SixxChick Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Every time I have the slighest urge to peek into that place, I come back to this thread. My ex and I have each other blocked, but I have another source that can get me in. But nothing good will come of it. Nothing. And, you're right. It just makes you feel like sh*t, and it will ruin the progress that I am slowly making. whichwayisup is right. NO good can come of it. Stear clear! Thanks for providing some strength. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 Reckon we all do that. It's like we have to keep pressing that wound, no matter how it hurts. I fell into that trap many times with a previous ex and it had to reach a point of serious pain before I was able to totally stop cyber stalking her throughout social media. I can't even explain why I did it, why I kept doing it. I knew how much it hurt, yet I kept doing it. Just try to remind yourself that nothing good will come of looking. Ever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
keiji Posted May 10, 2016 Share Posted May 10, 2016 (edited) Most of us have gone through that at some point, don't beat yourself up about it. If you're missing someone, it's only natural that you resort to social media to "know about them". However, the truth is you cannot know anything, because social media is basically a window display, but we all know that mannequins are not the real thing; they have lots of little pins in the back so the dress looks tight and nice. Have you ever seen a FB or IG picture of someone sitting on their couch, with a blank look in their face and the caption: "Missing my ex like crazy. I wanna die"? Me neither. Edited May 10, 2016 by keiji 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 So my ex called last night for the first time since our break up like 4 months ago the conversation went exactly like this: Me. "Hello" Ex. "I hate you" Me. "Who is this? " I knew it was her before i answered. But does this mean anything what should i make of it? Did i handle it in a good way? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 It means she hates you. You handled it fine. Next time she calls, don't answer. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 What was the rest of the conversation? Who hung up on whom? Not that it matters I am just being nosey. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 It means that she hates you and that you should not pick up the phone the next time she calls. Block her. Link to post Share on other sites
keiji Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 It also means that she's not ready to behave like a grown-up. I could understand one of those incredibly long e-mails exposing how nasty you were, etc, but this? It's childish to say the least. Link to post Share on other sites
gaig Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 and actually who was the dumper haha Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 What was the rest of the conversation? Who hung up on whom? Not that it matters I am just being nosey. That was the whole coversation and she hung up after i asked who is this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 and actually who was the dumper haha She dumped me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 I understand that she hates me but why 4 months later with no contact from either would she call just to tell me? Thats what has me confused. Im not sure if ill answer next id like to say no but knowing me its 50/50 im also not sure if there will even be a next time. Oh yes it seemed very childish. Link to post Share on other sites
gaig Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 Then of course she hates you.. Because you are still in her head. It's easy to give you advises, but you haven't given any info on how attached you've been to that relationship. I would advise to answer, be totally cool and indifferent to any reconciliation thoughts -if any- or meeting. However, I cannot really lead by example in such a situation.. haha Link to post Share on other sites
Happenstousall Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 Well it sure as hell isn't a breadcrumb! I dunno your story so have no idea if she's justified in hating you. If not, it's just a shame you didn't get a chance to tell her where to go! Forget it, block her number and don't get sucked in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 Then of course she hates you.. Because you are still in her head. It's easy to give you advises, but you haven't given any info on how attached you've been to that relationship. I would advise to answer, be totally cool and indifferent to any reconciliation thoughts -if any- or meeting. However, I cannot really lead by example in such a situation.. haha Im definitely not over her and still miss her dearly but i have no intentions of getting back together. I think my plan is to answer if calls but pretend like i dont know whos calling me so she has to initiate the conversation and tell me why shes calling. Is a good or bad idea? Or if she does call again should i just bluntly ask why are you calling me? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 Im definitely not over her and still miss her dearly but i have no intentions of getting back together. I think my plan is to answer if calls but pretend like i dont know whos calling me so she has to initiate the conversation and tell me why shes calling. Is a good or bad idea? Or if she does call again should i just bluntly ask why are you calling me? I think you should let it go to voicemail and not have pointless conversations with your ex. Stop trying to play games. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 Well it sure as hell isn't a breadcrumb! I dunno your story so have no idea if she's justified in hating you. If not, it's just a shame you didn't get a chance to tell her where to go! Forget it, block her number and don't get sucked in. Shes not justified in hating me atleast i think so if anything i should hate her shes done some very messed up things to me pre/post break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 I think you should let it go to voicemail and not have pointless conversations with your ex. Stop trying to play games. I know i shouldnt play games i think voicemail is a good option. Link to post Share on other sites
gaig Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 but i have no intentions of getting back together. Why is that? What happened? Link to post Share on other sites
BikerAccnt Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 Have to say, that was one interesting conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 I know i shouldnt play games i think voicemail is a good option. The best option is to block her from contacting you entirely, but I'm guessing you'd react badly to that advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 Why is that? What happened? Just whole a lot of things big ones being filing false reports to the police. Another one being she would never take responsibility for things and blame me for everything and shes just immature but i should have known that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 The best option is to block her from contacting you entirely, but I'm guessing you'd react badly to that advice. No im open to all advice. I just for some reason can't bring myself to block her. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted June 10, 2016 Share Posted June 10, 2016 There is a very good chance she expected you to chase her after the break. Having not done that after four months she is upset angry and disappointed her plan didn't work. It's a common tool used by immature women(girls, not women) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Joshh93 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Share Posted June 10, 2016 There is a very good chance she expected you to chase her after the break. Having not done that after four months she is upset angry and disappointed her plan didn't work. It's a common tool used by immature women(girls, not women) I highly doubt thats the case not with the way she handled things after the break up Link to post Share on other sites
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