CosmoKitty Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 There's this guy at work who is easy to joke around with and I've developed a bit of a crush on him. He's really friendly and I don't know if he's like that with everyone or he's especially friendly because he likes me. I always seem to find myself in the kind of situation where he happens to be nearby when I look up and we make eye contact - of course, now I'm afraid it IS just coincidence and he thinks I'm creepy. We work in different departments (retail) so if I happen to be shopping in his area, it's like he goes out of his way to help me, but then again, he might just be that kind of guy AND he IS management, so they have to be helpful. Once, he even went out of his way to high-five me, though I think I saw him do that to another coworker. Our conversations are usually short and random; they never really go anywhere. So how do I figure out if he's interested? How do I show that I'm interested? Thanks in advance!
Grapesofwrath Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 How old are the two of you? Any risk to you by getting involved with someone at work? Would there be risk for him? If not, then maybe you have a friend in common who can find out if he's involved with anyone? If you want to know if he's interested, you'll need to chat him up a bit more and flirt with him a bit, assuming that won't create problems for you at work. If it will, then just let this one go by. No need to jeopardize your work situation. 1
Lona.loba Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 From his actions and words Help with mine ? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/585768-friends-not-couple
Author CosmoKitty Posted June 25, 2016 Author Posted June 25, 2016 We're both in our mid to late 20s and honestly I don't think it would be an issue if we kept it under wraps. He's not my immediate manager and in a store with 200+ employees, people tend to date each other. I'll keep a sharp eye out and see how he interacts, but I'm pretty dense when it comes to this stuff and extremely shy and socially awkward.
katiegrl Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 From his actions and words Help with mine ? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/585768-friends-not-couple What, the responses you received on your thread weren't clear enough?
katiegrl Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 (edited) There's this guy at work who is easy to joke around with and I've developed a bit of a crush on him. He's really friendly and I don't know if he's like that with everyone or he's especially friendly because he likes me. I always seem to find myself in the kind of situation where he happens to be nearby when I look up and we make eye contact - of course, now I'm afraid it IS just coincidence and he thinks I'm creepy. We work in different departments (retail) so if I happen to be shopping in his area, it's like he goes out of his way to help me, but then again, he might just be that kind of guy AND he IS management, so they have to be helpful. Once, he even went out of his way to high-five me, though I think I saw him do that to another coworker. Our conversations are usually short and random; they never really go anywhere. So how do I figure out if he's interested? How do I show that I'm interested? Thanks in advance! CosmoK.... it sounds to me like he is just very friendly with everyone. That said, if you are really confused about it....casually ask him for lunch and see what he says. If he says yes, then while at lunch flirt with him a little. This will let him know you are interested and if he is interested too... he will ask you out. If not, then you're just one of the many people he works with, and he's just a very friendly guy. And please don't read anything into a high-five. In fact, high-fiving is something friends would do.... a man who is romantically interested in a girl is not gonna high-five her..... high-fiving is what buddies do. Trust me on that one! Edited June 25, 2016 by katiegrl
Author CosmoKitty Posted June 25, 2016 Author Posted June 25, 2016 Haha, yeah, I thought the high five was odd. But he almost RAN up to me to do it, so I thought it was a really awkward flirtation. But it's probably just an awkward sign of friendship. Thanks for the input! 1
Buddhist Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 So how do I figure out if he's interested? How do I show that I'm interested? Thanks in advance! While you are chatting to him gaze down and see if he's sporting some wood. If you see wood then lightly touch him on the arm when you say goodbye, and let your hand trail off his sleeve slowly. 1
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