frus69 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Add: I don't know how he acted while on dates with you. I would give him another chance if he was respectful and not pushy. If he invited you over at 10pm then invited you again for sex then kept suggesting it afterwards and if you felt he was being pushy then I wouldn't see him anymore or I would tell him directly he should leave if he only wants sex
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I have a radar for players. Not one single guy I've dated for the last year hasn't been one. But this one here doesn't sound like a player to you? If your little sister told you some stranger on the internet invited her to meet at 10 pm what would you think? Whether it was for sex or not, the simple fact he thought it was OK to offer a woman to venture out of her home at 10 pm to meet a stranger is indicative he lacks common sense, consideration and is not concerned for your safety. Is that the type of man you want in your relationship? 1
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Brokengirl, is the 85 your year of birth? That makes you 31 in 2016 ?
Author brokengirl85 Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 I really appreciate all the oppinions here. Thank you! I might be a challenge for him...however, and as what happened with the Doctor, these are guys that don't need to invest THAT much to have sex. I don't really know what was going on with the Doctor, but I think he had several options besides me, he was kinda lonely, and probably decided it was a good idea to have some company for dinner. I don't know. As for this guy, yes. I think he wants sex, the sooner the better, and he might be escarse at the moment, so he decided to invest in date with me to see if I'll thank you with some sex. I try to think why they decide to invest in me. I consider myself attractive and sweet, but there are tons of women even more attractive and more sweet than me. I'm somehow naive and I think that's what attract players. Overall, I think I'm trying to re-think all this situation because if really like that, for once, I could be happy and loved, but I realize that all I've written so far is directed to a disaster.
Author brokengirl85 Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 Brokengirl, is the 85 your year of birth? That makes you 31 in 2016 ? No Gaeta. I'm a little older than that...
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I try to think why they decide to invest in me. You cannot figure out all the men you go out with or come across online. You should only try to figure yourself out so the question is, why do YOU invest in this current man?
Author brokengirl85 Posted February 9, 2016 Author Posted February 9, 2016 Gaeta, I like the excitement if the unknown. The mistery and the challenge. All these men are unavailable one way or the other. I found out that highly available men scare me out. I just don't like if they text me all the time, or try to call me, or show up to be needy. I appreciate my time alone, someone who relies on me, suffocates me and scares me. So, I end liking guys who are not into me. I prefer to initiate rather than be chased, to control the situation rather than going with the flow. I hope I can change this. I know I'm attracted to shady guys. Guys who hurt me at the end. Guys who do not choose me.
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 Gaeta, I like the excitement if the unknown. The mistery and the challenge. All these men are unavailable one way or the other. I found out that highly available men scare me out. I just don't like if they text me all the time, or try to call me, or show up to be needy. I appreciate my time alone, someone who relies on me, suffocates me and scares me. So, I end liking guys who are not into me. I prefer to initiate rather than be chased, to control the situation rather than going with the flow. I hope I can change this. I know I'm attracted to shady guys. Guys who hurt me at the end. Guys who do not choose me. You know there is a happy middle between someone suffocating you and someone barely giving you the time of the day.
Qboro90 Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 I have a radar for players. Not one single guy I've dated for the last year hasn't been one. Well then you're radar is obviously defective. You have stated over and over how you can't handle seeing a guy if he's still talking to other girls on OLD or not stating his intentions with you then what are you so surprised about when the relationship/interactions fail If all the guys you go out with are players? Maybe... Just maybe, and I could be wrong here.... But dating guys who date around or enjoy being single and non exclusive.... Isn't the best idea to keep doing over and over and expecting better results.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 there's another guy with his same user name located in the same town, same age, and same picture in a sugardaddy dating site. And it says he's looking for fun. He does say he's single but he adds: Who cares if I'm single or not? in his profile. He doesn't sound like good boyfriend potential with morals like that. I wouldn't waste my time.
hippychick3 Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 People that are attracted to unavailable individuals are unavailable themselves, even if it's at a subconscious level. Until you feel you're deserving of a truly loving and healthy relationship, you will remain unavailable for one. Figure out why you somehow don't think you deserve better and work on fixing that (therapy, self-help books, etc.). Otherwise, this will be a vicious neverending cycle of pain for you. 1
katiegrl Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 (edited) Think of this and try to reply again : I contacted through okcupid last thursday. It was ME initiating. He proposed to meet that same night (10 pm) or sunday or tuesday at a wine bar close to us and he added: "I love a good adventure" I said no, it was too late, but sunday evening sounded good and I added: how about 7 pm? He replied yes and that was all Next day I sent him a message with my phone number, my name and a desire to be contacted prior sunday, so I'll know we're still up. He replied yes, he'll do that but he was traveling at the moment. After that nothing. I'd never go to a date without a confirmation, especially when I don't know the guy at all. He's a perfect stranger to me, I have no idea what he does or even his phone number or his email. Nothing --- **What I do know is that there's another guy with his same user name located in the same town, same age, and same picture in a sugardaddy dating site. And it says he's looking for fun. He does say he's single but he adds: Who cares if I'm single or not? in his profile.*** I googled his okcupid username, that's it. Is that where you met the doctors and other successful men you go out with? The sugar daddy dating site? Not judging ....just curious. Edited February 9, 2016 by katiegrl
Author brokengirl85 Posted February 9, 2016 Author Posted February 9, 2016 Is that where you met the doctors and other successful men you go out with? The sugar daddy dating site? Not judging ....just curious. No, if you read my thread, I've stated where I found him.
Author brokengirl85 Posted February 9, 2016 Author Posted February 9, 2016 Is that where you met the doctors and other successful men you go out with? The sugar daddy dating site? Not judging ....just curious. No, if you read my thread, I've stated where I found him.
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 No, if you read my thread, I've stated where I found him. Your thread is now 6 pages long, it would be nice you just answer the question. I have participated to your thread from first page and don't remember you mentioned what site you use. 2
Author brokengirl85 Posted February 9, 2016 Author Posted February 9, 2016 Your thread is now 6 pages long, it would be nice you just answer the question. I have participated to your thread from first page and don't remember you mentioned what site you use. I'm sorry. Okcupid. Highly recommended for all who wants to find guys like the ones I've been dating I probably won't be able to meet him today, as someone in my family just received very bad news related with their health and I don't feel like to have a date with anyone today.
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