mortensorchid Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 A few weeks ago, I saw my last serious bf from four years ago. He sent me a text saying he wanted to see me, and I decided to see him. We had a talk, I forgave him for what went on between me and him, as well as the gf he got immediately afterward. For some information, read this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/549322-forgiveness In short, he took up with a psychotic woman not long after our six month relationship. She proceeded to alienate him from all his friends and family (me included), get her hands in everything, etc. She even banned him from talking to his mother and sister. His sister got married two years ago and because the sister didn't ask her to be in the wedding party, she then refused to attend it and nearly banned him from going to it. She then proceeded to crash it. It just blew me away that he stayed with this woman for THREE YEARS, even going to therapy with her to try to work things out! It made angry to once again have it proven to me that men try to make it work with trash women instead of good women. But I digress... Then he contacted me he was in the process of rebuilding things with others, myself included. When we met, I told him I forgave him. We're good. I thought that would be that... Then he said he wanted to hang out on Friday, I said ok. As we said our good-byes he grabs me and said he missed me. And of course he leans in for a kiss and a good grope, I said we really should not do this. He said he'd forgotten how much he liked this, but I resisted. He said he's not looking to get back together, of course, it's been a few years we are both different people now and he's sure I've slept with a few guys since. I said that was correct (didn't tell him how many, but he was correct - ha ha ha). He of course was wanting sex again, but ... I resisted. It was difficult. He is, after all, a Bad Boy - he's more fun than a barrel of monkeys, he's a tornado in the sack, but it's going to get real old, real fast when he's getting into fist fights, throwing chairs through windows and calling for bail money.
menyou Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Sounds kinda fun lol But really, resistance is key here.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 OP you're cracking me up here You say men only go for trashy women but your ex BF is complete trash from the sounds of it as well. Hypocrisy much? 1
Vintage79 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 OP you're cracking me up here You say men only go for trashy women but your ex BF is complete trash from the sounds of it as well. Hypocrisy much? It's not necessarily hypocritical - maybe she's a trashy woman...
Author mortensorchid Posted October 25, 2015 Author Posted October 25, 2015 It's not necessarily hypocritical - maybe she's a trashy woman... The reason women go for Bad Boys is because it appeals to our inner wants and needs to be bad. But I learned a long time ago that if you (as a woman) want to be bad, you can be bad on your own time and you don't have to have a Bad Boy to be with in order to do so. Am I trash? I try not to be, I try to be classy. I don't think we ever loose our want and need to be bad at times, but I'm an adult now. I don't need to be with a Bad Boy to make me feel edgy or cool, because I am cool by myself. Truth.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 The reason women go for Bad Boys is because it appeals to our inner wants and needs to be bad. But I learned a long time ago that if you (as a woman) want to be bad, you can be bad on your own time and you don't have to have a Bad Boy to be with in order to do so. Am I trash? I try not to be, I try to be classy. I don't think we ever loose our want and need to be bad at times, but I'm an adult now. I don't need to be with a Bad Boy to make me feel edgy or cool, because I am cool by myself. Truth. You really don't see your extreme hypocrisy in that you complain that men want trash when you're dating trash yourself?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Life is complicated. It's actually not Hypocrisy is pretty simple, such as this case. Why do you refuse to date anybody half way decent yourself?
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