MovingOnIsHard Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Pretty much. If you're in a relationship, you should treat everyday like Valentine's Day. My SO and I decided we were going to make Feb 19 Valentine's Day this year because it suits both of us haha
todreaminblue Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Lordy...that's pathetic... I'll spend the money on ANY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR!! When I WANT TO, when I FEEL it's the right time...NOT when some institution TELLS ME TOO! i understand what you mean i feel the same way.....i dont hate valentines day...as i wrote before it has origins that are interesting......and i dont hold it against others for wanting to celebrate it...i just dont like the money thing either..i have had guys give me valentines day gifts and i thank them for them and i mean that...i just dont expect anything on that day at all.....because i really dont believe in its authenticity.....deb
Gaeta Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Lordy...that's pathetic... I'll spend the money on ANY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR!! When I WANT TO, when I FEEL it's the right time...NOT when some institution TELLS ME TOO! All I hear in your rant is me me me me me me. Do you have the same aggressiveness toward all the other celebrations of just V day?
iphone_user1 Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 They say it's all about how she feels, but what about how you feel!
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 All I hear in your rant is me me me me me me. Do you have the same aggressiveness toward all the other celebrations of just V day? 1. If you can only see "me me me" in my post then I can't help your lack of basic English comprehension, or your deep-seated prejudices. 2. It IS nearly V day, it;s a big subject on this dating forum, close to the day. Yes, actually I do have a strong dislike towards institutionalized celebrations, but now and here is not the place to discuss them. Look up where Santa Claus actually came from...for example. And what do chocolate rabbits have to do with the Death and Resurrection of Christ? Why do we give EACH OTHER presents, and not to the poor, like St Nicholas?
Gaeta Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Lordy...that's pathetic... I'll spend the money on ANY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR!! When I WANT TO, when I FEEL it's the right time...NOT when some institution TELLS ME TOO! There is nothing wrong with my comprehension of the English language. This is all about your wants, your feelings, your spending but V day is not about YOU. It's about the person that is with you. If you cannot find it in yourself and put aside your view on the subject to please the person in a relationship with you '' when she likes V day'' then I suggest you look the word selflessness in your own English dictionary !
GR4 Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 As much as I dislike Valentine's Day it is only one day out of the year so I would put that to one side and make some sort of effort. I agree that it is marketed as a day to treat the woman in your life rather than the man but to be fair my ex always made me a beautiful card and got me a little present and I'm sure most women do too. 2
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 There is nothing wrong with my comprehension of the English language. This is all about your wants, your feelings, your spending but V day is not about YOU. It's about the person that is with you. If you cannot find it in yourself and put aside your view on the subject to please the person in a relationship with you '' when she likes V day'' then I suggest you look the word selflessness in your own English dictionary ! Aah, I get you... So, if I am dating a woman who expects me to "be romantic" on Valentine's day, you know what... I talk about it... I express my opinion about the ultimate meaninglessness of doing something because of a social expectation, rather than a natural process based on our individual needs and circumstances. Fundamentally, I'm not attracted to people who feel compelled to act in a way, or expect their partner to, simply because all the other sheep do. If she insisted that this is what she wanted...then yes, of course I'd comply, but I'd also be a little disappointed about her mindset. Like if she wanted to watch some inane reality show, or only listened to top 40 music... I'd question my compatibility with her... 1
truth_seeker Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Valentine's Day is a celebration of prostitution. Men spend money on gifts > women receives gifts > men get sex from women
Gaeta Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Valentine's Day is a celebration of prostitution. Men spend money on gifts > women receives gifts > men get sex from women The 'gifts' on V day is American? Where I am from we go out to dinner or make a romantic dinner home, the ladies get flowers, the guy gets a card and his favorite cake or something but there is no buying of gifts.
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 Don't worry he is probably just having a piss because the girl who cheated with him did not end up leaving her actual BF and OP is all alone on V-Day ohh snap Woo... Go you...
Wewon Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 The 'gifts' on V day is American? Where I am from we go out to dinner or make a romantic dinner home, the ladies get flowers, the guy gets a card and his favorite cake or something but there is no buying of gifts. It may be generational, because my experiences with VD is the same as above (throw in a box of chocolates). 1
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 I think that this is a bit ironic. I don't necessarily agree with the OP in total, however, I think that this is part of the reason that many people feel the way they do about valentines day. Its the whole "chicks will dig it" mentality that is used to promote it. One of the things that was specified in the OP was the motives that people have for celebrating VD and differentiating between people that did it in the spirit of caring vs people that did it out of conformity. Careful now, we can't have intelligent, thoughtful responses here...!
Cappycorny Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 I totally agree. The marketeers and sales psychologists will probably come up with Albatross Day next, the day when you have to buy cheese for your cable guy. Love the people you love every day, or give up using the word! Lol. Lol! 1
sagamore Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 You know, there was a time when I would have posted something like the OP. I was always too cool for Valentine's Day. Who needs that rote, sexist, hackneyed, commercialized holiday anyway? I hate Kay Jewelers and I can't stand red roses. Or jacked-up prix fixe dinners. Then I got married. And had a baby. Who had medical problems. I have had people close to me die suddenly, with no chance to say good-bye. I've experienced how tough it is to keep a relationship going - even one where you sincerely love each other. We're both so tired. It requires a lot of focused effort. So I guess now I've come around. I'm happy for any chance I get, stupid drugstore holiday or not, to remind my tired, middle-aged ass to tell the people in my life that I love them. Yes, it's a ritual. But rituals have meaning to a lot of people - including some I love very much, like my mom, my little girl, and my husband. And when people are gone...sometimes it's the rituals you remember most. For your consideration, OP. 3
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 You know, there was a time when I would have posted something like the OP. I was always too cool for Valentine's Day. Who needs that rote, sexist, hackneyed, commercialized holiday anyway? I hate Kay Jewelers and I can't stand red roses. Or jacked-up prix fixe dinners. Then I got married. And had a baby. Who had medical problems. I have had people close to me die suddenly, with no chance to say good-bye. I've experienced how tough it is to keep a relationship going - even one where you sincerely love each other. We're both so tired. It requires a lot of focused effort. So I guess now I've come around. I'm happy for any chance I get, stupid drugstore holiday or not, to remind my tired, middle-aged ass to tell the people in my life that I love them. Yes, it's a ritual. But rituals have meaning to a lot of people - including some I love very much, like my mom, my little girl, and my husband. And when people are gone...sometimes it's the rituals you remember most. For your consideration, OP. If you need an "event" to remind you to tell the people in your life you love them, well, what can i say...go with what works for you. Why not put some reminders in your phone calendar: "Say Hi to mum" "Tell wife I love her (buy flowers, she likes daffodils)"
sagamore Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 If you need an "event" to remind you to tell the people in your life you love them, well, what can i say...go with what works for you. Why not put some reminders in your phone calendar: "Say Hi to mum" "Tell wife I love her (buy flowers, she likes daffodils)" Thank you for the advice! I don't have a wife, but general reminders are always helpful. And Happy Valentine's Day 1
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 Thank you for the advice! I don't have a wife, but general reminders are always helpful. And Happy Valentine's Day Are we dating? God you have a crush on me? Reminds me last year I had hired an Indian man to work on my service desk, extremely polite guy (Always calling me "sir"). He texted me: "Happy Father's Day" I replied: "I didn't know you were my son"
sagamore Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 My brothers call to wish me a happy Mother's Day. I'm not their mother. My own mom sent my daughter a Valentine's Day package. They're not married Your employee sounds very kind. Have a great night and Happy Tuesday!
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 My brothers call to wish me a happy Mother's Day. I'm not their mother. My own mom sent my daughter a Valentine's Day package. They're not married Your employee sounds very kind. Have a great night and Happy Tuesday! Oh yeah, that reminded me, the 9-year old daughter of me ex used to spend ages hand drawing valentine's day cards for her mum... Innocence of childhood of course, but it was ironic considering how intertwined and codependent their relationship was.
MidwestUSA Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Well, every Hallmark holiday is followed by 50% off chocolate at the corner drugstore. You can find me there at midnight. 1
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 Well, every Hallmark holiday is followed by 50% off chocolate at the corner drugstore. You can find me there at midnight. Yeah, the best time to by the ridiculously expensive Lindt bunnies is one week after Easter, when they;re all half price! FYI in Australia at Easter (i.e. now!) they sell for $5..each...!
Emilia Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 I can't stand VD the same way I can't stand the christmas shopping spree. Just commercial nonsense of badly designed cheap tat.
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 I can't stand VD the same way I can't stand the christmas shopping spree. Just commercial nonsense of badly designed cheap tat. Oh come on, you NEED a dancing, singing electronic xmas tree!! http://www.amazon.co.uk/Dancing-Xmas-Tree-Battery-Operated/dp/B005VPRRS2
Author yxalitis Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 I totally agree. The marketeers and sales psychologists will probably come up with Albatross Day next, the day when you have to buy cheese for your cable guy. Love the people you love every day, or give up using the word! Lol. Best Post EVER!
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