What's one gender role that you cannot come to terms with?

[road]

Like my brother always said...I can cook and clean, but if there a woman around to do it, I don't.

 

Smart man your brother.

[road]

What gender role can not handle?

 

 

Domestic Engineering, also known as Woman's Work.

 

 

Used to like cooking and baking though do not have the energy to do that stuff no more. If my wife did not make dinner I would make a sandwich first before I would grab a pan.

[GorillaTheater]

I love to cook. Especially if it involves fire.

[smackie9]

I love to cook. Especially if it involves fire.

I love grilling myself.....in the winter I'll dust the snow off the BBQ to fire it up lol.

[Furious]

I think it's sexy when a man cooks. I love to cook too and get giddy when my fridge is full.

 

I'm the spider capturer, the gardner and the financial investor, first aid kit and holiday packer.

 

I love watching a man with a newborn in his arms. I love men who are gentle and helpful with seniors. I love men who are affectionate and tell their kids I love you.

[Toodaloo]

I don't think its just sexy I think it also displays confidence and competence which are also very sexy when men do traditionally "female" tasks.

 

I guess it must be the same for men when women do as well. Hence why you get all those glamour shots of women dressed as mechanics etc!

 

BBQ - thats one for the guys. I never touch it except to clean it and check there is enough gas in the bottle!!!

[jen1447]

I don't think its just sexy I think it also displays confidence and competence which are also very sexy when men do traditionally "female" tasks.

 

So that's why I always get aroused when I see BF doing the dishes ....good to know!

[Toodaloo]

So that's why I always get aroused when I see BF doing the dishes ....good to know!

 

Make him do it while wearing a pink fluffy pinny and then you will know what "turned on" really is!!!

[Shining One]

BBQ - thats one for the guys. I never touch it except to clean it and check there is enough gas in the bottle!!!

While I consider myself pretty good with the grill, I dated a woman from Argentina who made grilling an art form. She would make these special arrangements of wood/charcoal depending on what she was cooking. She also duel-wielded two sets of tongs; one to flip the meat and one to shift coals/wood. I miss her chimichurri chicken.

[Got it]

I do not ascribe to gender roles so I guess I would say that I cannot come to terms with any of them. I think we should pick the skills/tasks that best fit our personalities, desires, interests, etc. Not because someone has decided that x gender does x task.

[preraph]

When I moved from my home state to Texas, a big city, I found the men here that I was coming into contact with were largely useless as mechanics or handymen, whereas where I came from, nearly all men knew how to do a thing or two with their car engine and knew how to do handy things. I knew more than them.

 

I remember when I first realized how helpless everyone was, I was working at a record store in the '70s and someone locked themself out of their car. I waited for some of the guys to speak up and go help them, and was genuinely puzzled because they never did. They were all just, like, Oh, that's too bad. So I found a hanger, which, as everyone in my old state knows is how you opened a car door back on those old models, and went and opened the door for the guy. When I came back into the store, everyone asked me if I'd ever been arrested for stealing cars, and they were serious. They assumed that because I knew this one simple thing, I must be a car thief. Pathetic!

[MrDuck]

I don't think its just sexy I think it also displays confidence and competence which are also very sexy when men do traditionally "female" tasks.

 

I guess it must be the same for men when women do as well. Hence why you get all those glamour shots of women dressed as mechanics etc!

 

Completely agree! My gf doesnt need me to do "traditional male" tasks for her, she's got it handled, and thats hot as hell! She looks sexy when shes got her concentrating face on while she's hammering in a nail or something haha

 

 

 

I dont really buy into defined gender roles or that! ...I do the cooking, because I like cooking. She tidies, because she's a neat freak and 'apparently' I'm messy. I mow the grass and clean the cars ...but she gets up in the night if she thinks she hears an axe murderer in the kitchen (admittedly because im a deep sleeper, I dont normally wake up until shes climbing back into bed with a baseball bat )

[MuddyFootprints]

Peace keeper and referee. Someone else can do that job for a while.

[basil67]

Men proposing marriage. I just can't understand why in this day and age, it's still apparently not acceptable for a woman to propose marriage.

 

And if he doesn't want to get married yet, give her a straight answer....just as a woman would for a man if he proposed.

[Gloria25]

I don't have a problem with a man cooking, cleaning, and/or doing his laundry...

 

Actually, my 26 yr old guy? Him being able to cook and do his own laundry is something I liked about him.

 

But, if a guy has a place more immaculate than mine (and he doesn't have a maid) and/or is obsessed with baking a creme brulee? Then, I'm sorry...total turn off.

 

I don't have an issue with people's expectations of gender roles mixing - but it depends on "why" and "how".

 

For example, I don't expect a man to be "Mr. Mom", but I think it's ok that he watches/cares for his kids. I mean, I've seen/heard of SAHW/SAHM literally dump the kids in their husband's hands after he comes home from a hard day of work cuz their "attitude" is, "HERE, YOUR TURN"...when a better approach would be, 'Hi honey, I'm exhausted and could use ten minutes to myself. Can you watch the kids while I get a break?'

 

Another example? Cooking? The men in my family cook better than the women. I enjoy it when my brother invites us over sometimes and when my nephew sends me pics of stuff he cooks. But, on the regular? I, being the woman of the house will handle the cooking. Now, if both my husband and I agree to work, then he's gonna have to understand that there's gonna be days that I'm gonna come home too tired to cook and have no problem with him doing something on those days. My mum and I? We both work, but I put in the effort to cook, and when she has a day off, she'll cook on that day. In other words, I make time to cook.

 

So, again, I'm ok with a man cooking, cleaning, etc...but, when he starts doing it to the extent and/or with the expectation of being the "woman" in the RL, I'm turned off.

 

I'm sorry, but people say they don't care about roles, but biology sneaks up on us. I mean, I was just listening to the Wiener crap again. His wife is busy "being the man" and working, while he's at home acting the fool. When you reverse the roles, usually nothing good comes from it. Now, some women want weak men and some men want bossy women...well, they are the exception - not the norm.

[blackcat777]

Giving birth.

[MuddyFootprints]

Giving birth was easier than growing an adult.

[Got it]

I don't have a problem with a man cooking, cleaning, and/or doing his laundry...

 

Actually, my 26 yr old guy? Him being able to cook and do his own laundry is something I liked about him.

 

But, if a guy has a place more immaculate than mine (and he doesn't have a maid) and/or is obsessed with baking a creme brulee? Then, I'm sorry...total turn off.

 

I don't have an issue with people's expectations of gender roles mixing - but it depends on "why" and "how".

 

For example, I don't expect a man to be "Mr. Mom", but I think it's ok that he watches/cares for his kids. I mean, I've seen/heard of SAHW/SAHM literally dump the kids in their husband's hands after he comes home from a hard day of work cuz their "attitude" is, "HERE, YOUR TURN"...when a better approach would be, 'Hi honey, I'm exhausted and could use ten minutes to myself. Can you watch the kids while I get a break?'

 

Another example? Cooking? The men in my family cook better than the women. I enjoy it when my brother invites us over sometimes and when my nephew sends me pics of stuff he cooks. But, on the regular? I, being the woman of the house will handle the cooking. Now, if both my husband and I agree to work, then he's gonna have to understand that there's gonna be days that I'm gonna come home too tired to cook and have no problem with him doing something on those days. My mum and I? We both work, but I put in the effort to cook, and when she has a day off, she'll cook on that day. In other words, I make time to cook.

 

So, again, I'm ok with a man cooking, cleaning, etc...but, when he starts doing it to the extent and/or with the expectation of being the "woman" in the RL, I'm turned off.

 

I'm sorry, but people say they don't care about roles, but biology sneaks up on us. I mean, I was just listening to the Wiener crap again. His wife is busy "being the man" and working, while he's at home acting the fool. When you reverse the roles, usually nothing good comes from it. Now, some women want weak men and some men want bossy women...well, they are the exception - not the norm.

 

Yeeaaahhhh, Wiener was "acting the fool" when he was busy "being the man". Having time on his hands did not introduce the inclination to send selfies.

[Gloria25]

Yeeaaahhhh, Wiener was "acting the fool" when he was busy "being the man". Having time on his hands did not introduce the inclination to send selfies.

 

Exactly, he was a weak person from day one.

 

See, a lot of these modern women marry "pets" and when they act like a dog, they are surprised.

 

A strong, secure, and responsible man wouldn't have time for the crap he did, would've kept his job, and she'd never have to go out and work. But women like her don't want strong men.

 

But what do I know...

[Shining One]

One role I've never been able to come to terms with is one gender being "the prize". I was born into a culture in which men are the prize. Male children are valued considerably more than female children. Women have to meet all sorts of standards to be "worthy" of a "good" man. Here in America, many women are raised to believe they are the prize. The man must be and do various things to win her over. I reject the notion that anyone, male or female, is the prize. The prize is a mutually fulfilling relationship. The people in it are replaceable.

[Got it]

Exactly, he was a weak person from day one.

 

See, a lot of these modern women marry "pets" and when they act like a dog, they are surprised.

 

A strong, secure, and responsible man wouldn't have time for the crap he did, would've kept his job, and she'd never have to go out and work. But women like her don't want strong men.

 

But what do I know...

 

How do you know? You have no idea what they were like when they were dating do you? And some how you are blaming her for his behavior???

 

And I am still boggled how her working means she had to and that it is an issue. They both have careers. Worlds apart from jobs. And good for her, she has added a lot more value to society than he has.

[Gaeta]

 

I hate that he judged the neighbors so much simply because they were not conforming to gender roles.

 

I enjoy physical work, "labor", working on cars, operating tools, and yes, mowing the lawn, trimming the trees etc.

 

I grew up in the country. I learned how to swing an ax to chop a cord of wood, to bring in the hay, to dig drainage ditches, and drive a front loader.

 

It makes me feel strong and capable that I can do these "man" things - and further I find physical work relaxing, a nice get away from my high pressure finical district job.

 

In addition, physical work like this won't so much make you prone to injury, rather it will make you resistant to it as using your body makes it strong.

 

So while he saw a lazy husband, I see a capable women.

 

I choose to have a man in my life, I certainly don't NEED one.

 

I was born and raised on a farm by a family of hunters. I am not afraid of dirtying my hands, and can do any type of physical work.

 

We were asked if we are still hung up on some of the old gender roles. I admitted I am hung up on the lawn mover thing. I didn't think I'd be judge for it. I thought this was a thread to admit little hung ups and laugh at it.

[GemmaUK]

I don't adhere to gender roles and my partners haven't either.

We've always split chores pretty much down the middle except for instances where it depended on who has time.

The one thing I would never ever do is ironing - I never iron and I buy stuff that doesn't need ironing.

I shared a place years ago with a woman who ironed her bras - really??!! Lol!