gorf Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 ask her how she would feel if this situation were you and your ex. Ask her if she would be comfortable with it and if not, why? She will start to see. If she still wants him over, then that tells you exactly what is going on. On the other hand, if she says she would be fine with it, then tell her she needs to find someone comfortable with an open relationship. This is crossing the line by far. This man presumably she developed feelings for in the past (still has) he has seen her naked may be felt her insides. Now he is back and wants to stay over.. for a week. And she is dating someone else, or so she says. This is all wrong. For all you know, she is telling him you and her are really more of just good friends, so its fine if he wants to come over. Honestly.. that's exactly the message I would be getting if I were that ex, and she had the nerve to even so much as ask me if this would be ok.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 Are you sure she is actually divorced from this guy? Either way, you two are over. She's not as into you as she is into him, and that's all you need to know.
Raena Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 I'm sitting here shaking my head in disbelief. I mean, I've stayed friends with exes after splitting up, even stayed friends with my exhusband for several years after we divorced. But I would have NEVER thought to ask my significant other to allow me to spend time with an ex alone like this. Have lunch once in awhile, maybe. Chat on the phone once in a blue moon, possibly. But to go on vacations alone? To spend a week alone together while you have to pack up and go stay somewhere else? To not even tell the ex that she's dating someone? No, No and NO. I hope you really are walking away from this because this situation is just beyond abnormal.
l8estnews Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 The level of naivety in this situation is extremely ridiculous. Kick her to the curb and move on.
Ami1uwant Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 Ex-husband. When they were together, they had a rented house and lived there. Now he still lives there. Sometimes she complains that she can't go and stay with him at her old house. Also, when we had the discussion about him coming over, she was also upset because she said she wants to be able to travel with him from time to time, going on holidays and all of that (just with him, I mean)... when I told her it was the craziest thing I've heard, she looked shocked and said "so... I can't travel with him anymore?". Like I was doing something bad. I'm the first to defend the ability of a man and woman to be friends, or even ex's to be friends...... But there is a line and she has long stepped over it. Going on a vacation together is what BF/gf do. Her not even letting him know you exists and on top of it, having you move out when he comes. She misses him.....even more so if they were married. Why did they even divorce? Get a girl on the side and see how she reacts....
Toodaloo Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 I'm the first to defend the ability of a man and woman to be friends, or even ex's to be friends...... But there is a line and she has long stepped over it. She didn't step over it. She buldozed over it, while waving pom poms in the air, singing the Muppets theme tune, dressed as a pirate... 5
Omei Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 I would say "okay" pack up your stuff go back to the place your paying for and cut her off cold turkey, forever. She wants to be with her ex ? Fine she don't even deserve a goodbye or a relationship ending just pack up and never answer or see her again. She's outrageously disrespectful.
lil hoodlum Posted October 12, 2016 Posted October 12, 2016 WOW! Is all I can say! The nerve of this woman. Tell you what, make the move out permanent. Leave something behind on "accident". Show up at her place when the both of them are there and introduce yourself as her boyfriend of one year. Let the chips fall where they land. 1
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