scooby-philly Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Ok Will try and quickly summarize this b/c I think I need to act today on this situation. Using OLD site. Winked or emailed woman - can't remember which. Probably a wink. I use a strategy where I wink if I like their profiles but email if it's over the top awesome. She emailed me first (again I could have emailed her but I don't remember) Didn't say hi or talk first email - just a "how was your weekend". That catches me off guard. She took at least 1-2 weeks to respond to whatever mode of communication I used first. Her profile is really not that long and not very detailed in what she's looking for. She says she's open to guys up to 73yrs? (She says she's 30 and I'm 34) Started emailing back and forth - my first email noted she didn't have much to say about herself or her ideal match in her profile - all subsequent emails from her have been short and her responses quasi generic. Start back and forth emails today - about 12 messages each - she's proposed that after I do a hike on Sunday we should do a "spa" date and get a massage together (on a first date?) Claims she doesn't like cliche dates and that a spa thing would remove first date jitters. Question: Is this a potential gold-digger or spoiled brat? I mean little profile info - very short, generic responses, spa date first? Even if her claims about hating cliche dates is true said she just went to Boston this weekend, etc. Profile screams something's wrong. Should I do this just to see or run for the hills?
hasaquestion Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Gold digger. "Spa date" sounds like a sneaky way to subsidize a massage. She didn't message you for a week or two because she didn't need anything. Next. That's my impression. 4
losangelena Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Something certainly feels "off." Not sure exactly why your initial assumption is "gold digger" or "spoiled brat," she could also be a robot, or just not interested in filling out a lot of information on her OLD profile, like many people are wont to do. You need to do what you're comfortable with. If the way she's communicating with you and her profile feel "off," and something in your guy is telling you it's a bad idea, then either back out, or see if you can change the terms. If you don't want to go to the spa on a first date, suggest something else! You're not at the mercy of this person, and if you're going to go in feeling uncertain and strange, that's not a great basis for a first date. Give all the variable in this situation, what do you WANT to do? 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Maybe the 73 was supposed to be 37? But if not...... I've seen the spa date episode on Millionaire Matchmaker more than once. It's creepy and never worked out for any of them.
losangelena Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Maybe the 73 was supposed to be 37? But if not...... I've seen the spa date episode on Millionaire Matchmaker more than once. It's creepy and never worked out for any of them. Haha, yeah 73?! She probably just mixed up the numbers. 73 is very specific. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Ask her if the spa thing is her treat. I agree it sounds like a sneaky way to get somebody else to pay for her pampering. if she's paying & willing to get naked with you that fast, some may see that as a positive. I would not get a message other than maybe a fully clothed neck rub at the mall on a 1st date.
Author scooby-philly Posted April 19, 2016 Author Posted April 19, 2016 Well, My first response was something was off - whether she's spoiled, not good with money (i.e. spender vs. saver) or a gold-digger or something in between.... And I forgot to mention - she came up in my "daily matches". Whatever I did - email or wink - her profile was unavailable to me at one point - which means she blocked me. That's why I was really taken aback when she emailed me out of the blue. And yes - she meant 73. Cause I mentioned that during our exchanges so far today. I'm going to pass but politely see if she's interested in something else to gauge her real intentions. And yes - I understand there are people out there for lots of different reasons who don't fill out a lot of information in their profile. But her responses have not been my style. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 If you already have so many bad vibes, you have to simply say "next" and move on. 1
blackcat777 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 From someone in the spa industry... gold digger. Next!
smackie9 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 I say prostitute...............rub and tug is what they call it. 2
Cinnamonstix Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Haha, yeah 73?! She probably just mixed up the numbers. 73 is very specific. Specifically right before they die and leave her everything. 1
loveweary11 Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Only one song came to mind... xxxxxxxxxx........ but she ain't messin' with a broke n-+ga. 2
Author scooby-philly Posted April 19, 2016 Author Posted April 19, 2016 So I'll admit - I was tempted to say yes just to see what would happen - I'd trade some "fun stuff" for a massage...lol but seriously - yeah she was responsive within 10-15 minutes earlier today when we were exchanging emails. I sent her one final one - nothing I wasn't sure if I could make it back in time from my hike - i.e. before 5 or 6 pm on Sunday and I wasn't sure about first date at a spa. Threw in a line about - "well if you're paying I'll be there"......nothing for 2+ hours. So I've reported her to the site in case she's tried that on other guys and blocked her. Always listen to the gut. Always 1
Shanex Posted April 19, 2016 Posted April 19, 2016 Maybe some Thai massage along, smells like prostitutes anyway. 1
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