Ran Into My Ex for the 1st Time Since No Contact Began 3 Months Ago

[ldridge12]

Here's some background:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/554884-i-messed-up-broke-no-contact-because-i-found-out-something-so-hurtful

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/562886-dealing-w-death-breakup-all-once

 

Basically I went to this bar for New Year's Eve and her and her friends were there. First time we were publically in the same place since late September when we officially broke up (before I found out all the grimey stuff I did a month later in October). It was a little awkward but I toughened up, completely ignored her, no eye contact, had fun, flirted, got two phone numbers and danced with a few people for the 3-4 hours I was there. The lounge isn't huge so while we were in pretty far off sections we were within eye distance of seeing each other. Outside of her friends saying hi and some people lamenting the breakup I really didn't discuss her that night. Some people were like she's sad and that I should approach her and I was like nah I'm ok no one knows the real story so let me have fun as if she wasn't there. I was cordial to her friends who quite frankly I wouldn't have said hi to unless thy came up to me because I've deleted them all from my life (social media, etc 3 months ago).

 

I left went home and a few days later a few people told me she deleted all my photos after that night and posted a subliminal Instagram diss a couple days after that. Kind of took me a back because I didn't think it was like her but in the end I guess being happy in her presence is like you said the last thing people want to see or sometimes girls want to see. Maybe if I would have been a sad puppy dejected in a corner, a social media diss or deletion of pics wouldn't have happened. I'm 100% sure. She would have felt half bad but also good on a "I still have him" Tip. But hey, I'm single. I'm entitled to my own fun despite how it may make you feel. In the end, when someone doesn't have control of your actions I guess their true colors show. Just wanted to get your feedback. I didn't respond to that. I knew it was a subliminal. All my friends did too. It's whatever. The same one who says she doesnt love and miss you anymore in a subliminal Instagram diss is usually the one who is really hurting and struggling. In the end, I think me acting like she didn't exist after a 4.5 year relationship infuriated her.

[ldridge12]

Do you think one of my friends theories hold true that maybe deep down inside she had some hope that we can reconcile or do you think its purely ego and she was just shocked I was able to be in the same place as her [which i think she felt I wouldn't because she feels i hate/dislike her] and just completely acted like she didn't exist?