beuatylover9 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 My co worker asked me out on a date and I agreed to but the problem is that I am talking to another guy that I am interested in but we aren't exclusive. I don't want to hurt my guy friend's feelings by going on a date with another guy but I really want to go on the date with my co worker. Should I go on the date even though me and my guy friend aren't exclusive?
road Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Is man #1 multi-dating or just seeing you? If he is only seeing you and has no intentions of multi-dating then he most likely will be upset to hear that you are multi-dating on him. So if you must date man #2 then you should tell man #1 of your intentions then see what man #1 has to say.
Versacehottie Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Go on the date.... Yes. well how likely is guy 1 going to find out? I mean it's not like you have to "hide" anything--since you aren't exclusive you aren't doing anything wrong but you also shouldn't flaunt it in front of him. If it's likely at all that he would find out (work in same places, same circle of friends etc), then I think you should do the right thing and just say something to him. Otherwise, unless you feel like having an exclusivity talk (which if it ended "well") would result in you not being able to go on this date, don't say anything. I think this "in-between" period before you are exclusive are exactly FOR this. Figuring out if you want to move forward with guy 1 or whoever. You need to be pretty sure. No sense in going into it half-a** because you feel like you are missing out. But it always important to treat people well. Good luck
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Until you have promised to be exclusive with one person you are technically free to date whomever. That said, the technicalities of multi-dating seem to conflict with your personal code. So if you can't make peace with your actions, act more in accordance with your conscious. 1
Els Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 What happened to the boyfriend and this other dude that you posted about recently?
YourCupOfTea Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 As long as you are not exclusive you can do whatever you want. I'm a firm believer in treating other people the way you would like to be treated. So turn it around. Would you be okay with your guy friend going on a date with another? I think you can make a decision that suits your personal code if you think of it this way.
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