Celeste.Carol Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Hi involved with a guy and we have a tumultuous relationship, full of energy and fire. The sex is out of this world. He even came twice in a row, not a breather of 30 minutes but twice shortly in a row and was wowed. Can a very intense, sexual energized, fueled relationship like a bomb ticking ever hash out into a norm loving relationship. He has always been very sexual, even when married, he says he has to have it 4-5 times weekly and he is not a youngin either! I like this because I am very sensual too. Too much? Burn out?
sid3 Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 I guess 4-5 times a week is a lot for an old guy, but it's not all that unheard of for younger guys to want that in a day. Just saying.
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 17, 2015 Author Posted September 17, 2015 I guess 4-5 times a week is a lot for an old guy, but it's not all that unheard of for younger guys to want that in a day. Just saying. Ha! He is not that old and yes we have had multiple in one night.
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 17, 2015 Author Posted September 17, 2015 He is very experienced. I had on a designer one piece jumpsuit, classy but low cut and he took my bra off as we were sitting with wine in 1 second flat!! I do not know any guy who could maneuver that in a flick second and have that sexy grin...with What? on their face. I think I am in trouble here. Doesn't work out...I am afraid others will bore in comparison!
katiegrl Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Hi involved with a guy and we have a tumultuous relationship, full of energy and fire. The sex is out of this world. He even came twice in a row, not a breather of 30 minutes but twice shortly in a row and was wowed. Can a very intense, sexual energized, fueled relationship like a bomb ticking ever hash out into a norm loving relationship. He has always been very sexual, even when married, he says he has to have it 4-5 times weekly and he is not a youngin either! I like this because I am very sensual too. Too much? Burn out? Celeste.... didn't you tell us yesterday you ended that relationship? I was so proud of you!! Please don't tell us you are back together? What happened? Plus, last week you posted he had pulled back on the sex! So confused..... 1
sid3 Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 Celeste.... didn't you tell us yesterday you ended that relationship? I was so proud of you!! Please don't tell us you are back together? What happened? Plus, last week you posted he had pulled back on the sex! So confused..... apparently he has the move, or at least one of them down pat. She's done, putty in his hands now.
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 17, 2015 Author Posted September 17, 2015 Celeste.... didn't you tell us yesterday you ended that relationship? I was so proud of you!! Please don't tell us you are back together? What happened? Plus, last week you posted he had pulled back on the sex! So confused..... Yes! I dumped him. We didn't speak for a day and then started texting and he initiated most....and it happened. I know it is wrong and probably bad for me. I just cannot back away from the attraction, BUT am keeping my emotions at a distance. I am new to dating and really do not even know what I want yet. And yes, I am confused too and I understand your confusion Katie. None of this is like me at all...like I get to be the bad girl. But also thank you for your concern too.
fitnessfan365 Posted September 17, 2015 Posted September 17, 2015 BUT am keeping my emotions at a distance. Then why are you asking if it can turn into a normal loving relationship? Seems like you're pretty invested to me.
LoveRefreshed Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 My last relationship started with hard core ****ing 2-3 times a day, 5 days a week. I was 23. At times it dropped and rebounded, but I'd say on average it became once a day to about 4-6 times a week. We were together for 5 years before it imploded. I'd say it should have ended sooner, but our great sex made it easy to keep it going. Instead of resolving a problem, we ****ed and pushed it under a rug.
Oregon_Dude Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 This... is a humblebrag disguised as a thread. 1
casey.lives Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 if you want something normal, you should try and start off as normal as possible. It's hard to change things down the line.
katiegrl Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 (edited) Yes! I dumped him. We didn't speak for a day and then started texting and he initiated most....and it happened. I know it is wrong and probably bad for me. I just cannot back away from the attraction, BUT am keeping my emotions at a distance. I am new to dating and really do not even know what I want yet. And yes, I am confused too and I understand your confusion Katie. None of this is like me at all...like I get to be the bad girl. But also thank you for your concern too. When you say it happened, you mean you had sex? What about all his talk about not wanting sex so you could build your emotional connection? I knew that was BS and manipulation along with everything else about him.... Please be careful hun (not sure how you go about doing that but thought I'd throw it out there anyway)..... I actually shudder when I read your past threads about him. Edited September 18, 2015 by katiegrl
Inprofessional Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I'm curious if there's lots of intimacy, or if it's more like porn-type sex.
sid3 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 I'm curious if there's lots of intimacy, or if it's more like porn-type sex. Really? Thanks for ruining it for me. I thought porn sex was intimate
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 I'm curious if there's lots of intimacy, or if it's more like porn-type sex. It is everything mixed. There is passion....and all. He does a lot to please me as well so it is not just mechanical, all about him. More passion...like European porn.
Inprofessional Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 (edited) Really? Thanks for ruining it for me. I thought porn sex was intimate I don't see a problem with her situation, but if there's no intimacy I'd be suspicious. I recently met a girl where the physical sex is phenomenal but there's so little kissing I felt bummed out. It would have been great but she wouldn't kiss me much. Maybe because we just recently met? Edited September 18, 2015 by Inprofessional
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 When you say it happened, you mean you had sex? What about all his talk about not wanting sex so you could build your emotional connection? I knew that was BS and manipulation along with everything else about him.... Please be careful hun (not sure how you go about doing that but thought I'd throw it out there anyway)..... I actually shudder when I read your past threads about him. No sex, but we got back together. He clarified that in no way did he mean we do not have sex...he said you cannot turn that off....but we need to work on and let the getting to know each other evolve and catch up.
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 I don't see a problem with her situation, but if there's no intimacy I'd be suspicious. I recently met a girl where the physical sex is phenomenal but there's so little kissing I felt bummed out. It would have been great but she wouldn't kiss me much. Maybe because we just recently met? Oh gosh no, the kissing is phenomenal and non stop even when not having sex. It is like okay lets take a breather and actually eat! I could not be intimate without kissing.
katiegrl Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 (edited) No sex, but we got back together. He clarified that in no way did he mean we do not have sex...he said you cannot turn that off....but we need to work on and let the getting to know each other evolve and catch up. Okay good. (Only because that is what he said, so he is keeping his word on that). Trying to keep an open mind here (despite your TOXIC past together)... perhaps you can start over and actually build something solid without all the games and emotional sturm and drang. It's possible the intense sex (too soon) was ramping all that negative energy up....and you both couldn't get your bearings. I can't believe I just said that, but like I said I AM trying to keep an open mind. You guys got off on the wrong foot. So spend time, go out on dates, do fun things, TALK, laugh (cry at old movies? lol).... maybe it will work out after all. Keep us posted, and/or PM me if you want....I am very interested in how all this plays out. Good luck! Edited September 18, 2015 by katiegrl
Author Celeste.Carol Posted September 18, 2015 Author Posted September 18, 2015 Thanks Katie! I am having fun and decided to just go with it and not invest too much emotionally unless it takes a big U turn in that direction. It could and a big it could not. He is somewhat a player and difficult for me to read.
lino Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 One for the struggling guys to read. This is how it's done.
Els Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 Uh, is this the same guy here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/546524-really-down-today-abusive ? If it is, passionate sex is the LEAST of your worries. Seriously run out of that door, don't walk.
Lois_Griffin Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 It sounds as though this entire relationship is just based on sex. Things that usually start out intense and burning very brightly have a tendency to burn out just as quickly..
Lois_Griffin Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 He is very experienced. I had on a designer one piece jumpsuit, classy but low cut and he took my bra off as we were sitting with wine in 1 second flat!! I do not know any guy who could maneuver that in a flick second and have that sexy grin...with What? on their face. Something tells me, since he sounds basically like a horny teenage boy, that he's divorced for a reason. And not a good one.
milwaukeeguy53214 Posted September 18, 2015 Posted September 18, 2015 It's difficult to find someone who matches one's sexual drive, not only that but to have that person be on the same sexual page as you, meaning, any kink, or fantasies be fulfilled. My girlfriend matches my drive to a "T". We have sex several times a week. Sometimes we'll have sex a few times a day. We engage almost daily. It might begin early morning and will play through out our day with phone calls, texting or email. type of foreplay. By the time she gets home we're both "revved" up. Our sex can go from very primal to slower, very intimate sex. Besides we both love foreplay and simply making out. Love kissing her.
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