kztar Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 OP take a hike on this one and go to the next. Early stages and he's already saying things like this?. Next date he will say something about your shirt, your hair or SOMETHING. I am a fashionista and I admit I like or prefer dating guys who are very high maintenance when it comes to fashion and whatnot. However, I don't sit there and tell the guy "oh you're not dressed the way I like or up to my standards" I keep that to myself as that is rude. My ex boyfriend had a terrible sense of style. I always hated his style but then we began dating, I showed him a few things and he began dressing better but we were exclusive to each other. While we were just dating, I never told him something like that. SO RUDE. 1
losangelena Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 It's one thing for a guy to have a preference for certain clothing on a woman, but it's rude to just say, "that's unflattering." I don't dress to please or impress men, especially near-strangers (if we're dating, that's a different story). I wear what I like and what I think I look best in. If a guy I'm seeing doesn't like it, the door is right over that way ------> 1
Els Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 The only way this would be acceptable would be if you had specifically asked for his opinion and insisted on it. In any other context, his comment was indicative of him being a rude controlling douchebag, or at the very least someone so socially inept that he doesn't realize that he's being a rude douchebag (which isn't really much better). Cut your losses and run.
Author Polar965 Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 Yes, it's rude but honest I guess. I don't always love his clothes but just go with it. I don't know.
Els Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 I don't know. What is there to 'not know' about this???? Did you ask and insist that he give you an 'honest opinion' about your clothes? If not, he's an arse. End of story. 1
Jabron1 Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 I'll tell you this: every time I've started dating someone that criticizes like this on the first couple of dates it's been a signal of low interest. Or, even worse, serious personal issues such as dark triad traits. Every. Single. Time. These days, as a man, I think 'pump and dump'. As a woman, what are you thinking exactly hanging around with an arseclown like this? NEXT. 3
Popsicle Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 I'll tell you this: every time I've started dating someone that criticizes like this on the first couple of dates it's been a signal of low interest. Or, even worse, serious personal issues such as dark triad traits. Every. Single. Time. These days, as a man, I think 'pump and dump'. As a woman, what are you thinking exactly hanging around with an arseclown like this? NEXT. Same here. It is exactly what jabron said. Believe it. 2
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