Boyfriend got mad for hanging out with a group of people that one guy was in.

[hoffmantoria]

Yesterday, I went to my sisters friends 16th birthday party. I hang out with her friends sometimes, because they are all really nice and supporting and I just enjoy hanging out with them. At the party, there were a couple guys. 3 to be exact. I didn't interact much with them, because I didn't know them that well. We all had the friends mom, take a picture of us as a group and of course people posted it onto instagram and facebook.

 

My boyfriend is 18 and I just turned 21. We have been dating for a while, but have had an unsteady relationship. I never cheated on him and have always been loyal. Whenever we broke up, he got with girls and did stuff like that.

 

I told him after the party, that I hung out with my sisters friends and he seemed okay. But today, he saw the picture on instagram, and texted me "eww, you hung out with that guy???" and I responded, "no, I hung out with a couple of my sisters friends, he was there, but I didn't talk to him". And all he responded saying was "mhmm". Now he is just texting me one word answers.....

 

He has done this before, and I don't understand why. I didn't even talk to the guy. My boyfriend hangs out with friends that are girls all the time, and I never give him any problems about it. He knows I've been faithful, but every time I go out and have a life, he finds something to be mad about...like this guy that I didn't even talk to.

 

I have explained several times that I am loyal, everytime he accused me of being a cheater or something. We talked so many times before that we can be comfortable about eachother hanging out with opposite genders cause we trust eachother....but then he does this.

 

What should I do? I hate when he does this to me. And also if you guys have an opinions on why he is doing this?

Thanks

[ExpatInItaly]

Why does he do this? Because he's an immature, insecure, and manipulative tool.

 

What should you do? You should end it. It sounds like this happens rather frequently, and you said "whenever" you broke up he found other girls, which indicates this isn't a solid relationship. There shouldn't be that many break-ups.

 

Cut your losses and move on. He isn't worth pandering to. He's got a lot of growing up to do.

[Zahara]

He's insecure, controlling and passive aggressive. Hopefully his one word answers will be the best passive aggressive way to punish you so that you learn not to cross his boundaries. I bet in time you'll be walking on eggshells, knowing not to do things that cross him because you know the repercussions will be the cold treatment.

 

Why are you even with a guy that runs off with other women the moment your relationship is on the rocks? Plus, the fact that you're breaking up often is already a sign that it's broken.

[HumanMachine]

Let's not forget that this guy is 18..

[kgcolonel]

Let's not forget that this guy is 18..

 

Yep....he's 18....no further explanation needed...brain hasn't matured yet.

[basil67]

Why do you stay in a relationship which is so unstable? Good relationships are calm and easy.

 

You can do better.

[CarrieT]

You are 21 and dating an 18-year old who is acting like a 14-year old.

 

Seriously - you can do better...

[hoffmantoria]

My boyfriend knows I am going on vacation with my sister and my dad in about a week. He didn't seem to happy about it and told me he doesn't want me to go without him...I'm honestly pretty excited to go to California. I have never been anywhere that far. Everything I talk about it, he will make these snarky comments. Today he texted me out of nowhere saying "you are gonna have more fun then me" and "whatever, I don't care"...he keeps saying it over and over. He is angry at me because my family takes me on a lot of vacations. He calls me rich...even though my dad works very hard just for us to afford a couple vacations. It's not my fault my family took me on vacations and his didn't take him much. he obviously does care. I wish he would talk instead of saying "whatever"

 

I even invited him on vacation with my sister last week. We all went for 3 days. The whole time he complained and kind of dragged us down....he states he didn't have enough money for the vacation and he shouldn't have came. I was always trying to make him feel better, but most of the time he kept moping and insulting me and calling me names when I was wearing a swimsuite that made me feel insecure and sad. He didn't enjoy the vacation, and that's what made me sad. I was constantly trying to make it good for him. Even my sister said it'd be better without him because he just kept making comments under his breathe, about us going to that location for vacation a lot in the past. And calling me a "sl*ut" for wearing a swimsuite.

 

I wish he supported me and was happy for me going on vacation. I've honestly been thinking really hard about leaving him because he never seems to be happy and only seems to care for himself....he is going to california in the spring with his friends and I support him and am excited for him to go....I just feel wrong for going on vacation with my family because of him...how do u deal with this? I really love him. He can be really sweet at times, but extremely mean and rude to me at other times.

 

He always said "ohh you would have a better time without me...even though I was trying extra hard to make him happy on that vacation he went on

Edited August 3, 2016 by hoffmantoria

[MidwestUSA]

Did you not care for the advice you received already? You're too young for this, move on from this kid.

 

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