TheTraveler Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 Not really Its just another gym crush. This one I like the most of all. I hope I can swing it around. Her body language is very friendly still. You are going to have to prove it to us that this situation is different. 1
Author Sdives Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 You are going to have to prove it to us that this situation is different. I can't. Im not putting out personal info on here. You going to have to trust me. I want to win this girl back and I think I very well might. The most optimistic part is that she's not hostile to me.
Author Sdives Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 She asks for space due to anxiety. Yes still makes small talk in the gym.
Author Sdives Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 Not saying that you are harassing her ! You are confusing her to no end. While women mature faster than men but if she is inexperienced then she has no clue as to whats happening between you two, if at all. If you really feel that you rejected her accidentely, then you have to re attract her , treating her special , respectful and since you are older and probably more experienced than her, your behavior should itself erase the past mistakes you did. Since she is still entertaining your advances, she really does like you but will have a hard time trusting you and your intentions. What are your intentions,anywho? Glitters How can my behaviour erase the past mistakes? your post here I've read like 7 times its well done can you elaborate here?
Glitters Posted December 14, 2015 Posted December 14, 2015 Glitters How can my behaviour erase the past mistakes? your post here I've read like 7 times its well done can you elaborate here? It just means that if you dont repeat your old behavior ( ignoring etc), then she might let go of the previous behavior. The key is to recognize what your desired partner likes/doesnt like, wants /doesnt want and keep that in mind and not repeat it.
Author Sdives Posted December 14, 2015 Author Posted December 14, 2015 (edited) It just means that if you dont repeat your old behavior ( ignoring etc), then she might let go of the previous behavior. The key is to recognize what your desired partner likes/doesnt like, wants /doesnt want and keep that in mind and not repeat it. Ok that makes sense. If this was going to backfire I wouldn't have done it. I wonder if she really still thinks I rejected her or blew her off despite my apologies. Its been about a week.That should be enough time to let things simmer down. I will now start small talking her again and see how that goes. The question is do I pretend it never happened or say sorry again? Hopefully the enthusiasm she once had has carried over and not vanished Edited December 14, 2015 by Sdives
Author Sdives Posted December 15, 2015 Author Posted December 15, 2015 Anyone here think that she may think Im Bsing her? how could I fix that?
Author Sdives Posted December 16, 2015 Author Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) She past me tonight at the gym. She said "Hi" all energetic and nice like it was a month ago after this, Big smiles still nice. She does glance at me still here and there. When I said Hi back I was kinda distant but I was shocked at her friendliness and energy. I will re engage her soon. she was busy tonight. I cant tell if the door is closed or not but she was super nice tonight. Unusually nice and she was super confident Edited December 16, 2015 by Sdives
Author Sdives Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 Again tonight, she is initiating all the "hellos and Hi's" Im not doing anything. They seem genuine and nice. She still looks at me here and there. If she didn't like me would she still be saying Hi and smiling? I mean it seems genuine and not forced. It's like a month ago before this confusion happened. I want to talk to her but feel its too soon for some reason. I know what to do but confused for some reason.
Author Sdives Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 So Tonight I saw her. we made small talk. She is friendly but distant. She doesn't look at me a smuch anymore like she used to. I sense some hostility from her. I do still like her quite a bit and now I am the hurting one. It just sucks I'm totally depressed. I think she had her hurt bit. I could see it in her face the first week of all this. She seems recovered but now I am the hurt one. I really do sincerely want to turn this around. I have no idea what to do here. Im hurt and frustrated. I feel as though I can't turn it around. I was talking to a guy that works there an explained to him. He basically new I ****ed up when I didn't text. I honestly thought I would giver her some time thats why I didn't. I dont understand how with that one mistake its dead. What on earth can I do? can I do anything? Help!
sid3 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 There is no fixing it, move on or be the creepy guy.
Author Sdives Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 Im not creepy dude. It has to be fixed. I made her laugh a bunch. Im my 35 years I have never seen anything this " on" before and I accidentally messed it up. There has to be some attraction left. about a week after she was super nice flirty still. Now I'm not sure I have to tun it around
sid3 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I'm trying to remember your other screen name you had the last time. Wasn't it Onegoal or something like that? The guy that stalked Catherine McPhee or some other Idol contestant.
road Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Im not creepy dude. It has to be fixed. I made her laugh a bunch. Im my 35 years I have never seen anything this " on" before and I accidentally messed it up. There has to be some attraction left. about a week after she was super nice flirty still. Now I'm not sure I have to tun it around You getting her all smiles on Dec 14 then do nothing till Jan 5 before you want to approach and can't understand why she is cold again. You are playing games. She has no use for being played. If I was single and met a new girl and she told me when parting to call her that night I would of gotten tickets for breaking the sound barrier with my car. So I could call her ASAP (a little exaggeration always helps) and would of asked her out on a date for the next Saturday.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Sorry, but you need a bit of reality check. Your repetitive posts and behavior come across as obsessive and creepy. You aren't being considerate of the position you put her in. She is trying to be professional at her place of work. Talking to her colleagues about it is crossing a line, and could damage her reputation. If you care so much, you should respect her job. If you can't keep this matter private, then go to another gym and only contact her outside of working hours. I'm sorry you are depressed, but you have to act with some maturity here and do the right thing. 2
Author Sdives Posted January 7, 2016 Author Posted January 7, 2016 You getting her all smiles on Dec 14 then do nothing till Jan 5 before you want to approach and can't understand why she is cold again. You are playing games. She has no use for being played. If I was single and met a new girl and she told me when parting to call her that night I would of gotten tickets for breaking the sound barrier with my car. So I could call her ASAP (a little exaggeration always helps) and would of asked her out on a date for the next Saturday. I did not see her for a few weeks. I can do anything until I see her around like last night.
Author Sdives Posted January 7, 2016 Author Posted January 7, 2016 Sorry, but you need a bit of reality check. Your repetitive posts and behavior come across as obsessive and creepy. You aren't being considerate of the position you put her in. She is trying to be professional at her place of work. Talking to her colleagues about it is crossing a line, and could damage her reputation. If you care so much, you should respect her job. If you can't keep this matter private, then go to another gym and only contact her outside of working hours. I'm sorry you are depressed, but you have to act with some maturity here and do the right thing. No I know all the staff there they know me. I can talk to her
thecrucible Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 When it comes to dating if there is any interest then you have to strike the iron while it's hot. If you've missed your opportunity, then you suck it up and move on. I feel for her actually as I would hate to be in such an awkward position where my personal life creeps into my work life.
Author Sdives Posted January 7, 2016 Author Posted January 7, 2016 When it comes to dating if there is any interest then you have to strike the iron while it's hot. If you've missed your opportunity, then you suck it up and move on. I feel for her actually as I would hate to be in such an awkward position where my personal life creeps into my work life. She looked depressed tonight.Never looked me in the eye and the other female staff kept looking at me. She was working I did not get a chance to talk to her.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 No I know all the staff there they know me. That doesn't mean you should discuss something private about her to a work colleague. She looked depressed tonight.Never looked me in the eye and the other female staff kept looking at me. They are looking because they all know your private business. You may nor care if they know, but she might. She can't get away from it. It is work gossip now. Don't you care about how this might impact her? Obviously not. If you did you would keep this out of her work.
Author Sdives Posted January 7, 2016 Author Posted January 7, 2016 (edited) That doesn't mean you should discuss something private about her to a work colleague. They are looking because they all know your private business. You may nor care if they know, but she might. She can't get away from it. It is work gossip now. Don't you care about how this might impact her? Obviously not. If you did you would keep this out of her work. I only talked to one guy briefly I told him we had a miscommunication and I was trying to fix it thats it.Nothing negative about her was said by me No one else and nothing. I going to lie low and talkk to her in a few weeks. Why has she not deleted me off FB? yet I think her ex has been deleted. Yet Not myself. Why?. By the way, they all already know. They point to me now this was weeks ago. Edited January 7, 2016 by Sdives
Author Sdives Posted January 7, 2016 Author Posted January 7, 2016 When it comes to dating if there is any interest then you have to strike the iron while it's hot. If you've missed your opportunity, then you suck it up and move on. I feel for her actually as I would hate to be in such an awkward position where my personal life creeps into my work life. I called her I told her it would be in a few days. She still thinks I rejected her.
Author Sdives Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 I texted her the other night she is texting me back now. We have texted a few times now. Hopefully I can turn this around and this is the chance or opening she is giving me.
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