My GF cheated on me and laughed in my face.

[Jay745]

Hey Guys, I think this is going to be the last thread from me relating to my Ex gf. These are the previous threads:

 

1) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/566897-seriously-most-devastating-breakup-ever

 

2) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/568220-what-if-she-doesn-t-contact-me-my-birthday

 

3) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/570364-got-back-my-ex-gf-but-then-she-played-me

 

The day after I made my last thread on Feb.20 my ex GF came to my house and cried tears and apologized for what she had done. She said she was being stupid and her friends were even telling her that, etc. She even grabbed me and touched me sexually to convince me. I told her that I don't really trust her and that we are not together yet. She needs to convince me. I even ask her if she deleted that guy and she did. I checked her phone too. She was only talking to "Daisy" and "David." They are her friends. I'll come back to Daisy in a minute.

 

I explained before how she didn't post me on her snapchat, but this time she insisted to do it and we were even making out in public. We finally, ended up having sex later too. Since, we got back together the first time we did not have sex, but now we finally had sex so I thought things were actually changing. She was even talking to me with more respect and love. She genuiingly seemed interested in everything.

 

I was still a little suspicious about her and would ask to see her phone and go through it when shes not looking, but she would only talk to Daisy and David. As the week went by she stared acting more weird. She would talk about my flaws. Say "ew" to my penis. She even once stopped having sex with me right in the middle of it. She was moaning and liked it, but all of a sudden said she had to pee. One day, when she was in the shower I went through her phone and saw that "Daisy" was actually the guy that I told her to delete! At first they were talking friendly, but I kept scrolling up and noticed that the texts got increasingly sexual and then I immediately knew it was him.

 

The day she came to my house to beg for me back was the same day she was talking explicitly sexual with him. Even days before that, when we first got back together, she was still talking to him. She was calling him babe, and they were talking about having kids, and doing sexual things to each other. She even told him that he was the last person she had sex with or kissed, but in reality she was having sex with me!

 

So, I immediately confronted her about it and told her that she is still lying to me and has been lying to me ever since we got back together. All of her stories of what was really going on with that guy were fake. They were all fake. I called her names. I got so pissed at her that I broke her phone. She was just standing there and laughing/smiling while I was yelling at her. All she was saying was, "What am I going to do without my phone?" and "You broke my phone" and very calmly too. She did not give a **** about what she did. No remorse at all. I even told her that I sent a picture of my face to that guy and that I'm actually here with her. She said, "Ew don't send your ugly ass face to him" and laughed. The freaking balls on this girl. I was about to bitch slap the **** out of her, but I'm better than that. I got my stuff and when I was about to walk out the door she's like "Love you daddy, bye." She then attempted to touch me sexually while laughing and i just pushed her off me. Seriously, what is her ****ing problem??

 

I ended up messaging that guy she was talking to and tell him what was really going on and that she has been lying to both of us. I even bad mouthed her to him and told him how I don't even care if he had sex with her because who wouldn't, especially with her morals. I continued to tell him how she was lying about not having sex with anyone because she was having it with me and that she lied about other stuff. Oh and they even filmed a porno together!! So I told him that we filmed pornos too! I concluded by telling him that I'm not trying to rub this in his face, but instead trying to tell him how much of a shallow person she is. He later replied by saying, "Thanks for reaching out. We are on the same page brother and we are reading the same book."

Do you think this guy actually took me seriously or does he just not care about what she did to him?

 

My ex gf messaged me a paragraph later that night telling me how sorry she was and that she has so much to say but doesn't want to do it over text and that she will forever and always be grateful for me. I immediately replied by telling her to lose my number and that I don't need to hear her bull**** and I even told her that I told HIM everything. She responded by just asking me why I had to make a big deal out of it? If I really loved her then I would have just let it be. She even called me immature. How am I the immature one here? I did that guy a favor by warning him about her bitchiness.

 

She later commented hearts on my photos and said she loved me, but i just deleted them and disregarded them because I know she is playing with me. I continued to keep her on Snapchat for a few days. She snapped me every single day multiple times a day of her life and even said I look hot flexing in some pictures. She asked me if I wanted to go to a place with her, but I said I was busy. She was persistent about it so I just told her that I don't want to waste my time. She got mad and told me off, but I just ignored it. She still continued to snap chat me, but not as much.

 

I found out from a mutual friend that my ex gf lied about many things in our relationship. About her family, job, friends. She is a compulsive lier. The friend told me how she used to work at an illegal Spa for men that pleasured them. Although, she told me that she was just a "Receptionist."

I don't even know what she does as her current job. Every time I ask her what she did at work today, she would keep it short and get mad at me if i pushed it further. My ex told me that she works with fabrics with her aunt and goes to meetings. Sometimes she even flew out of the state, but she would always stay in hotel rooms. She claimed that her boss would rent the room for her while they were in meetings. Anyways, back then I trusted her and she treated me as a priority so I didn't really look into it, but now I'm suspicious. She would make a ton of money too. I don't understand how she made so much at that age. She even lied about her family being rich. She told me how her parents cheat the government and blah blah. The list goes on, you get the idea. I have no idea if all this is true, but it just all makes sense.

 

 

Today she sent me a picture of a pregnancy test and it said POSITIVE. I asked her if she was pregnant and she ignored it, but snapped me a picture of her face. So then we messaged each other a few times back and eventually she didn't reply. So I still don't know what she meant by that, but I'm sure she's just playing games.

 

I finally deleted her off everything. I am drained and done. I am devastated and depressed about this breakup. I haven't been eating right, slacking at work and school. I can not function the same. This is the worst breakup of my life. She is a terrible person, but yet i still miss her.

Edited March 6, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[dreamingoftigers]

She sounds like a total disordered sociopath that likes to manipulate and play with people.

 

Run far and fast.

 

Never contact her again.

 

If it turns out she's pregnant, demand a paternity test.

 

Never, ever trust this person for even two seconds.

 

If you are drowning in the ocean and she pulls up on a boat to throw you a life preserver, ignore her and wait for the coast guard.

[Jay745]

You're totally right.

I read somewhere that there is no excuse for cheating, but some excuses make sense. I'm not saying that what she did was right, because cheating is not right at all. Cheating is selfish and immoral, but it happens when something is usually lacking in a relationship. She told me that she is emotionally attracted to me, but not physically attracted to me and she is confused about that. This guy is older than me and has more money than me, but what if he gives her better sex too. These answers, I will probably never know, but all I know is either she's confused in what she wants or she doesn't give a rats ass about me in general. What do you think?

[Jay745]

She sounds like a total disordered sociopath that likes to manipulate and play with people.

 

Run far and fast.

 

Never contact her again.

 

If it turns out she's pregnant, demand a paternity test.

 

Never, ever trust this person for even two seconds.

 

If you are drowning in the ocean and she pulls up on a boat to throw you a life preserver, ignore her and wait for the coast guard.

 

You're totally right.

I read somewhere that there is no excuse for cheating, but some excuses make sense. I'm not saying that what she did was right, because cheating is not right at all. Cheating is selfish and immoral, but it happens when something is usually lacking in a relationship. She told me that she is emotionally attracted to me, but not physically attracted to me and she is confused about that. This guy is older than me and has more money than me, but what if he gives her better sex too. These answers, I will probably never know, but all I know is either she's confused in what she wants or she doesn't give a rats ass about me in general. She never truly apologized to me. Maybe because I shut her up about her apology?.What do you think?

[smudge21]

That is what is called definite closure. You allowed her back because you still saw the good person, the person that got you attracted to her in the first place and who got your love. Often we will ignore all the obvious bad signs because we simply want to believe that these people who we invest so much of ourselves in are truly amazing people who are worthy of us. We then fall in to a trap where we refuse to accept their faults as to do so would mean we were wrong all along. So we keep accepting them back, keep making excuses for their behaviour, keep believing that one day they will be the person we've made them out to be.

 

 

It's only when something as horrible as this occurs that we finally snap and reality kicks us in the gut. You've had the worse time and there's no easy way to get past this, but at least you fully totally 100% can see the truth now. Her actions and attitude towards you and others is a clear sign of someone with serious issues and she's never ever going to be relationship material (horror film material maybe). Your anger will now replace any emotional feelings but eventually that will help you let go fully. It sucks that people can treat others like this, but it happens. There's simply some bad eggs out there. At least you told the other guy and hopefully he'll run a mile too.

 

 

For what it's worth, I remember one girl who cheated on me and I took her back, then the day I did, she cheated again. I confronted her and I remember asking about what she said about never cheating again, was it all a lie.. her response was simply "yeah I guess so" - that was the kicker, the moment that I saw the truth and walked away for good. Some people just simply don't care or have the capacity to love.

 

 

I hope at least now things start to get better. Don't feed this troll and definitely get a test if she truly is pregnant. Crikey, it's shocking that people like this are allowed out in public!

[elaine567]

She is a "hot" young woman who is getting more offers from men than she knows what to do with, so she just agrees to it all as it is fun.

She is the kid in the candy store.

 

The OP unfortunately wanted more, but you cannot make a gf out of someone like this, any more than you can make a bf out of a guy "playing the field".

Maybe in 10 years when she grows up she will be perfect gf material, but not now.

[Toodaloo]

Urgh she sounds like a real piece of work...

 

I don't think the other guys will like her all that much either once they learn what she is like!

 

Don't give this girl a second glance she really is not "all that".

[sandylee1]

The only thing you shouldn't have done was break her phone. I suggest you sort that out for her.

Apart from that... she's not worth the time of day.. she's an easy lay for everyone. No guy wants a girl like that.

 

There's plenty decent girls who don't sleep around. Block and delete her every way possible. If she comes back... her you don't want a girlfriend who will drop her knickers quite so easily.

 

You either have morals or you don't... she DOESN'T.

[Jay745]

That is what is called definite closure. You allowed her back because you still saw the good person, the person that got you attracted to her in the first place and who got your love. Often we will ignore all the obvious bad signs because we simply want to believe that these people who we invest so much of ourselves in are truly amazing people who are worthy of us. We then fall in to a trap where we refuse to accept their faults as to do so would mean we were wrong all along. So we keep accepting them back, keep making excuses for their behaviour, keep believing that one day they will be the person we've made them out to be.

 

 

It's only when something as horrible as this occurs that we finally snap and reality kicks us in the gut. You've had the worse time and there's no easy way to get past this, but at least you fully totally 100% can see the truth now. Her actions and attitude towards you and others is a clear sign of someone with serious issues and she's never ever going to be relationship material (horror film material maybe). Your anger will now replace any emotional feelings but eventually that will help you let go fully. It sucks that people can treat others like this, but it happens. There's simply some bad eggs out there. At least you told the other guy and hopefully he'll run a mile too.

 

 

For what it's worth, I remember one girl who cheated on me and I took her back, then the day I did, she cheated again. I confronted her and I remember asking about what she said about never cheating again, was it all a lie.. her response was simply "yeah I guess so" - that was the kicker, the moment that I saw the truth and walked away for good. Some people just simply don't care or have the capacity to love.

 

 

I hope at least now things start to get better. Don't feed this troll and definitely get a test if she truly is pregnant. Crikey, it's shocking that people like this are allowed out in public!

 

I feel terrible! I cry atleast 3 times a day. I think about her every second. I wake up in the morning thinking about her and then I get very depressed knowing what she did to me. I'm losing it. I've never ever felt this much pain in my life. Idk what to do. I'm usually a strong, confident person but all of that is gone now. No matter what I do keeps her off my mind. I tried talking to other girls, but she was the best (when she actually treated me well). I need some guidance and help guys. I've been venting to my friends, but nothing helps.

[Jay745]

She is a "hot" young woman who is getting more offers from men than she knows what to do with, so she just agrees to it all as it is fun.

She is the kid in the candy store.

 

The OP unfortunately wanted more, but you cannot make a gf out of someone like this, any more than you can make a bf out of a guy "playing the field".

Maybe in 10 years when she grows up she will be perfect gf material, but not now.

 

She is very hot! But when we were together she was not like this. She would turn down every single guy that hit on her. She loved me and genuinely cared for me. I guess after the breakup she found someone better and now won't let go of him. I'm devastated! I just want her to be sorry for what she did and realize how bad she hurt me, but showing my pain to her will only give her more power. Am I right? We've been through so much. I can't believe she would do this to me.

[Jay745]

Urgh she sounds like a real piece of work...

 

I don't think the other guys will like her all that much either once they learn what she is like!

 

Don't give this girl a second glance she really is not "all that".

 

Why do I feel like the other guy doesn't care what she did to him and me? I feel like she is going to come across as really loving and caring to him because the way she treated me in the beginning was the best feeling ever. I can't fathom what she has done. I have screenshots of everything she sent him and it breaks my heart that she would speak to him like that while she was with me and speaking to me like that to.

[Jay745]

The only thing you shouldn't have done was break her phone. I suggest you sort that out for her.

Apart from that... she's not worth the time of day.. she's an easy lay for everyone. No guy wants a girl like that.

 

There's plenty decent girls who don't sleep around. Block and delete her every way possible. If she comes back... her you don't want a girlfriend who will drop her knickers quite so easily.

 

You either have morals or you don't... she DOESN'T.

 

I already apologized for her phone a few days ago. That's when she asked me to hangout but I told her that I didn't want to waste my time. I treated her bad in the relationship and now she is coming back twice as hard on me. I cheated on her a couple time too, but not really. I was only talking to girls on social media. I never took it that far. I was also friends with this girl I had sex with and she wouldn't allow it, but I told her that I promise there is nothing going. There really wasn't anything going on, but I guess she took it that way because she would always get so jealous and confront her about it. This is all a big mess and nothing is working for me.

But when I got back with her I actually changed as a person, but she took advantage of that. Why would she do that? Does she not want to trust me again? Has she labeled me as a permemant enemy? I heard when girls fall out of love they never treat you the same.

Edited March 3, 2016 by Jay745

[smudge21]

I feel terrible! I cry atleast 3 times a day. I think about her every second. I wake up in the morning thinking about her and then I get very depressed knowing what she did to me. I'm losing it. I've never ever felt this much pain in my life. Idk what to do. I'm usually a strong, confident person but all of that is gone now. No matter what I do keeps her off my mind. I tried talking to other girls, but she was the best (when she actually treated me well). I need some guidance and help guys. I've been venting to my friends, but nothing helps.

 

Whoa, slow down there. Are you expecting to feel perfectly fine after all this in only few days, weeks, even months? Look around, find one person on here who has got over a bad break up in only a few days. You're expecting miracles my friend. The fact she's still in your life is not going to help either. You can't heal from a wound without first covering it up, in the same way you can't heal from this until you cut her out of your life for good.

 

 

"she was the best" really? The best? Are you sure? I would say she was the best you had at that precise moment in your life. Hell, we all think we've found "the one" (found her four times so far, which makes no sense) but it's only once we're over them are we able to see the truth of what they're really like. She's taken everything from you and is now doing her best to play you and keep you hanging around. Drop her and cut all contact, all social media, everything. You need to take this step otherwise you'll be stuck here, constantly asking "why could she do that" etc (you'll never get an answer to that).

 

 

We've all been here, all been hurt and badly treated, all had the life knocked out of us, all lost someone we thought loved us... you're not alone in this pain, and you won't be alone in the healing either.

[mightycpa]

I don't know why you keep calling and talking to her. That's your problem, and it will continue to be a problem as long as you continue to know her.

 

Wanna get rid of her? Call her and ask her if you can borrow a couple thousand dollars, or whatever is a big amount of money she just might have. Every time she reaches out, ask if you can borrow money from her.

[loveweary11]

Sounds like a typical girl I meet on a day to day basis.

 

Definitely delete/block and move on.

[elaine567]

I just want her to be sorry for what she did and realize how bad she hurt me, but showing my pain to her will only give her more power. Am I right? We've been through so much. I can't believe she would do this to me.

 

I am afraid to say it seems like she is past caring, she doesn't need power over you, she is done with you.

I guess she was done with you as soon as you said your ex was better than her. Thread 1.

People tend not to get over that type of insult easily.

[fireflywy]

Get over her being "hot." That's what you're hung up on. How can I tell? You're asking if she likes sex better with the other guy which means your biggest hurdle is the loss of her BODY and the sense it gave YOU knowing you had her and others didn't (which they DID). You miss her body, not her.

 

Stop focusing on that. A succubus from hell is "hot" too but at the end of the day, they're are still from hell... and she'll suck the life out of the next guy the same way she did you.

 

You can do better than that.

 

Run from this person. Let her torment someone else friend. You are now on a quest to bigger and better things and your journey is just now beginning even though you don't notice it because you keep looking back.

 

Good luck.

Edited March 4, 2016 by fireflywy

[contel3]

Next time a girl goes "ew" on your penis you drop her like a hot potato....

 

You are probably right, the other guy probably doesn't care what she did to both of you. My guess is he doesn't care about her at all and sees her as a sexy plaything to pass time. Why invest any feelings in a person like that?

 

Another thing. I'm really stating the obvious but she's probably doing porn or prostituting herself. Get yourself tested ASAP.

[contel3]

I am afraid to say it seems like she is past caring, she doesn't need power over you, she is done with you.

I guess she was done with you as soon as you said your ex was better than her. Thread 1.

People tend not to get over that type of insult easily.

 

Actually I think she started cheating way before that....

[Jay745]

Actually I think she started cheating way before that....

 

Why would you think that?

[Jay745]

Next time a girl goes "ew" on your penis you drop her like a hot potato....

 

You are probably right, the other guy probably doesn't care what she did to both of you. My guess is he doesn't care about her at all and sees her as a sexy plaything to pass time. Why invest any feelings in a person like that?

 

Another thing. I'm really stating the obvious but she's probably doing porn or prostituting herself. Get yourself tested ASAP.

 

The thing is she used to give me head all the time early in the relationship. As time went on I wasn't treating her well and I think that's when she stopped giving me head all together, but she was still a very caring GF.

I forgot to mention that the other guy said "Thanks for reaching out. BTW my real name is Daisy. JK" So does that mean he knew about me all along?

I don't think she is doing porn or prostituting herself. Maybe I'm just overthinking that part.

[Jay745]

I am afraid to say it seems like she is past caring, she doesn't need power over you, she is done with you.

I guess she was done with you as soon as you said your ex was better than her. Thread 1.

People tend not to get over that type of insult easily.

 

She was done with me, but then we got back together and she made it seem like she liked me emotionally and liked him physically. When I first confronted her about that guy she started crying and told me that she cut him off because he was treating her like an option and that it wasn't fair to either of us what she was doing. But in reality when I was looking through her phone, she went to his house and he wasn't there, nor was he replying to her texts. So that's when she told me all of this. She really just came back because she felt lonely and my dumb ass let her in too easy. Although, i did tell her that we cant be together yet. The last time I confronted her about her still talking to him she said "But you said we weren't together" and i got pissed and called her an idiot. Really? Me saying that doesn't justify her doing that.

[Jay745]

Get over her being "hot." That's what you're hung up on. How can I tell? You're asking if she likes sex better with the other guy which means your biggest hurdle is the loss of her BODY and the sense it gave YOU knowing you had her and others didn't (which they DID). You miss her body, not her.

 

Stop focusing on that. A succubus from hell is "hot" too but at the end of the day, they're are still from hell... and she'll suck the life out of the next guy the same way she did you.

 

You can do better than that.

 

Run from this person. Let her torment someone else friend. You are now on a quest to bigger and better things and your journey is just now beginning even though you don't notice it because you keep looking back.

 

Good luck.

 

That might be one of the reasons I am hung up on her, but also because I never had this much fun in a relationship.Ever. This was the first time I lived with someone and we even have a cat together that we treat her like a daughter. We go on so many adventures together. I'm just so devastated at the fact that I will not have this with a girl for a long long time because I am only 21 and still on college.

 

The guy that she is talking to is 25 and he recently came out of a 6 year relationship (according to her). He is also her ethnicity. He has tattoos and works out a lot. I work out a lot too. Do you think he would actually go out with her, especially since he came out of such a long relationship. He is also 7 years older than her, but idk if that effects how he feels about her.

[Jay745]

Whoa, slow down there. Are you expecting to feel perfectly fine after all this in only few days, weeks, even months? Look around, find one person on here who has got over a bad break up in only a few days. You're expecting miracles my friend. The fact she's still in your life is not going to help either. You can't heal from a wound without first covering it up, in the same way you can't heal from this until you cut her out of your life for good.

 

 

"she was the best" really? The best? Are you sure? I would say she was the best you had at that precise moment in your life. Hell, we all think we've found "the one" (found her four times so far, which makes no sense) but it's only once we're over them are we able to see the truth of what they're really like. She's taken everything from you and is now doing her best to play you and keep you hanging around. Drop her and cut all contact, all social media, everything. You need to take this step otherwise you'll be stuck here, constantly asking "why could she do that" etc (you'll never get an answer to that).

 

 

We've all been here, all been hurt and badly treated, all had the life knocked out of us, all lost someone we thought loved us... you're not alone in this pain, and you won't be alone in the healing either.

 

I feel like when we got back together, i ruined my attraction for her by being too nice, but I was really trying to be better for her. I also feel like I should not have told that guy what kind of person she is and kept it to myself because now I am regretting it. It made me look weak and immature. I pretty much showed her that my confidence and self control suck. I would get so mad at how she cheated on me and call her names. I would just bag on her so hard. What was i supposed to do? I was hurting so much. I even ripped up the flowers i got her and was being very aggressive with everything. If I just had some more self control I probably would have gotten her back and she probably would have never cheated again.

 

Now she just sees that guy as a more confident, respecting, and masculine character. I'm sure she's hanging out with him now and getting slammed good.

 

Idk why i keep beating myself over this. I know she is a bad person for what she did, but I should have done things a little different. This is why i tried to avoid feelings with her for so long and would treat her like side, because I don't trust women with my feelings.

 

Oh and I forgot to mention that she has a narcissist personality. My friends would always tell me that there is something really off about her.

Edited March 6, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Jay745]

So I did some private investigation and I found out the guy is actually 30 years old. My ex is 18. Always knew she was a gold digger. I somewhat feel better knowing this age gap. It is literally 2 different stages of there lives. Idk I feel like she can manipulate him and end up getting with him like she did with me. I tried letting her go 3 times but every time she was so persistent about not leaving. She would even show up to places that I was at just to see me. It was quite weird but I ended up catching feelings.