Did he lie to me in the beginning

[Aisling.25]

A couple weeks ago my new boyfriend told me that a few of his mates would be home from Australia and he was spending the day with them. Anyway it's been a couple of weeks since then and I was bored so went on to fb. Facebook obviously suggests friends and this one girl came up so I had a look at her profile cause my bf is a mutual friend. And there he is tagged in her photo from that day and it's just the two of them.

 

He gave me the impression that a few friends were coming home and that they were boys. I feeling a little betrayed tbh and I don't know whether to say this to him. We were only dating about 3 weeks then so I don't know if I have a right. I was cheated on so honesty is a big deal for me and knows I was cheated on. I was a bit reluctant to date but he kept asking and was telling me he only has good intentions towards me. But now it feels like he was being sneaky about it and that trust has gone out the window.

 

What at would you make of it?

[mortensorchid]

Oh Lord, Facebook. I remember when life was simple or there was more mystery. Or maybe it only seemed like it.

 

I'd just let this slide. He'll come back to you and it will be no big deal. And if he never comes back? F*** him, he lied to you.

[Aisling.25]

We're still together he doesn't know that I know this. This was at the very start of our relationship I just happened to find out about it tonight.

[isolatedgothic]

In the grand scheme of things, 3 weeks isn't a very long time.

 

Do you feel you two were exclusive at that point, after 3 weeks together? Did you have the understanding that you were seeing only each other and nobody else? I hear you saying that you feel betrayed, as though he had led you to believe the friends he would be with that day would be male only. Did he specifically say that he would be with all guys, or was it just implied?

 

I think at some point, the conversation will have to be had, because you are very bothered by this. Just make sure when you have the conversation, you leave as much emotion out of it as possible. At 3 weeks, it isn't something to fight about, and hopefully you'll find comfort in his response. Unless he was spending the night with this girl while he was sleeping with you, it can hopefully be worked out so that the insecurity you are feeling can subside.

[Aisling.25]

In the grand scheme of things, 3 weeks isn't a very long time.

 

Do you feel you two were exclusive at that point, after 3 weeks together? Did you have the understanding that you were seeing only each other and nobody else? I hear you saying that you feel betrayed, as though he had led you to believe the friends he would be with that day would be male only. Did he specifically say that he would be with all guys, or was it just implied?

 

I think at some point, the conversation will have to be had, because you are very bothered by this. Just make sure when you have the conversation, you leave as much emotion out of it as possible. At 3 weeks, it isn't something to fight about, and hopefully you'll find comfort in his response. Unless he was spending the night with this girl while he was sleeping with you, it can hopefully be worked out so that the insecurity you are feeling can subside.

 

 

From the beginning I told if he is dating me I am to be the only one, he said he had no problem with that. I know some people think that is wrong way to do things but I don't like dating multiple people. He gave me the impression that they were boys and that there would be a few of them. If he had told me it was a girl I probably wouldn't of had a problem with it just feels like he was being sneaky about it. Yeah I'll wait till I calm down to ask him about it.