Seriously the most devastating breakup ever!

January 23, 2016

Hi guys, just recently registered. I'm going through one of the worst breakups ever. I'm only 20, but you guys have to understand that I'm very mature for my age and had a ton of experience with women. Doesn't sound believable, but it's true. I know I know I should move on from her. We broke up last week, due to an argument.

I have been with my gf (now ex) for 1 year and 2 months. Honestly, the most amazing girl I ever met. She has nothing on my exes and my exes were hot. She would always want me to ask her out to be her gf in the beginning, but I always said it was too early. She really really wanted to be with me and made me feel like the world for 8 months! After 8 months, I asked her to be my GF. I never asked her out, mainly because she lived a little far, but she moved near me, for me. It was a great relationship. I admit, sometimes I was lazy around her apartment and didn't do much, but I started to be a better boyfriend soon after.

She would always tell me that she wants a boob job, but I would tell her no. She told me she didn't want one anymore and i got a little upset because she was telling me for months she was getting one, but then a little after i got over it. We had our fights. Most of the fights that were my fault were related to herself and there was ONLY TWO. The first time I got upset with her was because she didn't want to have sex (which was like about a year into the relationship). She would always want to have sex in the beginning and I was the one that would tell her we're having it too much! Now she was the one that didn't want it. One day she started crying that I'm always giving her a hard time about the whole sex thing. I genuinely apologized and felt really bad, but you guys have to understand that the sex was barely there.

I noticed the last 3 weeks she was being a tad bit distant and getting angry more frequently. I honestly did not think much of it because she still spoke to me in a loving manner like usual. The second time I messed up was last week. She was with her family for about a week and we were just talking over text until i brought up the whole situation how she doesn't give me blowjobs anymore. I have brought this up to her multiple time because she would always give me blow jobs in the beginning and then she stopped because she said my penis is musty or she doesn't like the way it tastes or blah blah. Just different excuses every time i asked her, but these were the main ones. I also never ate her out which I should have because I promised to do it on New Years.

I didn't ask her about this for a long long time until last week. I pretty much texted her saying how she lied to me. How she only did it to impress me. How my ex is better. Yeah, I'm a complete fool and an *******. I wasn't thinking about her feelings at all. She told me to stop or she's going to breakup with me, but I continued anyways. Then she broke up with me through text. I was blocked everywhere (not the first time).

A few days later I had to reach her through my sister because I was still blocked. I went all the way to her hometown and brought her flowers. She told my sister that she doesn't want to see, talk, or look at me. I had no choice, but to go home and left the flowers at her doorstep. That day I left her a very sincere apology through voice mail. I messaged her on instagram saying that I left her a voice mail but she didn't get it because I was blocked. We exchanged a few words and I told her hopefully we can remain friends. Then, I was unblocked on everything.

I texted her the next day asking if she wanted to go do something. She didn't reply at all. She later tagged me on instagram in a post. I thought things were slowly getting better so i tagged her in a post too. Then today she posted a picture of her holding icecream and another guy was holding icecream too. All i saw was his wrist, which had a tattoo on it. I called her not too long ago and she didn't pick up. I tried calling her again, but immediately, right after the first phone call, she blocked me. I was so confused at why she would do that.

Then I messaged her on instagram saying that I tried caliing her and I would like to talk to her. She didn't reply, but read it. Then I messaged her a very sincere-short apology about what I did and that it wont happen again because she didn't get the voice mails, so i thought why not. She didn't reply, but read it again. Then she blocked me on instagram. Now, im blocked everywhere. Now, I know you guys think she is talking to another guy and I do too, but let's think outside the box. She might have put that picture there to get my attention and it could have been a family member. Anyways, I take full responsibility for my actions and my selfishness, but I did not expect this at all. She has pretty much went COLD TURKEY ON ME. I'm going to try my best to move on now. What are your guys thoughts? Should I have not contacted her? Did I sound desperate?

Thank you

January 23, 2016

My thoughts are this: For someone who claims to be very mature and to have a lot of experience with women, you sure haven't learned very much about women and you behaved very immaturely indeed.

I don't doubt that she's no angel but you are equally at fault here. Telling her your ex is better is incredibly hurtful. I wouldn't want to talk to you anymore either.

Sorry, but I think you two need to stay broken up You have a long way to go in learning how to communicate your unhappiness. You opted for a low blow and that says a lot.

Just leave her be now. She knows you're sorry. There's not much else you can do here but move on.

January 23, 2016

Hi guys, just recently registered. I'm going through one of the worst breakups ever. I'm only 20, but you guys have to understand that I'm very mature for my age and had a ton of experience with women. Doesn't sound believable, but it's true. I know I know I should move on from her. We broke up last week, due to an argument.

I have been with my gf (now ex) for 1 year and 2 months. Honestly, the most amazing girl I ever met. She has nothing on my exes and my exes were hot. She would always want me to ask her out to be her gf in the beginning, but I always said it was too early. She really really wanted to be with me and made me feel like the world for 8 months! After 8 months, I asked her to be my GF. I never asked her out, mainly because she lived a little far, but she moved near me, for me. It was a great relationship. I admit, sometimes I was lazy around her apartment and didn't do much, but I started to be a better boyfriend soon after.

She would always tell me that she wants a boob job, but I would tell her no. She told me she didn't want one anymore and i got a little upset because she was telling me for months she was getting one, but then a little after i got over it. We had our fights. Most of the fights that were my fault were related to herself and there was ONLY TWO. The first time I got upset with her was because she didn't want to have sex (which was like about a year into the relationship). She would always want to have sex in the beginning and I was the one that would tell her we're having it too much! Now she was the one that didn't want it. One day she started crying that I'm always giving her a hard time about the whole sex thing. I genuinely apologized and felt really bad, but you guys have to understand that the sex was barely there.

I noticed the last 3 weeks she was being a tad bit distant and getting angry more frequently. I honestly did not think much of it because she still spoke to me in a loving manner like usual. The second time I messed up was last week. She was with her family for about a week and we were just talking over text until i brought up the whole situation how she doesn't give me blowjobs anymore. I have brought this up to her multiple time because she would always give me blow jobs in the beginning and then she stopped because she said my penis is musty or she doesn't like the way it tastes or blah blah. Just different excuses every time i asked her, but these were the main ones. I also never ate her out which I should have because I promised to do it on New Years.

I didn't ask her about this for a long long time until last week. I pretty much texted her saying how she lied to me. How she only did it to impress me. How my ex is better. Yeah, I'm a complete fool and an *******. I wasn't thinking about her feelings at all. She told me to stop or she's going to breakup with me, but I continued anyways. Then she broke up with me through text. I was blocked everywhere (not the first time).

A few days later I had to reach her through my sister because I was still blocked. I went all the way to her hometown and brought her flowers. She told my sister that she doesn't want to see, talk, or look at me. I had no choice, but to go home and left the flowers at her doorstep. That day I left her a very sincere apology through voice mail. I messaged her on instagram saying that I left her a voice mail but she didn't get it because I was blocked. We exchanged a few words and I told her hopefully we can remain friends. Then, I was unblocked on everything.

I texted her the next day asking if she wanted to go do something. She didn't reply at all. She later tagged me on instagram in a post. I thought things were slowly getting better so i tagged her in a post too. Then today she posted a picture of her holding icecream and another guy was holding icecream too. All i saw was his wrist, which had a tattoo on it. I called her not too long ago and she didn't pick up. I tried calling her again, but immediately, right after the first phone call, she blocked me. I was so confused at why she would do that.

Then I messaged her on instagram saying that I tried caliing her and I would like to talk to her. She didn't reply, but read it. Then I messaged her a very sincere-short apology about what I did and that it wont happen again because she didn't get the voice mails, so i thought why not. She didn't reply, but read it again. Then she blocked me on instagram. Now, im blocked everywhere. Now, I know you guys think she is talking to another guy and I do too, but let's think outside the box. She might have put that picture there to get my attention and it could have been a family member. Anyways, I take full responsibility for my actions and my selfishness, but I did not expect this at all. She has pretty much went COLD TURKEY ON ME. I'm going to try my best to move on now. What are your guys thoughts? Should I have not contacted her? Did I sound desperate?
Thank you

You gotta leave her alone man. She stopped responding for a reason, more than likely because you were pushing away. Also, yes sexual activities are important in relationships, but to go and insult your ex just because she doesn't blow you, come on now. Ever think about the fact that maybe she simply doesn't enjoy it? I mean you wouldn't go down on her why should she? I mean honestly man what did you was going to happen when you told her your ex was better? If you truly love someone, the amount of bjs you get are not important. Take this as a lesson and move on. NC...leave her alone, if she wants to come back she will, but not by you begging. Going to be brutally honest, don't think she will because of your actions and honestly not the right way to treat someone you care about.

January 23, 2016

My thoughts are this: For someone who claims to be very mature and to have a lot of experience with women, you sure haven't learned very much about women and you behaved very immaturely indeed.

I don't doubt that she's no angel but you are equally at fault here. Telling her your ex is better is incredibly hurtful. I wouldn't want to talk to you anymore either.

Sorry, but I think you two need to stay broken up You have a long way to go in learning how to communicate your unhappiness. You opted for a low blow and that says a lot.

Just leave her be now. She knows you're sorry. There's not much else you can do here but move on.

You're right. I messed up and wasn't being very mature, but really I was being more selfish if anything. Just caring about my needs. Thanks for the input. What do you think about her moving on to another guy so quickly? Well, that is if she did. Would a girl that loved you so much do that all of a sudden? I understand she has reasons to and if she did then it is what it is.

January 23, 2016

You gotta leave her alone man. She stopped responding for a reason, more than likely because you were pushing away. Also, yes sexual activities are important in relationships, but to go and insult your ex just because she doesn't blow you, come on now. Ever think about the fact that maybe she simply doesn't enjoy it? I mean you wouldn't go down on her why should she? I mean honestly man what did you was going to happen when you told her your ex was better? If you truly love someone, the amount of bjs you get are not important. Take this as a lesson and move on. NC...leave her alone, if she wants to come back she will, but not by you begging. Going to be brutally honest, don't think she will because of your actions and honestly not the right way to treat someone you care about.

Yeah you're right. Do you honestly think I was begging? I feel like I didn't really say much because one, she didn't get my voice mails and two, the breakup is fresh so I should try my best apologize, but not be a wuss about it. I feel like I didn't fight hard enough, but after that second apology, it was just enough. I know that I shouldn't bother her anymore, obviously.

January 23, 2016

You're right. I messed up and wasn't being very mature, but really I was being more selfish if anything. Just caring about my needs. Thanks for the input. What do you think about her moving on to another guy so quickly? Well, that is if she did. Would a girl that loved you so much do that all of a sudden? I understand she has reasons to and if she did then it is what it is.

Nope, she wouldn't. Honestly, she's probably not with that guy or like you said could be family. In these moments our brains leads us to the worst possible scenario. She would need to grieve if she loved you so much, unless she's one of those that can go guy to guy.

January 23, 2016

How would you guys explain her reasoning to unblock me on instagram and tag me in posts and then the next day post that picture of getting ice cream with that someone and then cut me off?

January 23, 2016

Nope, she wouldn't. Honestly, she's probably not with that guy or like you said could be family. In these moments our brains leads us to the worst possible scenario. She would need to grieve if she loved you so much, unless she's one of those that can go guy to guy.

Yeah that makes sense, but how would you explain her reasoning to unblock me on instagram and tag me in posts and then the next day post that picture of getting ice cream with that someone and then cut me off?

January 23, 2016

How would you guys explain her reasoning to unblock me on instagram and tag me in posts and then the next day post that picture of getting ice cream with that someone and then cut me off?

She's probably trying to hurt you the same way you hurt her.

It's immature, yes. But I sense it's out of a sense of retaliation and not because she's thinking of reconciling at this point.

Telling her your ex was better is not just being selfish. That was designed to hit below the belt and she knows it. She's hurt and probably humiliated.

January 23, 2016

You seem to think that the only thing that matters is you getting what you want.

Relationships are about give and take.

January 23, 2016

Don't bother her. You gave her enough reasons to feel herself miserable and pathetic. Try to learn from this experience that love is not just about blowjobs and the world is not just about you and your needs.

January 23, 2016

She's probably trying to hurt you the same way you hurt her.

It's immature, yes. But I sense it's out of a sense of retaliation and not because she's thinking of reconciling at this point.

Telling her your ex was better is not just being selfish. That was designed to hit below the belt and she knows it. She's hurt and probably humiliated.

Right I know i really hurt her. It feels like she doesn't care about me at all now. Seems like she's done and just wants to get rid of me, while being brutal about it.

January 23, 2016

You seem to think that the only thing that matters is you getting what you want.

Relationships are about give and take.

I admit to being an *******, but I'm not that terrible. I have been a good boyfriend most of the time. When I was talking to her through my sister. She told my sister that it's officially over and that this relationship is emotionally draining. Of course, this all happened before the whole instagram thing. After she told my sister this, thats when she unblocked me and talked to me for a bit.

January 23, 2016

I admit to being an *******, but I'm not that terrible. *I have been a good boyfriend most of the time. When I was talking to her through my sister. She told my sister that it's officially over and that this relationship is emotionally draining. Of course, this all happened before the whole instagram thing. After she told my sister this, thats when she unblocked me and talked to me for a bit.

*It doesn't look like she agrees with you about that.

January 23, 2016

Nope, she wouldn't. Honestly, she's probably not with that guy or like you said could be family. In these moments our brains leads us to the worst possible scenario. She would need to grieve if she loved you so much, unless she's one of those that can go guy to guy.

When a woman breaks up with a guy she is usually thinking about it ahead of time and to be honest I felt like she was a little distant, but nothing too obvious. She still showed the same affection. Some woman even start talking to another guy before leaving. We had this issue where she would never let me look at her phone. She never gave me a reason to look at it, but she would ask to look at mine. I let her, but stopped because why should I when I can't look at hers. It was just sketchy. Like I said, she didn't give me a reason to accuse her of cheating so I didn't ask her about it anymore.

January 23, 2016

Hi guys, just recently registered. I'm going through one of the worst breakups ever. I'm only 20, but you guys have to understand that I'm very mature for my age and had a ton of experience with women. Doesn't sound believable, but it's true. I know I know I should move on from her. We broke up last week, due to an argument.

I have been with my gf (now ex) for 1 year and 2 months. Honestly, the most amazing girl I ever met. She has nothing on my exes and my exes were hot. She would always want me to ask her out to be her gf in the beginning, but I always said it was too early. She really really wanted to be with me and made me feel like the world for 8 months! After 8 months, I asked her to be my GF. I never asked her out, mainly because she lived a little far, but she moved near me, for me. It was a great relationship. I admit, sometimes I was lazy around her apartment and didn't do much, but I started to be a better boyfriend soon after.

She would always tell me that she wants a boob job, but I would tell her no. She told me she didn't want one anymore and i got a little upset because she was telling me for months she was getting one, but then a little after i got over it. We had our fights. Most of the fights that were my fault were related to herself and there was ONLY TWO. The first time I got upset with her was because she didn't want to have sex (which was like about a year into the relationship). She would always want to have sex in the beginning and I was the one that would tell her we're having it too much! Now she was the one that didn't want it. One day she started crying that I'm always giving her a hard time about the whole sex thing. I genuinely apologized and felt really bad, but you guys have to understand that the sex was barely there.

I noticed the last 3 weeks she was being a tad bit distant and getting angry more frequently. I honestly did not think much of it because she still spoke to me in a loving manner like usual. The second time I messed up was last week. She was with her family for about a week and we were just talking over text until i brought up the whole situation how she doesn't give me blowjobs anymore. I have brought this up to her multiple time because she would always give me blow jobs in the beginning and then she stopped because she said my penis is musty or she doesn't like the way it tastes or blah blah. Just different excuses every time i asked her, but these were the main ones. I also never ate her out which I should have because I promised to do it on New Years.

I didn't ask her about this for a long long time until last week. I pretty much texted her saying how she lied to me. How she only did it to impress me. How my ex is better. Yeah, I'm a complete fool and an *******. I wasn't thinking about her feelings at all. She told me to stop or she's going to breakup with me, but I continued anyways. Then she broke up with me through text. I was blocked everywhere (not the first time).

A few days later I had to reach her through my sister because I was still blocked. I went all the way to her hometown and brought her flowers. She told my sister that she doesn't want to see, talk, or look at me. I had no choice, but to go home and left the flowers at her doorstep. That day I left her a very sincere apology through voice mail. I messaged her on instagram saying that I left her a voice mail but she didn't get it because I was blocked. We exchanged a few words and I told her hopefully we can remain friends. Then, I was unblocked on everything.

I texted her the next day asking if she wanted to go do something. She didn't reply at all. She later tagged me on instagram in a post. I thought things were slowly getting better so i tagged her in a post too. Then today she posted a picture of her holding icecream and another guy was holding icecream too. All i saw was his wrist, which had a tattoo on it. I called her not too long ago and she didn't pick up. I tried calling her again, but immediately, right after the first phone call, she blocked me. I was so confused at why she would do that.

Then I messaged her on instagram saying that I tried caliing her and I would like to talk to her. She didn't reply, but read it. Then I messaged her a very sincere-short apology about what I did and that it wont happen again because she didn't get the voice mails, so i thought why not. She didn't reply, but read it again. Then she blocked me on instagram. Now, im blocked everywhere. Now, I know you guys think she is talking to another guy and I do too, but let's think outside the box. She might have put that picture there to get my attention and it could have been a family member. Anyways, I take full responsibility for my actions and my selfishness, but I did not expect this at all. She has pretty much went COLD TURKEY ON ME. I'm going to try my best to move on now. What are your guys thoughts? Should I have not contacted her? Did I sound desperate?
Thank you

For a story about the most devastating breakup ever, I was hoping to read at least a little of some of the good stuff about her... which got me to thinking. You see, the great thing about writing your story down is that if you do it enough, you'll notice little things that will help you stop lying to yourself, and help you get over your ex. There's plenty in here to work with, and that's only the stuff you included.

Keep working at it. You'll see.

January 23, 2016

When a woman breaks up with a guy she is usually thinking about it ahead of time...

?!?

So, when men break up with a woman, it's usually a spur-of-the-moment thing, and done without any forethought?

I did not know that. Thanks for revealing the secret.

January 23, 2016

I didn't feel like you are "experienced" with women at all from your post.

January 23, 2016

For a story about the most devastating breakup ever, I was hoping to read at least a little of some of the good stuff about her... which got me to thinking. You see, the great thing about writing your story down is that if you do it enough, you'll notice little things that will help you stop lying to yourself, and help you get over your ex. There's plenty in here to work with, and that's only the stuff you included.

Keep working at it. You'll see.

To be completely honest I can go on for days why she's amazing, but I'm here to talk about why she broke up with me. Also, what am I lying to myself about? What you think could be a lie could be the truth to someone else. I'm not the type of guy to sit around and cry over my ex. Sure, in the beginning it's tough, but I'm not going to sit here and type nonsense because I would be not benefiting from it at all.

January 23, 2016

?!?

So, when men break up with a woman, it's usually a spur-of-the-moment thing, and done without any forethought?

I did not know that. Thanks for revealing the secret.

Glad you caught on

January 24, 2016

?!?

So, when men break up with a woman, it's usually a spur-of-the-moment thing, and done without any forethought?

I did not know that. Thanks for revealing the secret.

He meant it in the sense that women are more in touch with their emotions and usually have better support structures.

And yes guys have more potential of making poorer decisions when it comes to breakups. They also they also tend to change their decision more, based on ego etc.

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