frus69 Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 no way I read the signs clearly .In my 35 years it has been long time since it was this blatant. That is the point you took from what I said?! The point is give up
Glitters Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Consider her gone. That said , you did play games with her. You were tired and resting and whatever do couldn't text her once ? But for last couple of days you are spending so much time on this forum ? You are now free because??? 1
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 I'm going to hold off until January then start making small talk again and see how that goes.
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 Consider her gone. That said , you did play games with her. You were tired and resting and whatever do couldn't text her once ? But for last couple of days you are spending so much time on this forum ? You are now free because??? I don't consider her gone. I'm going to slowly star chatting again after the Xmas New Years stuff does down. I will start with small talk.
FeelingFireworks Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Consider her gone. That said , you did play games with her. You were tired and resting and whatever do couldn't text her once ? But for last couple of days you are spending so much time on this forum ? You are now free because??? Exactly what I was thinking! OP, I honestly don't think your initial post was being honest with yourself or us. You were clearly testing boundaries and it backfired. You didn't text for 5 days yet you've posted this question on here and by your own admission on other forums (and replied so many times). You have plenty time. You simply got burned by your own game. When I read your many subsequent posts they make me wince. You're 35 FFS, she's only 21. You show no leadership (notes and texts??) and you're overly invested. You ain't even dated this chick!. Ask yourself: why couldn't you take proper control in the first place? And why is she taking up all this rent space in your head free of charge? Don't you have other options? Does having a young girl's attention offer you some sort of validation? Don't be that guy who gets super obsessed and starts acting desperate when his 'moves' don't work. Sometimes the best answer is the one you don't wanna hear. Learn from this and leave things be. This girl isn't - at least now - for you.
TheTraveler Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 You're 35 FFS, she's only 21. You show no leadership (notes and texts??) and you're overly invested. He wants that young tail. Problem is he blew it by waiting 5 days, and then sending all the lame notes/texts. Word has now gotten out about him at the gym as i'm sure this girl is spreading it to all the coworkers at the gym.
Glitters Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 I'll bite once again! You look at her , she looks at you. Sparks fly. You do it everyday. She makes a request, you ignore and take your jolly good time. The message she gets : you give two s@its about her.Now , she is a soft hearted girl, takes your rejection elegantly and ( probably )moves on ( after a good cry,of course ! because she liked you once ). You now want her back,mmmm, why ? There is nothing between you two.Its probably a prestige issue to you now. She is young, will find a guy soon who gets her.You too, will find a woman, who will put up with this. Moral of story : Dont mess with a nice girl.They get hurt deep but rather not verbalize.Thats what she is doing.You will see it in her eyes, if she ever lets you see in them again ! She doesnt have any social anxiety.I agree with the poster who said, if this girl makes blatant eye contact , she has given you a line.Let go. 1
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 She talks to me but isn't hostile. I'm going to let it settle down then start from scratch fairly soon. I'll start soon. She has not cut me off. I wasn't playing games this backfired I told her this.
TheTraveler Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 She talks to me but isn't hostile. I'm going to let it settle down then start from scratch fairly soon. I'll start soon. She has not cut me off. I wasn't playing games this backfired I told her this. GL in getting that young bunny body! :bunny:
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 GL in getting that young bunny body! :bunny: I'm starting fresh with her in January. After the holiday stuff goes away.baby steps and small talk.
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 I'll bite once again! You look at her , she looks at you. Sparks fly. You do it everyday. She makes a request, you ignore and take your jolly good time. The message she gets : you give two s@its about her.Now , she is a soft hearted girl, takes your rejection elegantly and ( probably )moves on ( after a good cry,of course ! because she liked you once ). You now want her back,mmmm, why ? There is nothing between you two.Its probably a prestige issue to you now. She is young, will find a guy soon who gets her.You too, will find a woman, who will put up with this. Moral of story : Dont mess with a nice girl.They get hurt deep but rather not verbalize.Thats what she is doing.You will see it in her eyes, if she ever lets you see in them again ! She doesnt have any social anxiety.I agree with the poster who said, if this girl makes blatant eye contact , she has given you a line.Let go. We still look at each other. I will talk her up soon, and start over.
TheTraveler Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 I'm starting fresh with her in January. After the holiday stuff goes away.baby steps and small talk. I had already given you advice earlier in the thread. Stop the baby steps/texting nonsense and cut out the staring contest. You could actually see her before the year ends if you play your cards right. When the opportunity presents itself, make a date on the spot. GL!
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 I had already given you advice earlier in the thread. Stop the baby steps/texting nonsense and cut out the staring contest. You could actually see her before the year ends if you play your cards right. When the opportunity presents itself, make a date on the spot. GL! No I will leave her be for now. She says she wants to be alone for now. She still responds to my emails and she's very friendly when she does. Very enthusiastic like my first text. If she's been hurt by me, she doesn't seem hostile she enthusiastic to my texts. Why I am Not sure?
Buddhist Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 This is painful now. Denial is strong in this one. 1
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 This is painful now. Denial is strong in this one. Denial? No denial
Author Sdives Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 I had already given you advice earlier in the thread. Stop the baby steps/texting nonsense and cut out the staring contest. You could actually see her before the year ends if you play your cards right. When the opportunity presents itself, make a date on the spot. GL! How could I see her?She's still nice to me despite everything. I'm holding off for now.
Author Sdives Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 Exactly what I was thinking! OP, I honestly don't think your initial post was being honest with yourself or us. You were clearly testing boundaries and it backfired. You didn't text for 5 days yet you've posted this question on here and by your own admission on other forums (and replied so many times). You have plenty time. You simply got burned by your own game. When I read your many subsequent posts they make me wince. You're 35 FFS, she's only 21. You show no leadership (notes and texts??) and you're overly invested. You ain't even dated this chick!. Ask yourself: why couldn't you take proper control in the first place? And why is she taking up all this rent space in your head free of charge? Don't you have other options? Does having a young girl's attention offer you some sort of validation? Don't be that guy who gets super obsessed and starts acting desperate when his 'moves' don't work. Sometimes the best answer is the one you don't wanna hear. Learn from this and leave things be. This girl isn't - at least now - for you. I'm going to lay low and go after her again. I do think on some level she still likes me. She's mad but not hostile. Likes to talk to me but unsure.She greets me sometimes and others not.
Author Sdives Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 Anyone think the social anxiety thing is real or BS?
Author Sdives Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 I'll bite once again! You look at her , she looks at you. Sparks fly. You do it everyday. She makes a request, you ignore and take your jolly good time. The message she gets : you give two s@its about her.Now , she is a soft hearted girl, takes your rejection elegantly and ( probably )moves on ( after a good cry,of course ! because she liked you once ). You now want her back,mmmm, why ? There is nothing between you two.Its probably a prestige issue to you now. She is young, will find a guy soon who gets her.You too, will find a woman, who will put up with this. Moral of story : Dont mess with a nice girl.They get hurt deep but rather not verbalize.Thats what she is doing.You will see it in her eyes, if she ever lets you see in them again ! She doesnt have any social anxiety.I agree with the poster who said, if this girl makes blatant eye contact , she has given you a line.Let go. She wrote it to me. This was not in person. I'm going to fix this.
Author Sdives Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 She saw me at the gym today. She stopped and said “Hi” as she was walking I said “Hi” back friendly and energetic. She said “how’s it goin’?” she stopped pivoted back at me and did a double take at me. I think she was surprised and the positivity. She looked like she wanted to talk. It went well and felt really good. I think it is savable. No negativity at all. It gave me an adrenaline spike.
losangelena Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 I don't understand—why don't you just ask her out? You're a 35 year old man, she's a 21 year old woman. It's on you to get the engine going. What's the hold up? Why the constant texting and backing away? Jesus christ, step up. 1
Author Sdives Posted December 11, 2015 Author Posted December 11, 2015 I don't understand—why don't you just ask her out? You're a 35 year old man, she's a 21 year old woman. It's on you to get the engine going. What's the hold up? Why the constant texting and backing away? Jesus christ, step up. Please re-read this. I accidentally rejected her. She asks me for space. I will give it her and try her again. My hello and Hi with her last night have me a allot of hope. I think she still likes me and its not blown . I do still like her.
Glitters Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 What makes this girl so special that you cant let the poor thing alone?If its her body, the gyms are packed with them !
kitty12345 Posted December 11, 2015 Posted December 11, 2015 You've been a jerk, you know that and she knows that. I dont understand why she still likes you ?
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