Leonx24 Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 I met this girl on Facebook (im 25 and she's 26) she resides in Europe and im in the states. We were friends at first, and one day I messaged her saying that if she ever needed advice in anything life related she can come to me and one day she did. She came to me asking me if she should break up with her boyfriend and I simply said i she should considering what I heard from her. The next day she called and she was heavily drunk and she kept saying that she liked me and that she loves the way I talk and my principles and values in life. Now to be honest I was attracted to her because she's beautiful, smart and literally one of a kind. We have many things in common - We are both atheists - We are both middle eastern - we Don't believe in procreation Anyway We both confessed our feelings and things were great. I even told her that I'd come to Europe and visit her and give her the time of her life because long distance is not an issue to me I can come to Europe and back as I please,but a week later she said that she's moving to fast into a new relationship and that she needs to recover from her last relationship.* I didn't want to push or rush so I said I can wait and I told her when she's ready to let me know. I stopped contacting her completely to avoid getting friend zoned. A few days after that she started texting me and I couldn't resist. I texted her back and may have over did it by saying that im still super attracted to her etc. Anyway im going to fast forward to the present and I stopped texting her cold turkey and she texted me a couple days later saying "what is the problem? Is everything ok?" I simply replied saying "what problem? Everything is perfectly fine". A day later she texted "hi" and I chose to ignore it because a simple "hi" doesn't deserve a response under certain circumstances.Ten hours later she texted "alright then have a good life" I chose to ignore that as well now its been five days and here are my questions 1. Why or did she say "have a good life" is it because I ignored her "hi" text? And what did she mean by it? 2. How do I approach? To be honest I want to call her and talk to her so badly but then I think to myself. She's willing to shut me out that easily? She could be testing me but I honestly can't tell. Right now im just waiting to see if she misses my presence in her life because I know for certain she enjoys my company. Any advice would be appreciated and thank you for your time Be well
preraph Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 Why were you being a jerk to her because she said hi? You created this issue because you were trying to punish her some way and she knew it, so she said Sayonara. 2
Satu Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 (edited) comment deleted Edited April 23, 2016 by Satu 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 1) 'Have a nice life' means 'get lost, I'm done with you'. 2) How do you approach? Really? You have to ask? You don't. It's over before you even met. You're assuming a lot to think she's going to miss your presence. Try not to think so highly of yourself. Lastly, you probably pushed her back to the guy she broke up with, if that's any consolation. 1
Satu Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 Your 'clever trick' of ignoring her and the gaslighting her when she asked you about it, obviously offended her, and she's had enough. "Have a nice life."
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 First of all, I'm afraid it sounds for all the world as if you're a 17-year-old. Secondly - what do you mean you don't believe in procreation? What, you don't want sex - or you don't want kids? Thirdly - she called your bluff, exposed your jerkdom and kicked you to the kerb. Good Job, well done. Time to gain and learn from the experience, and move on. 1
mrs rubble Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 We didn't have issues like this back in the "old days". Life was so much easier before facebook and texting, we used to speak to each other, none of this second guessing and trying to interpret the "tone" of the messages. I suggest you young ones go back to actually talking to each other. You might be surprised how much time you save by actually knowing what the hecks happening! 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 We didn't have issues like this back in the "old days". Life was so much easier before facebook and texting, we used to speak to each other, none of this second guessing and trying to interpret the "tone" of the messages. I suggest you young ones go back to actually talking to each other. You might be surprised how much time you save by actually knowing what the hecks happening! The other thing is, we were unlikely to forge "imaginary" relationships with people half way round the other side of the world.... We realised that we had plenty of wonderful, varied and exciting choices right on our own doorstep.... Too many times on this forum we have had people talking about a Significant Other they're desperately in love with, feel committed to, can't live without - only to discover they've never even laid eyes on each other.... Ohy, my life....! 1
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