He asked me do you wanna have some fun at the end of the date,should I write him off?

[katiegrl]

I think, that you are flogging a dead horse here.

He probably showed you who he was on the first date when he asked you for "fun".

It seems you are now demoted to a once a week hook up, masquerading as a "date". How can you build a relationship with someone who ignores your attempts to communicate, but as you say he was never a great texter so stop texting him and start calling him up again and gauge his real interest or not, as the case may be.

However the more serious issue to my mind is the fact told you he was essentially a commitment-phobe due to his parents divorce, so where exactly do you think this is going long term?

Or are you convinced that YOU can get him to change his mind, because I seriously doubt that.

 

Agree with this, except the part advising OP to call.

 

No do not call, do not text....if he is not even responding to texts, he is certainly not going to return your phone call, and can almost guarantee he won't answer either.

 

Either lower expectations or move on.

[frus69]

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[katiegrl]

frus, I read your last post before you deleted it.

 

No....don't say any of that.

 

Just tell him this isn't working for ya and you're moving on and wish him well.

[elaine567]

Agree with this, except the part advising OP to call.

 

No do not call, do not text....if he is not even responding to texts, he is certainly not going to return your phone call, and can almost guarantee he won't answer either.

 

Either lower expectations or move on.

 

Yes, I only suggested the calling because that is what they did early on and that seems to have fallen off, so he may and I emphasise may be thinking she is not that interested as she is not calling any more.

BUT I agree, one sided relationships do not work.

When there is basically nothing coming back from the other side, time to stop excusing and quit trying to make it work.

[frus69]

ok..to my surprise..he asked me to spend this valentine weekend with him..

[SSJROMANCE]

The fact that he came right out and just asked you says volumes about him. I don't think he is worth your time. At this point he may just play you, tell you what you want to hear until he gets his prize. Then you may never see him agin. In the future next time some guy asks you this question don't leave the door open for them. By you saying "I don't THINK that's a good idea" left the door open for them. May I suggest next time be assertive and say "No until I get to know you that's off the table" or something similar. Good luck.

[katiegrl]

ok..to my surprise..he asked me to spend this valentine weekend with him..

 

As I always say -- things are never what they appear to be!

 

All weekend? Are you ready for sex?

 

In any event, if you choose to accept.... enjoy!

[frus69]

As I always say -- things are never what they appear to be!

 

All weekend? Are you ready for sex?

 

In any event, if you choose to accept.... enjoy!

 

I don't have time to spend all weekend with him haha

Normally we spend Friday night together but this time he said he will do it Saturday night and he will cook me breakfast Sunday. I don't think it's a coincidence that he picked this time? I think he knows Sunday is Valentine?

Anyway I'm thinking maybe this is a good opportunity to clear something up on Sunday