Cinnamonstix Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Look at this thread posted today - a guy's gf went to a convention with another guy she met online and they shared a room. Lo and behold, he had ulterior motives. OP, does your gf have a history of basking in male attention?
katiegrl Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 (edited) Im not totally sure on who invited her. It might have been the groups sponsor itself that did or it could have been the group. I couldnt edit the first post after. So then why did you post this? So the guy that invited my GF to come has offered my GF to share a hotel room with him, to split the cost. You're backtracking.... and in denial. Edited April 8, 2016 by katiegrl
Author beezlebub Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 Look at this thread posted today - a guy's gf went to a convention with another guy she met online and they shared a room. Lo and behold, he had ulterior motives. OP, does your gf have a history of basking in male attention? That is an interesting one. Thanks for the post! No more than any other girl, I think.
Author beezlebub Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 So then why did you post this? I talked to her after posting this thread and found I was wrong on who invited her. Which is where she decided to get a single room, to alleviate some of my feelings.
Timshel Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 I am passive, I will admit to that I like to think things through and figure out all the options and the pros and cons before acting on things. Hence why I am here on this site asking for input! It would not be such an easy decision to end the relationship as I made it sound in my reply. Definitely not. It was more that I feel it would be better to find out sooner in my life that I have picked the wrong person than much later. We have discussed our future together, manys of times. We would get married except for the fact that we are still young (23) and are both still in university. We would prefer to have good jobs secured and lots of money for a solid base, before starting down that road. She said that she would accept if I did actually decide to propose now, though we would just stay engaged and wait until much later for the actual wedding and such. And she is paying for everything herself, the guy just offered to help should she not be able to get the money. Alright. My two...23 is too young to be thinking marriage. Having a solid base and life experience will lead both of you to a life path that is further away from any regret. Good. Let her go then and with bells on. So then....the safety thing is still an issue. Proceed along those lines. She should go but....any precautions for safety should be taken. Also, live a little yourself.
kendahke Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 I talked to her after posting this thread and found I was wrong on who invited her. Which is where she decided to get a single room, to alleviate some of my feelings. But how would she feel if you, right out of the box, said you were going to go out of town to a convention, you didn't want her coming along because you didn't want to entertain her, some other girl was hovering and offering to let you stay in her room with her and only when she made a stink about you, you change your story and say "I'm paying for it myself"? She'd be on here burning the place down over this. It should not have taken you even bringing up your feelings for her to have, from the jump, reserved her own room. That, to me, is a huge glaring red flag. I understand you want to tell yourself what you can live with, but the fact remains that she was on a twisted path from the get-go with this convention. Just be careful and don't be so quick to get all cozy with your "I'm passive"--passive gets run over, too.
joseb Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 So he's so rich he can just afford to pay for your girlfriend's flight out of the goodness of his heart. But he also wants to share a room or (next best option) book in the same hotel as your girlfriend to try and keep costs down. And the fact that both of them have significant others who are "not allowed" to come is supposed to make things better? (Did she accept his offer for the flight btw? And is everyone else in the same hotel?) How do you feel about all this OP? Weirdly, your post is only relaying information about what she has said but it does not really convey your reactions to what is happening. IMO, this relationship is coming to an end. Even if you don't end it now, I suspect that she will, in the near future. OP, you are so far in denial I'm not sure if it's laughable or I should feel sorry for you. Think about it for a minute. The guy is loaded so offers to pay for everything for her...but was sharing a room to save money... You believe everything she tells you. Even when it doesn't gel or make any sense. And when she changes her story you believe the new version. 2
jasmineb Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 My adult child is a gamer. She is a big fan of various youtube gamers such as Markaplyer (or however you spell it). Some of the people are famous in their own right and make a living doing this. So I DO understand the whole networking and promoting sponsors angle. People who do not understand the gaming culture cannot really speak to whether it makes sense or not. What I DO NOT understand is A) Why you cannot go and B) How she can feel so certain that she is safe just because she has known these people virtually. Even IN her own room, she will be in another country alone with people she has yet to meet face to face. If it were me, I would WANT you there, if for no other reason than for safety. If I were you the only way this would be okay for my sense of safety and such would be to go with her. Not because I think she has to go around the world to cheat, but because she's taking a pretty big risk here.
CarrieT Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 OP, you could always get a Voice-Activated Recorder and hide it in her luggage. That will end up telling you what she's really up to... Personally, so much of this sounds fishy; from another guy offering to help pay her way to both of them not wanting their partners with them... 1
katiegrl Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 (edited) OP, you are so far in denial I'm not sure if it's laughable or I should feel sorry for you. Think about it for a minute. The guy is loaded so offers to pay for everything for her...but was sharing a room to save money... You believe everything she tells you. Even when it doesn't gel or make any sense. And when she changes her story you believe the new version. When people are in denial, it's boggles the mind how they can spin things so as to make it okay to stay. Oh well, sometimes people just have to learn things the hard way. He is just not ready to call it quits yet. Edited April 9, 2016 by katiegrl
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