Iam54heis58 Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 I need a guys opinion on this... So been dating a great guy of just over a month. We see each other 2-3 times a week steady now. He was out west and called me every night which was a surprise to me. I didn't expect it to hear from him every night. I thought it was very sweet of him. So last night on a phone call, I expressed to him that it surprised me (that he called while away) and that it meant a lot to me and I thanked him. So his reply was "oh really, (kinda of laughing) that's good because it won't happen again." WHAT?? I am a rational person but I didn't get the sense that he was joking around. So my question is by me saying I was surprised did I maybe somehow insult him as if "well of course I'd call you..." I am going to ask him directly but thought I'd see what you guys thought. We are both in our 50's and have not expressed to each other a committed relationship...
Conviction Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 That certainly wouldn't have insulted me. Hopefully he was joking by saying "it won't happen again", if not, he's an A** for saying that. (Notice I capitalized the A there).
Marc878 Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 Nope, it was a nice compliment. It was probably a joke on his part. He must feel comfortable with you.
smackie9 Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 I didn't see anything to be insulting....he was being sarcastic in his response and I bet he was grinning from ear to ear.
DoingItWell11 Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 If he was being sarcastic, then I'm dating a guy like this too! it's very hard for me to decipher at times.... He knows this and he really likes to get my goat with it! I would say he's just joking... bc if he's calling you that often he obviously likes you. There was nothing wrong with what you said and it was a great compliment. He just has an odd sense of humor i think.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 No insult. But it never ceases to amaze me just how people respond thinking they're being funny or sarcastic. His response, imho, was just irrational.
deep_night Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 he may have been joking, i agree, but i think many 'serious' things are said in the form of a joke... id say trust your gut! i wouldnt be too invested in him.
basil67 Posted September 20, 2016 Posted September 20, 2016 I'm also going to bet that he was being sarcastic. However, only time will tell if he meant it otherwise. Have you got any reason to believe he was being serious?
Ami1uwant Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 he may have been joking, i agree, but i think many 'serious' things are said in the form of a joke... id say trust your gut! i wouldnt be too invested in him. Sigh...wonder why.... To OP from a guy...he was joking around. Don't over think this.
deep_night Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Sigh...wonder why.... because real life experience!
Toodaloo Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 My take is that you need to have the exclusive talk and step it up. I think he was pleased as punch and his sarcastic remark was because he didn't want to go all gushy. Personally when he said that I would have responded that it better happen again because its knowing that he cares that makes me hot for him... But thats me, and I have skin thicker than a rhino, can take rejection and bounce back and I don't tend to care too much what people think of me so I blurt stuff out anyway... But you need to have that talk.
eightytwenty Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 My guy always does things like this. We live together been with each ither for a bit... every time I get "emotional" he comes up with a smarta$$ answer. And I'm pretty sure your guy is doing the same thing
smackie9 Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Gosh why does everyone have to be so damn sensitive these days..... 1
Author Iam54heis58 Posted September 21, 2016 Author Posted September 21, 2016 Thanks everyone for your replies. I ended up calling his good friend who set us up in the first place and he said it was probably a bad joke...then asked me if I got a sense he felt obligated to call me? If he did, it wasn't by me. He knows I am comfortable doing my own thing. I'll see what happens next... Thanks again... I'll let you know the outcome.
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