much, nobody cares.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Very well said...on point!!!

 

Just wanna add that although it's not a failure, the brood will make you feel like you're an outcast when you're not "one of us" - while a lot of them are so miserable with their SOs.

 

That's why I don't believe in the concept of society. I believe in the concept of the individual. I am an individual with my own mind, my own preferences and my own ambitions and goals in life.

 

If people who subscribe to a nonsensical concept like society choose to "out cast" me because I choose to be single and limit my interactions with women because I am too self absorbed in my self-improvement program then so be it. The chances are I won't be in the companionship of people who think I am beneath them and treat me with contempt.

[Kovalchoke]

So we've all heard of the term monkey branching. Is it safe to say people that monkey branch are insecure and in short, trouble?

[Fishfingersareyummy]

So we've all heard of the term monkey branching. Is it safe to say people that monkey branch are insecure and in short, trouble?

 

Is that the same as relationship hopping?

[Kovalchoke]

Is that the same as relationship hopping?

 

Yes. Lining up a replacement/overlapping

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Yes. Lining up a replacement/overlapping

 

Yes I think it's a sign of low self-esteem. I know a 20 year old woman who is like this. She is constantly in and out of relationships and she falls really easily. Apparently she really liked me after one conversation. I mean come on it was one conversation that lasted for ten minutes (if that).