marxman2015 Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 This is my previous thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/598067-i-had-5-great-dates-her-now-things-seem-so-odd#post7082043 Summary of the previous thread: We had 5 great dates, then she got busy for 1 month, then we went out again, it was after my birthday. So this is how the 6th date went: She came to the area I work at, first we had dinner. She was really ill, she kept coughing and look worn down ( she told me beforehand that she was sick but still came out ). Then she brought me my birthday gift (some nice chocolates). She later talks about how she always got sick these months and ask why, I jokingly tell her that could it be karma? She suddenly look upset and hurt and said "How could you say such thing about me...?" I immediately told her I was joking. Later I ask her if she wanna go to an amusement park to celebrate halloween, she told me "I have to see if I have time", then the conversation goes down hill, she seem tired and disinterested, and then I ask her what should I get her for birthday in return, she said "It's okay, you dont have to get me anything". I felt very depressed, feeling like it was done. I dont have a mood anymore, I just told her lets check out and go for a walk. She told me "sure, but I have to go after the walk",I felt almost hopeless. While we walk on the street, she kept bumping onto my arms, I thought "Fxxk it, I screw it all and take extreme actions, at least I have tried my best that way". Then I kept myself in an extremely playful manner, make jokes about EVERYTHING, make her laugh, she seem to become upbeat. Seeing that, I finally initiate body contact with her (which I didnt for the past 5 dates), I place my arm around her shoulder while we walk, and ask her to do the same, she followed. We walk inside the mall, and I kept making her laugh, we walk into stores and troll around, she looks happy and excited, and kept on hitting me and commenting how silly i am. We got on the bus, she got tired and wanted to sleep on the bus, I told her she could use my shoulder, she then sleep on my shoulder, we then held hands finally, she kept smiling and didnt really sleep, I keep on saying stupid things, and she keep laughing. Her mum called her during that time to ask her when she go back. Later, a guy called her and she respond "I am heading back home". (I later checked that it was a guy who she went hiking with during that month) Later, we got off the bus, then we held hands while walking her back to her home. Note: In my culture, holding hands literally mean going into an exclusive relationship. The next day, I text her to ask her which day she is free, she said she need to see which day she is free. then we text and flirt and she respond immediately. I dont get it, holding hands in my culture literally means going official...
JewelD Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 What culture is this? Regardless, you're obviously not official. If you want to be, then talk to her about it. Is she even part of the same culture as you? Because that hand holding obviously didn't equal a relationship status to her.
Author marxman2015 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 What culture is this? Regardless, you're obviously not official. If you want to be, then talk to her about it. Is she even part of the same culture as you? Because that hand holding obviously didn't equal a relationship status to her. Yes she is in the same culture as mine.
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