Curiouswander Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 So i broke up with my girlfriend of two years the beginning of september. we were still friends even having occasional sex. We had instances where she would cry and beg for me back. I needed some time to think of what i really wanted but before i could she starts seeing another guy. I confront her about it and she pretty much says that she doesnt love me and to get out of her life she wants to move on. I of course took it very badly and basically begged for a second chance which she denied. I entered no contact for two months and then messged her but was met with a response saying that we had a great friendship not even relationship and that the new guy is her true happiness and to not contact her again. It hurt ill admit but again i entered no contact i saw a couple girls as well. I can easily get into a relationship with someone who almost adores me but my ex crosses my mind constantly still even though i havent seen her in almost 5 months. I know its not right to compare but looking back on the situation i feel like i could have done more. But thats all old news. Its been 4 months she has been with this guy and that i have not spoken to her. They say they love eachother on their social media. My ex got promoted at her job too. She has seemed to diassappear off of everything. My mind wanders to her without trying still. I dont like it and i know most peoples advice would be to just give it more time but im just mad that i cant move on like she did. Ive tried really hard to just make it work with someone but whether it be physically or emotionally i still feel like i would be downgrading and i cant do that. I guess my real concern is that my bday is coming up and i want to know if she will contact me.. Should i try to contact her again or just keep no contact and suffer in silence?
PegNosePete Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 They say they love eachother on their social media. I thought you said you were in NC? How can you see her social media if you're in NC? I think you are doing NC wrong. It's meant to be NO CONTACT. Not no contact except following her every move and stalking her new relationship on social media. i know most peoples advice would be to just give it more time First initiate NC properly. Then give it time.
Author Curiouswander Posted January 26, 2016 Author Posted January 26, 2016 I dont look, we arent connected in anyway on social media that is just what some friends of mine had told me. Trust me i doubt i could have handled seeing that a couple months ago but still
DarkHorizon Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 Tell your friends to STOP talking about her. 100%. And I strongly suggest you read this post. It is long, but amazing. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/567241-dumped-lessons-i-learned 1
Brando Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 Read the post DarkHorizon suggests. Ask your friends to respect your healing and to not bring her up again. Go 100% NC and never expect to hear from her again. It's your time now my man. Enjoy your freedom. I bet when you were with her there was a ton of things you wished you could do, but couldn't because you were in a relationship. Cut the loss and heal properly! Best of luck! 1
Toodaloo Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 The reason why this is hurting you is because she has moved on and got on with life and the things that she wants to do. She has not remained stagnant. You have because you have been following her either through social media or friends etc. Stop. Move on with your life so the next time she hears about you its about how fit you have got since you started that new sport or how you got a new job or how you are saving up to buy this awesome car or how you have just got back from this amazing trip... Do those things for yourself not for her. 2
walkingonair Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 You dumped her. Why would she run back to you? We tend to take people for granted when they're in our lives and when they're gone we realize we've made a mistake. If you honestly want her back you need to prove it to her. And actually call her and tell her you love her and miss her and no breadcrumb texts. Maybe her new guy is actually a rebound and she still loves you but knows you'd dump her again the minute you guys got back together.
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