elaine567 Posted July 22, 2016 Posted July 22, 2016 In the UK she does not have to live there to have a claim. She can just be on the mortgage/ title.. She is on the mortgage/title so she has every right to live there too. He can only exclude her legally if he gets an occupation order, otherwise she can come and go as she pleases, it is not his property any more than it is solely hers.. I know it isn't "fair", but he either takes steps to legally exclude her, if that is indeed possible, or he has to concede that he cannot call the shots here. I guess she is coming home to be able to see her son.
Author Andrew42 Posted July 22, 2016 Author Posted July 22, 2016 I've called the police to report an incident as I don't want any allegations making against me. 1
Author Andrew42 Posted July 22, 2016 Author Posted July 22, 2016 Far from coming home to see her son, the lad is here as it's the school holidays and where's his mother???? Nowhere to be seen, shes told him she's only sleeping here
tinkerbell16 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Far from coming home to see her son, the lad is here as it's the school holidays and where's his mother???? Nowhere to be seen, shes told him she's only sleeping here Mine left his daughter and me and went MIA for months... too busy with AP sucking up ego kibbles takes time and energy when it was over he started back around... trying to buy back his daughters trust, etc friggin train wreck
Author Andrew42 Posted July 23, 2016 Author Posted July 23, 2016 I was arrested last night for an alleged offence, spent the last 20 hours in police custody.
elaine567 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Stop winding her up, why did you call the police yesterday in the first place?
Mittens Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 I was arrested last night for an alleged offence, spent the last 20 hours in police custody. What was the alleged offence? Your wife now has good grounds to get a occupation order excluding you from the house. I would see if it is still possible to get the rental property. 1
Author Andrew42 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 She's gone to court to try and get an injunction to keep me away from the house
ladydesigner Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 She's gone to court to try and get an injunction to keep me away from the house man when I read stories like yours I wonder where the justice is. Hang in there! You will see the light at the end of this dreaded experience. You deserve so much more! I hope in the end you and your son find peace of mind and a new and happy life together! I don't know much about D (might be going down that path myself) can you reverse an injunction? or Dispute it?
Author Andrew42 Posted July 28, 2016 Author Posted July 28, 2016 Looking back at the last year, the woman I loved and cared for has gone and I'm now faces with a cold cold woman
elaine567 Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 Looking back at the last year, the woman I loved and cared for has gone and I'm now faces with a cold cold woman Yes. You however walked right into her hands. You threw a pregnant woman twice out of her own home, despite knowing you had no authority to do that. The police got involved and you spent time in police custody. I get you are angry, frustrated and upset, but you cut off your own nose to spite your face. She is now taking advantage and she will probably now be successful in getting an occupation order, whereas before all this drama, she wouldn't have been. YOU from being in a position of power, are now probably out on your ear and your son will probably want to stay at home with his mother, rather than go to a rented place with you. You need to take the heat out of the situation and start thinking rationally and sensibly, else she is going to take you to the cleaners here. Remember she is miles ahead of you, do not let her wind you up and lose focus. YOU will need all your wits about you. 4
ladydesigner Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 Yes. You however walked right into her hands. You threw a pregnant woman twice out of her own home, despite knowing you had no authority to do that. The police got involved and you spent time in police custody. I get you are angry, frustrated and upset, but you cut off your own nose to spite your face. She is now taking advantage and she will probably now be successful in getting an occupation order, whereas before all this drama, she wouldn't have been. YOU from being in a position of power, are now probably out on your ear and your son will probably want to stay at home with his mother, rather than go to a rented place with you. You need to take the heat out of the situation and start thinking rationally and sensibly, else she is going to take you to the cleaners here. Remember she is miles ahead of you, do not let her wind you up and lose focus. YOU will need all your wits about you. ^^^ Keep remembering this Andrew ^^^
Steen719 Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Andrew - I hope you are not in jail? Let us know how you are doing.
Lowrider93 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Wow Andrew I had to skip alot of posts to get to the end of this thread and it seems like everyone is giving you alot of good advice here. But it appears that in the beginning you were taking baby steps forward to starting a new life without her, but you were moving in the right direction, now you have taken two steps backwards. In an earlier post you mentioned that she blamed you for her infidelity, that is so common for cheating spouses to lay the blame on someone else, it's their justification for their dirty deeds, you drove me away, and we all know that's bull****. Hindsight being 20/20, did you really think you could have lived with this stranger and made a healthy environment for your son and yourself? Rise above it all, it will make you stronger if you don't let it destroy you, it's in your hands. It is what it is and you have to decide what you need to do to survive and get thru this to the other side. When relationships crash, first it's about the loss of love,then it becomes about money and lastly about the children. Think of it this way, You get a "Do Over" but first you have to get thru this! Lots of good advice has been coming your way but it's only good if you take it! Peace
LexiB Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 She's gone to court to try and get an injunction to keep me away from the house People called this very early on. It's amazing how similarly these situations play out. Best of luck to you Andrew!
Author Andrew42 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Court tomorrow to contest the occupation order she's trying to obtain
Author Andrew42 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling, is 12 months classed as brief??
GorillaTheater Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling I hope that admission to the court, downplayed though it may be, proves useful in the future. Best of luck tomorrow. 1
elaine567 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 I hope that admission to the court, downplayed though it may be, proves useful in the future. . In the UK, adultery is only "needed" to prove the marriage has irretrievably broken down, it has no bearing on division of finances or children and the court will not be biased against the adulterer either. 1
GorillaTheater Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 In the UK, adultery is only "needed" to prove the marriage has irretrievably broken down, it has no bearing on division of finances or children and the court will not be biased against the adulterer either. I was afraid I was being overly optimistic.
Marc878 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling, is 12 months classed as brief?? Pregnant by other man and still in the affair. Brief? I think not.
elaine567 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Pregnant by other man and still in the affair. Brief? I think not.~ I doubt the judgement will be made on moral grounds, but the fact she is pregnant, may actually count in her favour. 1
LexiB Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 In her statement to the court she states she didn't have an affair, she says it was a brief fling, is 12 months classed as brief?? Did you get the opportunity to file an opposing statement?
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