How to tell if you're ugly, average, good looking, hot?

[Buddhist]

Well...You basically described yourself as the twin of Lindsey Pelas, with not as much facial attractiveness....Id think either you walk around in a potato sack, or somethings wrong with this picture...

 

Just out of curiosity, what is your race/country of origin?

 

If you would rather not answer, completely understandable...

 

TFY

 

I googled her, similar but I am a more toned than her. I'm caucasian, I don't walk around in a potato sack either but people often describe me as intimidating. I don't do flirty. Maybe that has something to do with it?

[losangelena]

I wonder if part of it has to do with the notion of approachability. I mean yeah, unless you're very attractive, you're kind of in the middle, so I think whether you get approached or not (or positive responses) is if you're friendly. I am hardly ever approached out in person, yet on OLD I have no problem. That's because men don't have to push through that initial in-person barrier.

 

That being said, when it comes to the question of "am I attractive or not," I think it's better to ask, "do I feel attractive?" It's not really anyone else's job to determine that. I know I'm pretty average-looking, in the grand scheme of things. There are times when I feel really confident and sexy, and times when I feel like a bridge troll. Well, nine times out of ten, I do "better" with men during those times when I'm feeling good about myself, when I'm not worried what they think of me, 'cause ultimately no one else's opinion of your attractiveness matters. Do you feel good about yourself? Great, then others probably will, too.

[Leigh 87]

Well...You basically described yourself as the twin of Lindsey Pelas, with not as much facial attractiveness....Id think either you walk around in a potato sack, or somethings wrong with this picture...

 

Just out of curiosity, what is your race/country of origin?

 

If you would rather not answer, completely understandable...

 

TFY

 

I agree.

 

I am only a 6.5 ish out of ten facially. And my body is a 10 kilos heavier version ( so 20 lbs heavier) than that posters body.

 

Yet even with my much less attractive body, I still had many offers.

 

If I was set up by a friend, the guy would always call me gorgeous ( he'd say it to my friends too that set us up).

 

The OP is hotter than me and I get plenty of offers so it must be the vibe she puts out.

[SwordofFlame]

Unless you are horribly disfigured, it doesn't really matter for men. I think okcupid did a study where 95% of men agree on what an attractive women looks like, but only 40% of women agree on what an attractive man looks like. (Someone correct on those numbers if I'm wrong). I've witnessed this personally as an Asian guy. It seems most of the women that think I'm attractive also tend to be Asian.

[BlueIris]

I have no idea where I stand anymore. Literally so many mixed signals. Online I get tons of matches but in person I can't remember the last time any female gave me the time of day or even looked at me. Lots of rejections lately when I go on dates, and I want to know where I stand, and areas to improve on. Maybe it's the way I dress? Maybe I think I look good but I'm actually fat? Maybe I'm too skinny? I look in the mirror and I see average, but I'm curious as to what the opposite sex sees.

 

Usually when I meet a girl for the first time on a date (met online) she looks at me almost in disgust and I can tell she's turned off. Pictures are up to date too online. Maybe it's because I'm short 5'6...who knows, but I usually can tell right away how things are going to go. I do try to dress well, but I really do think it's my looks. They look at me as if I'm Quasimodo. Hahaha

 

Def not insecure about my looks I am who I am, but I'm always looking for ways to improve myself. Do you ask your friends or family? How do you know? I'm serious when I say, I have no idea where I stand looks wise anymore and my dating life has been horrible and it NEVER use to be this bad. Could it be age? Going on 30.

 

Sorry been drinking. I'll regret this post tomorrow, but for the time being, fire away!

 

I figure, when in doubt assume you’re average looking. The middle is the sweet spot, in my opinion, because other traits become a more important part of making a connection.

[carhill]

Yeah, presume invisibility and seek to create visibility through deed or style or appearance. Average people are unremarkable and evoke no significant stimulation in those they encounter. People don't comment on their ugliness (common!) because they're not ugly nor on their beauty (common!) because they're not beautiful.

 

OP, if you don't 'move' people one way or another, presume you're invisible and work with that. OTOH, being invisible can be a real asset sometimes. It all depends.

[Imported]

OP, I'd say you must be physically attractive enough + look good on paper (job, income, education, future potential as a provider) if you get tons of matches online. Your height though is part of the package and is not something they really get a feel for from pictures. Is your height not listed online or are you claiming to be taller than you are?

 

I think it's much easier for guys to know where they are on the attractiveness scale than women. No one needs to tell you. AND if they do, it's probably useless information that is just blowing sunshine up your butt. The way women behave will make it apparent. Even if you're a dunce at reading interest from women, some of them will be so goofy, direct and obvious that you cannot not notice.

 

I'd say for online, be very upfront with your height so the women you actually spend your time with on a first date won't waste your time because they were expecting you to be an inch or 5 taller.

[Alamo657]

As others have said, physical beauty doesn't matter that much.

 

If you consider yourself average but arent getting lots of attention from the opposite sex, it means your game is too poor (career, personnality, sociability, hobbies...).

 

The top qualities you need as a man that women check are : sociability, confidence, personal success. If you're fit and good looking, its the icing on the cake, but by no means enough by itself.

 

To evaluate your worth as a man it's easy : if more than one women is hitting on you, if there is competition around your attention, you're a desirable person, and it will attract more women over time. If not... masturbation and prostitutes will be your only outlet, and you won't have children with a balanced person, if at all. Or if you really want children but cannot score around you, you can date foreigners from poorer countries with low education.

 

For women, they must have not necessarily a pretty face or big breasts, but an air of sensuality to arouse men. It's a complete lottery wether you have this sensuality "naturally", and a lot of it will be conveyed by your facial features; being good at a hobby or a job increases your sensuality tenfold, because it makes you happy, and happyness makes you sexy. But overall as a woman, your looks make up 50% of what a man desire, rest is compatibility and the energy you bring to the couples' dynamic. Even if you don't bring much to the relationship, a man will keep you if he's too lazy to find replacement.

 

Women really have it easy, they only need to filter out the players and loosers, while men have no choice but being winners.

Edited April 25, 2016 by Alamo657

[Leigh 87]

I figure, when in doubt assume you’re average looking. The middle is the sweet spot, in my opinion, because other traits become a more important part of making a connection.

 

No. Attractive women have it a lot easier actually.

 

I am attractive but not gorgeous and so I still rely heavily on my personality where as my stunning friends actually get approached less than me because they are obviously too intimidating, and men fall gaga over them despite lack of a true connection. .....

 

Being mildy attractive with ample boobs like myself is sure better than being a totally plain Jane because we get a lot of offers and by far a lot more attention than universally plain women......yet we still have to rely heavily on our personalities to keep a guy unlike gorgeous women.

[No_Go]

mildy attractive with ample boobs - :lmao:

 

Could you refer to (post pictures of) women that you'd call 'gorgeous/stunning', 'cute/mildly attractive' and 'average/plain Janes'? I'm laughing hard on the language but can't really picture what you mean. Celebrity names may suffice to get the visual idea.

 

No. Attractive women have it a lot easier actually.

 

I am attractive but not gorgeous and so I still rely heavily on my personality where as my stunning friends actually get approached less than me because they are obviously too intimidating, and men fall gaga over them despite lack of a true connection. .....

 

Being mildy attractive with ample boobs like myself is sure better than being a totally plain Jane because we get a lot of offers and by far a lot more attention than universally plain women......yet we still have to rely heavily on our personalities to keep a guy unlike gorgeous women.

[sunshine2]

I am dealing with this issue with myself lately. I have always been told that I am pretty, but I have never had a beautiful body like buddhist.

 

My only hope is that there are average people in the world who are attracted to average people. Have you ever seen couples and wonder how they are together? Its all about chemistry I think.

[Leigh 87]

Thing is, people are nasty to both plain and unattractive people sadly. It's awful.

 

Women have it worse than men.

 

You know you're plain as a woman if your partner or partners friends often say things like " well she's very plain....but hey, it's great that you guys click so well !" Also, if no guys fall all goo goo gaga over you, and ALL men have to grow to like you slowly rather than fall head over heels, then you're probably very plain.

 

It is easy to tell where you stand as a woman. If you're even mildy attractive as I am, then it's heavily peppered into people'svocabulary. Professors comment that I am an attractive young women right through to all my parents friends will comments as well as my friends, who are brutally honest girls ( and reading admit that I'm far from gorgeous but still pretty and baseline attractive). Both women are stunning themselves and know what is and isn't attractive too. I have also met a lot of dates out and about rather than online because attractive people generate a lot of instant attraction.

 

I will say that women can greatly amp up their level lf attraction. A lot more so than men!

 

I think it's harder to tell if men are attractive.... my bf seems attractive to me and my friends who met him but he takes bad pictures so my friends who haven't met him say he is very average and one ex of mine had the audacity to say " hey I noticed you are dating again, he isn't very attractive ". I blocked him the jerk. Yet my bf always dated hot girls at about my level ( I am considered hot but not a gorgeous 8/10 either).

 

I have also been approached a lot by high class escort agencies which is insulting but only attractive girls get approached for it when clients pay you 1000 to 2000 a night. I am also approached by retro dress stores occasionally who ask me to please take some shots wearing their dresees. Lowly paid promo model work also comes your way ( although I've never accepted the opportunity of wearing scantily clad clothes to sell motor bikes at car shows!)

 

All this doesn't mean you're VERY attractive or gorgeous. I am personally far from it. My body is no longer slim and it's very soft andI have a big nose. But society tells me that I am not a universally plain Jane either as I get a lot more male and female attention than truly plain women get. I still stand out but definitely not close to the eay a gorgeous woman would.

 

Where as men like my bf don't get phrased often despite their cute looks. My bf is at my level look wise. .... yet doesn't get one tenth the attention or regular phrase that I recieve. .....although one of my ex mates had no issues with telling my bf how hot his shaved head looked:sick: and then proceeded to try and sleep with him. But that's another story.

 

Oh. And if all your exes " friends" Facebook you and ask to sleep withwith you they likely all think you're attractive and easy. Not flattering at all.

[Leigh 87]

mildy attractive with ample boobs - :lmao:

 

Could you refer to (post pictures of) women that you'd call 'gorgeous/stunning', 'cute/mildly attractive' and 'average/plain Janes'? I'm laughing hard on the language but can't really picture what you mean. Celebrity names may suffice to get the visual idea.

 

Well. I know I'm considered attractive. But I also have eyes. And honest friends. I know I'm attractive but not gorgeous either.

 

I have body pics in my album. As you can see, most people in real life find me pleasant and very mildy attractive rather than a plain Jane but I do not pocess any of the gorgeous attributes. I merely have a nice smile and teeth and full lips and not much else that puts me just over the atrractive margin. My body is average but thankfully men like curves which I have and enhance with nice dresses.

 

Just life experience and the way society treats me and my options in men has informed me.

 

But ok. Looks are subjective and celebrities are made to look much better than they really are. Top of the line skincare personal trainers and chefs, stylists. ......

 

I consider Jennifer Aniston average looking but with an amazing body. Charlize Theron on the other hand is facily stunning. Halle Berry is also gorgeous rather than just pretty ( I am JUST pretty and not gorgeous).

Edited April 25, 2016 by Leigh 87

[No_Go]

I wonder if part of it has to do with the notion of approachability. - I think big time! Most of the women that get 'approached' a lot are flirting A LOT, actually it is just part of their personality. Also I noticed men see have very discrete set of traits that they spot while evaluating 'attractiveness' and unless if a woman is an extreme outliar in these traits, they can pretty much all be mimicked/accentuated with behavioral tweaks. Women on the other side are very easy to trick that the men is attractive, regardless of his looks unless again, he's an extreme outliar of the norm (the easiest way for a man to appear 'attractive' is to convince the female target that he thinks SHE is attractive. This works 99.9% of times if coupled with a healthy confidence).

 

I've personally never been a 'dater/flirt' and I'd actually hate being approached on the street (the times it does happen I quickly get away from the situation, I just hate it so much). However, I realized that from guys that I've been on dates on 7/10 wanted a relationship.... So once the first layer of un-approachability is broken, things get instantly easy.... Or my 'attractivenes' to mates increases.

 

I wonder if part of it has to do with the notion of approachability. I mean yeah, unless you're very attractive, you're kind of in the middle, so I think whether you get approached or not (or positive responses) is if you're friendly. I am hardly ever approached out in person, yet on OLD I have no problem. That's because men don't have to push through that initial in-person barrier.

 

That being said, when it comes to the question of "am I attractive or not," I think it's better to ask, "do I feel attractive?" It's not really anyone else's job to determine that. I know I'm pretty average-looking, in the grand scheme of things. There are times when I feel really confident and sexy, and times when I feel like a bridge troll. Well, nine times out of ten, I do "better" with men during those times when I'm feeling good about myself, when I'm not worried what they think of me, 'cause ultimately no one else's opinion of your attractiveness matters. Do you feel good about yourself? Great, then others probably will, too.

[No_Go]

I will say that women can greatly amp up their level lf attraction. A lot more so than men!

I beliee it is oher way round. Men can instantly increase his level of attractiveness, just by saying to the womean that he is attracted to HER. Women mirror attraction and smart men know it.

 

All this doesn't mean you're VERY attractive or gorgeous. I am personally far from it. My body is no longer slim and it's very soft andI have a big nose. But society tells me that I am not a universally plain Jane either as I get a lot more male and female attention than truly plain women get. I still stand out but definitely not close to the eay a gorgeous woman would.

I see this at ALL your posts. Have you asked a therapist what provikes this thoughts? You ARE slim and attractive, but why constantly seeking validation?

 

Oh. And if all your exes " friends" Facebook you and ask to sleep withwith you they likely all think you're attractive and easy. Not flattering at all. Ohhh, I just can't :lmao: Seriously if my FB friends say sth like this to me or anyone else I'd think they have had a stroke or something I can't believe people exchange 'I want to sleep with you' messages with FB friends

 

Thing is, people are nasty to both plain and unattractive people sadly. It's awful.

 

Women have it worse than men.

 

You know you're plain as a woman if your partner or partners friends often say things like " well she's very plain....but hey, it's great that you guys click so well !" Also, if no guys fall all goo goo gaga over you, and ALL men have to grow to like you slowly rather than fall head over heels, then you're probably very plain.

 

It is easy to tell where you stand as a woman. If you're even mildy attractive as I am, then it's heavily peppered into people'svocabulary. Professors comment that I am an attractive young women right through to all my parents friends will comments as well as my friends, who are brutally honest girls ( and reading admit that I'm far from gorgeous but still pretty and baseline attractive). Both women are stunning themselves and know what is and isn't attractive too. I have also met a lot of dates out and about rather than online because attractive people generate a lot of instant attraction.

 

I will say that women can greatly amp up their level lf attraction. A lot more so than men!

 

I think it's harder to tell if men are attractive.... my bf seems attractive to me and my friends who met him but he takes bad pictures so my friends who haven't met him say he is very average and one ex of mine had the audacity to say " hey I noticed you are dating again, he isn't very attractive ". I blocked him the jerk. Yet my bf always dated hot girls at about my level ( I am considered hot but not a gorgeous 8/10 either).

 

I have also been approached a lot by high class escort agencies which is insulting but only attractive girls get approached for it when clients pay you 1000 to 2000 a night. I am also approached by retro dress stores occasionally who ask me to please take some shots wearing their dresees. Lowly paid promo model work also comes your way ( although I've never accepted the opportunity of wearing scantily clad clothes to sell motor bikes at car shows!)

 

All this doesn't mean you're VERY attractive or gorgeous. I am personally far from it. My body is no longer slim and it's very soft andI have a big nose. But society tells me that I am not a universally plain Jane either as I get a lot more male and female attention than truly plain women get. I still stand out but definitely not close to the eay a gorgeous woman would.

 

Where as men like my bf don't get phrased often despite their cute looks. My bf is at my level look wise. .... yet doesn't get one tenth the attention or regular phrase that I recieve. .....although one of my ex mates had no issues with telling my bf how hot his shaved head looked:sick: and then proceeded to try and sleep with him. But that's another story.

 

Oh. And if all your exes " friends" Facebook you and ask to sleep withwith you they likely all think you're attractive and easy. Not flattering at all.

[BlueIris]

No. Attractive women have it a lot easier actually.

 

Yes, it’s easier to get more superficial attention or fawning. But not everyone wants that. Also, be careful to not say that to an accomplished person because it implies that they didn't earn what they achieved.

[No_Go]

See, IMO looks are very subjective. I kind of agree with your celebrity evaluation, but there will be people saying Aniston is prettier than Berry (which I don't agree/understand but is just my perception of beauty).

 

I think you know your best features and are emphasizing them, dressing good etc, so nothing to worry about. Plus you have a boyfriend! I think single people are more to be worried about looks, you have found a man in which eyes you're the most beautiful woman, the rest really is just vanity.

 

Well. I know I'm considered attractive. But I also have eyes. And honest friends. I know I'm attractive but not gorgeous either.

 

I have body pics in my album. As you can see, most people in real life find me pleasant and very mildy attractive rather than a plain Jane but I do not pocess any of the gorgeous attributes. I merely have a nice smile and teeth and full lips and not much else that puts me just over the atrractive margin. My body is average but thankfully men like curves which I have and enhance with nice dresses.

 

Just life experience and the way society treats me and my options in men has informed me.

 

But ok. Looks are subjective and celebrities are made to look much better than they really are. Top of the line skincare personal trainers and chefs, stylists. ......

 

I consider Jennifer Aniston average looking but with an amazing body. Charlize Theron on the other hand is facily stunning. Halle Berry is also gorgeous rather than just pretty ( I am JUST pretty and not gorgeous).

[Leigh 87]

See, IMO looks are very subjective. I kind of agree with your celebrity evaluation, but there will be people saying Aniston is prettier than Berry (which I don't agree/understand but is just my perception of beauty).

 

I think you know your best features and are emphasizing them, dressing good etc, so nothing to worry about. Plus you have a boyfriend! I think single people are more to be worried about looks, you have found a man in which eyes you're the most beautiful woman, the rest really is just vanity.

 

 

 

I once knew a guy...he said Aniston was hotter than Angelina any day.

 

I just didn't get it at the time. Aniston is attractive but she isn't gorgeous.

 

I would consider her at my level really. Although she is obviously a lot slimmer. The daily yoga and all lol and smaller boobs.

 

Then you get Actresses like Reese Witherspoon. She is beautiful to me and to many yet she is not a classic beauty. ... she is a bit different looking which I like.

 

Miranda Kerr is the most beautiful model and other worldy beautiful on the top end of the beauty scale. Where as some of the other Victoria's secrets super models are objectively beautiful but totally not my type. ...like that Abrossi lady.

 

See. Looks are subjective and most women struggle with this throughout their adult life. It's all too easy to look to others for validation. What's important is whether or not you can attract quality men in ample enough supply. If not, it's time to look within and ask some honest friends for advice.

 

I have a big nose and I am the least pretty of my 2 female friends. But you know, I live my soft curvy body and make the most of the attributes that I love. Men love my feminine style and therfore I have no isses in attracting men; I am easy going, friendly and approachable.

 

All that stuff, personal style and loving what you have while also knowing you're not Gods gift to men, and being warm and approachable matter more than the scale at which you may be on....

 

A well dressed woman who has 1 nice feature that she plays up, for instance I have nice lips and teeth, will garner more " you're pretty's" than the model look alike such as my friend who looks like a model yet is a little unapproachable due to her shyness.

[Leigh 87]

I am dealing with this issue with myself lately. I have always been told that I am pretty, but I have never had a beautiful body like buddhist.

 

My only hope is that there are average people in the world who are attracted to average people. Have you ever seen couples and wonder how they are together? Its all about chemistry I think.

 

Chemistry isn't about looks so much.

 

My greatest chemistry has been with average ish men. Not the hot men I've been with.

[LivingWaterPlease]

Life 101 - Never ask another person how attractive you are, they will lie every single time. People play the social game, they know that you are asking a loaded question and they must respond 'appropriately' which means they will lie through their teeth to avoid hurting your feelings or making themselves look like arseholes. You hear lots of 'you're very attractive' to 'nothing wrong with you, can't understand why you're single' etc. The truth is you could look like Mr Potatoe head and absolutely no-one will point out the elephant in the room. Being truly honest is a major social crime.

 

Loved this post! So true! My FB newsfeed is a hoot. All anyone at all has to do is post photos of herself/himself to get comments of "beautiful inside and out," or "handsome!!!"

 

Sometimes it's pretty hilarious to read.

[whatcanitellyou]

IME a lot of men rate themselves as more attractive than they really are and as such pursue women who are more attractive than them. Sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn't.

 

Put a picture of yourself next to a woman you find attractive and ask your self if the pairing makes sense.

 

You all know what I'm talking about.

[No_Go]

Here you prove its really subjective - Angelina I think is super hot, Aniston... is fit (too fit to my liking, I prefer a different less muscular look on a female) but nothing memorable. Miranda Kerr I find interesting looking but not exactly my type. I like Lima and Candice more.

 

I think men look more at the overall look (e.g. slim+long hair or curvy+good facial proportions) rather than specific features. I love make up but I feel like it's a waste of money because most men can't appreciate it (all that they notice is that the woman is 'hot' )

 

I once knew a guy...he said Aniston was hotter than Angelina any day.

 

I just didn't get it at the time. Aniston is attractive but she isn't gorgeous.

 

I would consider her at my level really. Although she is obviously a lot slimmer. The daily yoga and all lol and smaller boobs.

 

Then you get Actresses like Reese Witherspoon. She is beautiful to me and to many yet she is not a classic beauty. ... she is a bit different looking which I like.

 

Miranda Kerr is the most beautiful model and other worldy beautiful on the top end of the beauty scale. Where as some of the other Victoria's secrets super models are objectively beautiful but totally not my type. ...like that Abrossi lady.

 

See. Looks are subjective and most women struggle with this throughout their adult life. It's all too easy to look to others for validation. What's important is whether or not you can attract quality men in ample enough supply. If not, it's time to look within and ask some honest friends for advice.

 

I have a big nose and I am the least pretty of my 2 female friends. But you know, I live my soft curvy body and make the most of the attributes that I love. Men love my feminine style and therfore I have no isses in attracting men; I am easy going, friendly and approachable.

 

All that stuff, personal style and loving what you have while also knowing you're not Gods gift to men, and being warm and approachable matter more than the scale at which you may be on....

 

A well dressed woman who has 1 nice feature that she plays up, for instance I have nice lips and teeth, will garner more " you're pretty's" than the model look alike such as my friend who looks like a model yet is a little unapproachable due to her shyness.

[thefooloftheyear]

IME a lot of men rate themselves as more attractive than they really are and as such pursue women who are more attractive than them. Sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn't.

 

Put a picture of yourself next to a woman you find attractive and ask your self if the pairing makes sense.

 

You all know what I'm talking about.

 

 

I find the exact opposite....in fact, most guys place themselves lower on the food chain than they actually are...

 

IME, Men are pretty practical about their attractiveness/desirability....In fact, Its quite easy for a guy to figure out how desirable he is...Based on how many times a woman "better deals" him or rejects him...Its as simple as that...

 

And lets be honest....

 

Guys don't get a false sense of worth/desirability as women do, for the simple reason that even a good looking guy will bang a relatively ugly woman...Some of these woman, in their naivete, somehow think that being used for sex (by a good looking guy or otherwise), is somehow a notch on their desirability belt or an uptick in their hotness meter.....

 

Guys don't have that type of dynamic....If they are getting laid regularly, then they either have very good looks or some other Alpha qualities....Women that get laid regularly could just be easy or[]...

 

There are no "participation trophies" for guys here.....so they get a clear picture of their worth to the opposite sex, usually very early in life....

 

TFY

[BlueIris]

I find the exact opposite....in fact, most guys place themselves lower on the food chain than they actually are...

 

IME, Men are pretty practical about their attractiveness/desirability....In fact, Its quite easy for a guy to figure out how desirable he is...Based on how many times a woman "better deals" him or rejects him...Its as simple as that...

 

And lets be honest....

 

Guys don't get a false sense of worth/desirability as women do, for the simple reason that even a good looking guy will bang a relatively ugly woman...Some of these woman, in their naivete, somehow think that being used for sex (by a good looking guy or otherwise), is somehow a notch on their desirability belt or an uptick in their hotness meter.....

 

Guys don't have that type of dynamic....If they are getting laid regularly, then they either have very good looks or some other Alpha qualities....Women that get laid regularly could just be easy or[]...

 

There are no "participation trophies" for guys here.....so they get a clear picture of their worth to the opposite sex, usually very early in life....

 

TFY

 

I tell ya, TFY... you have to start dating men!

 

No, there are LOTS of men who think they're better looking than they are- or funnier or smarter or any number of other "-ers."

 

Now, when you throw in the qualifier, "if they are getting laid regularly," sure, those men are attractive in some way. But a lot of men are not getting laid regularly.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-sports-mind/201507/when-men-arent-good-looking-they-think

 

BUT! Women don't care as much about how good looking a man is as some men think we do- yay!

Edited April 26, 2016 by BlueIris

[thefooloftheyear]

I tell ya, TFY... you have to start dating men!

 

 

And deprive the female population of my awesomeness? That would be a crime...

 

No, there are LOTS of men who think they're better looking than they are- or funnier or smarter or any number of other "-ers."

 

Eh....I think you can also turn that back around at a woman, no? I mean, a typical woman may roll her eyes at that guy, when in fact its her that is holding herself to an unrealistically high standard, perhaps??....Just sayin'

Now, when you throw in the qualifier, "if they are getting laid regularly," sure, those men are attractive in some way. But a lot of men are not getting laid regularly.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-sports-mind/201507/when-men-arent-good-looking-they-think

 

BUT! Women don't care as much about how good looking a man is as some men think we do- yay!

 

Look at it this way.....

 

I live in an area where there are tons of good looking women with homely and un masculine guys...They(women) have traded looks for a lifestyle...Surprisingly they all seem pretty happy...Its really not even rare...

 

There are many successful and wealthy women....So why aren't they taking home the hunky auto mechanic or the ruggedly good looking guy stocking the shelves at the Home Depot..?? That's what a lot of successful guys do with women...and they are completely fine with it......

 

 

I have a friend of mine that has been chasing this woman for years...She only uses him as a last option...Hes an idiot about it, but he trudges on,,Ive seen pictures of her and I wouldn't give her the time of day, but she isn't out of his league......If she thinks so, then she better get her eyes checked...And sure, during the times he's been after her, she has "dated"(read-been used) by many guys better looking than he is, yet somehow she is using that logic that those guys are somehow interested in her and are at her level, she just hasn't clicked with one yet....she'll be waiting forever for that....

 

TFY