Arda199 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 my situation is that we broke up for 4 months then she came back apologizing for being a pain in the ass and she want to go back to what we were anyway we got back for 2 months but now she keeps getting mad at me for reasonable stuff suck as she got mad at me for something i did during our break up :/ She used to get frustrated for silly stuff she has been like that since i knew her i know she loves me a lot and i love her too but i'm not really happy with her and i can't leave because i love her so much and i don't know why What should i do to stop her from getting mad all the time? I tried to talk to her and give her a couple a days of no contact but none of that worked P.S whenever she gets mad i find myself apologizing to her no matter what is that got her mad I'm not really good with dealing with moody people especially if i'm in love with'em
Glitters Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 First, no contact does not solve problems. It makes them worse. Second, what did you do during the break ?
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 my situation is that we broke up for 4 months then she came back apologizing for being a pain in the ass and she want to go back to what we were anyway we got back for 2 months but now she keeps getting mad at me for reasonable stuff suck as she got mad at me for something i did during our break up :/ She used to get frustrated for silly stuff she has been like that since i knew her i know she loves me a lot and i love her too but i'm not really happy with her and i can't leave because i love her so much and i don't know why What should i do to stop her from getting mad all the time? I tried to talk to her and give her a couple a days of no contact but none of that worked P.S whenever she gets mad i find myself apologizing to her no matter what is that got her mad I'm not really good with dealing with moody people especially if i'm in love with'em You're not in love with her, you're in love with the relationship you want it to be. Move on. 6
LoveRefreshed Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Could be worse. You could end up like this cat http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/560092-ltr-breakup
xUnknown Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Stop apologizing. You're making yourself look like a pushover. She's losing respect for you and this may potentially be her way of trying to break up with you again. Stick to your guns. Stay confident. Don't wait on her hand and foot. Go out and do your thing. Show her that what she is complaining about isn't worth your stress.
Author Arda199 Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 First, no contact does not solve problems. It makes them worse. Second, what did you do during the break ? I told someone a secret about her but when we got back i admitted that i didnt keep the secret but now she is suddenly mad about it
Author Arda199 Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 Stop apologizing. You're making yourself look like a pushover. She's losing respect for you and this may potentially be her way of trying to break up with you again. Stick to your guns. Stay confident. Don't wait on her hand and foot. Go out and do your thing. Show her that what she is complaining about isn't worth your stress. When broke up with me it was because she got mad at a stupid thing and i decided to to apologize for it so....
bubbaganoosh Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 Why do you want to be with someone who always picks on you? That's crazy. This is not how a relationship is supposed to be which should tell you that your with the wrong person.
Redhead14 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 I told someone a secret about her but when we got back i admitted that i didnt keep the secret but now she is suddenly mad about it It is an unresolved issue between you which really comes down to trust. When the trust is broken, it's very hard to recover from it. Unresolved things like this will be an ongoing issue between you and you two sound very young. I doubt either of you has the maturity or conflict resolution skills required to repair a relationship.
Author Arda199 Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 Why do you want to be with someone who always picks on you? That's crazy. This is not how a relationship is supposed to be which should tell you that your with the wrong person. I know that I deserve better than this i want her to treat me right and respect me i don't want to leave her and go through the break-up process all over again
Author Arda199 Posted December 2, 2015 Author Posted December 2, 2015 Could be worse. You could end up like this cat http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/560092-ltr-breakup Wow this is kinda similar to my situation
kendahke Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 my situation is that we broke up for 4 months then she came back apologizing for being a pain in the ass and she want to go back to what we were anyway we got back for 2 months but now she keeps getting mad at me for reasonable stuff suck as she got mad at me for something i did during our break up :/ It would appear that she got what she wanted: going back to how things were. Back to fighting about stupid things and not taking responsibility for her actions. She used to get frustrated for silly stuff she has been like that since i knew her i know she loves me a lot and i love her too but i'm not really happy with her and i can't leave because i love her so much and i don't know why What do you mean by "silly stuff"? And what did you do over your break that she's using as the basis for getting angry with you? Here's the thing: if you knew this about her going in, then you can't be shocked that she's doing this while with you. If you can't be happy with them, can you see any good reason to live in quiet desperation that she'll flip into being someone she's never shown an interest in being? What should i do to stop her from getting mad all the time? Nothing. Because she's choosing to behave that way. As long as she chooses to be reactionary and to lash out, outside of changing who you fundamentally are to appease her, this is something she needs to resolve for herself. I tried to talk to her and give her a couple a days of no contact but none of that worked No contact isn't used to manage hostile people--what you did just threw fuel on the fire. Telling her that you're done for good and then going no contact is what you needed to do. No contact is for when you end the relationship and then have to unwrap your own head and heart from it so that you can move on and see clearly where you're going. P.S whenever she gets mad i find myself apologizing to her no matter what is that got her mad I'm not really good with dealing with moody people especially if i'm in love with'em She may be using her anger as a means to manipulate you and not really because she's mad about anything other than not getting her way with you.
Ic1 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 You're not in love with her, you're in love with the relationship you want it to be. Move on. It's really this simple. You need to listen to her actions. Not her words, because her actions show she doesn't love you. BTW: If you break up with her, I bet she'll try to get back with you again with her apology again. Don't take her back again. It'll be a pattern.
xcupid Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 WHY are you putting up with this? Time to let her go and find someone who's decent to you.
smackie9 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 if you want her to change you need to give her consequences for her behavior, like standing up to her, firmly tell her to stop it, tell her you will not put up with it, walk away from her if she gets out of control, tell her to STFU, point out her inexcusable behavior....the more you apologize the more you enable her behavior. you will only get her respect when you stifle her when she start in on you. man up. 1
mineral27 Posted December 2, 2015 Posted December 2, 2015 if you want her to change you need to give her consequences for her behavior, like standing up to her, firmly tell her to stop it, tell her you will not put up with it, walk away from her if she gets out of control, tell her to STFU, point out her inexcusable behavior....the more you apologize the more you enable her behavior. you will only get her respect when you stifle her when she start in on you. man up. Could not agree more!
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