Pit92 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Quick backround: broke up with my ex of 4months 3 weeks ago because i found many signs throughout the relationship she wasnt over her ex (bringing him up, asking if she can text him for old pictures, checking his ex facebook and his new gf facebokk meanwhile she doesnt have one). The breakup was extremely horrible as we were both drunk and stupid things were said. Would have much rathered broke up while sober but i felt so uncomfortable in the relationship for a while i took the chance when i was drunk. So since then she has texted me twice, first time was a week in texting me an inside joke( i ignored), 2 weeks after breakup she asked for her stuff back( i ignored again but texted a mutual friend to just give her stuff back). Then 2.5 weeks after breakup was when she commented something to start drama on one of my instagram pictures while we dont follow eachother. For some reason i keep getting an urge to text her. Mainly because we havent a spoke to eachother since that breakup. Just want to talk to her civilly since the last time we did was alot of yelling the time of the break up. Really not sure what to do ? Any opinions, thank you. 1
Fatty23 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 What do you want to talk about exactly? Do you want to try to get back together? You already know what went wrong. It wasn't you being drunk it was her sort-of-obsession with her ex. They say drunk words are sober thoughts. So you were gonna do it either way. If you apologize for the way you acted it's not gonna change the fact that you're broken up. I think if anything it might send mixed signals. It sounds like this girl wasn't ready to be in a relationship. If you said something hurtful like made fun of her appearance or something like that then you should apologize. Otherwise just let time heal both of your wounds. Give yourself more time to realize other issues you didn't notice and you'll be glad you made the decision you did. Good luck to you! And by the way, you deserve a girl who is obsessed with YOU not someone else! 1
aloneinaz Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 You know you shouldn't contact her again. You only made 4 months before breaking up the first time? What would change the second time? Nothing.. Four months is a very short R/S. Get back in the dating arena and find someone you can get along with. 1
Author Pit92 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 Yea thats exactly how i feel. Stupid me started dating her a week after her and her first boyfriend of 2 years broke up. Their relationship was horrible and barely spent time together or did anything. Anytime they went out they werent near eachother otherwise they argued, so the way it seemed she was out of the relationship way before it ended. I found out from a mutal fround of ours a momth in to the relationship she was texting her saying how she still loves him and she wouldnt be able to get back with him since he was with someone else. After that i constantly opened up to her how it made me uncomfortable with her bringing him up and she still did which made me hurt even more But anytime we spent together (which was basically every single day) she was never hot and cold and was all about me. She always wanted to be with me and would never want to go out or do anything without me there. Always constantly told me she loved me and assured me she was completely over her ex and was not hurt anymore. This was after i found out about those texts. But yea texting her does seem dumb. Kind of just want to text her for closure as we never actually had a civil conversation ever since the breakup. Just wanted to talk to her about the relationship and be on good terms instead of the ad terms we are on now. Every single person i know never approved of this relationship and always told me i should leave. I just dont know why i want someone that i KNOW isnt good for me whatsoever at all. 1
Author Pit92 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 You know you shouldn't contact her again. You only made 4 months before breaking up the first time? What would change the second time? Nothing.. Four months is a very short R/S. Get back in the dating arena and find someone you can get along with. Yea definitely a short relationship, but we spent everyday together which was definitely a bas idea. But being everyday made us connect alot faster and made the relationship seem alot longer then what it was. 1
Fatty23 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 I think you want her because you want what you can't have. I'm sorry to say but I think you were a rebound. It sounds like she tried to reassure you that you weren't so you wouldn't leave so she wouldn't have to face her loneliness. I know it sucks but people suck! Better to find out now rather than later on when you've invested a lot more. I think I would have ended things right when I found out about the text from the friend. Find someone without baggage. She seems like drama from the start. After time you'll be glad it ended. 1
Author Pit92 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 (edited) I think you want her because you want what you can't have. I'm sorry to say but I think you were a rebound. It sounds like she tried to reassure you that you weren't so you wouldn't leave so she wouldn't have to face her loneliness. I know it sucks but people suck! Better to find out now rather than later on when you've invested a lot more. I think I would have ended things right when I found out about the text from the friend. Find someone without baggage. She seems like drama from the start. After time you'll be glad it ended. 100% agree with that. As soon as we brokeup she started talking to someone else. She definitely is the type that cant be alone thats the reason why she most likely used me. But hey im sure she did have feelings for me but she was still hung on the ex. It just feels so much better to vent on this then to hold it in. Writing it out make things alot more clearer to me compared to my thoughts that im thinking. And thats why i feel like she texted me a few times after the breakup just for an ego boost and to see if she still has me to make herself feel better. Thats the exact reason why i ignored even though i knew it was hard Edited October 14, 2016 by Pit92 2
Fatty23 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Good for you! She'll realize she let a good guy go by being hung up on someone she couldn't have anymore. 1
Satu Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 When all the words have been said, there are no more words to be said.
Satu Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 snip Yea thats exactly how i feel. *Stupid me started dating her a week after her and her first boyfriend of 2 years broke up. *It was doomed from the start because of that. Put it on your list of actions never to be repeated. Take care.
lolablue17 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Obviously it bothers you, so why not meeting her to get it out of your system? It's not a crime to call her and set a civil meeting.
Author Pit92 Posted October 15, 2016 Author Posted October 15, 2016 Obviously it bothers you, so why not meeting her to get it out of your system? It's not a crime to call her and set a civil meeting. Shes been like bad mouthing me since we roke up telling everyone i have priblems and stuff because of the crazy breakup. Meanwhile i treated her nothing but like a princess, literally did everything for her. The point where even all of her friends were saying they were jealous and wish they could find a guy like me. I guess she just misses being treated like **** by her ex. She even told me she did more things with me in 2 weeks then she did in 2 years of her whole relationship with him
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