912brian24 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Ok I know guy's are just as crappy! Been on a break from my gf for a little over two weeks and I get a text message from her friend last night wanting to know if I want to hangout on the "side"! Crazy stuff!!!!! Of course I said I'm good but wow!
Toodaloo Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Wow. You hang out with some really classy girls! I think your ex needs to find better friends...
Author 912brian24 Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 Wow. You hang out with some really classy girls! I think your ex needs to find better friends... I know right! I would have never guessed this coming from this girl! I thought about telling my ex but I'm just going to let it go because I'm not trying to get into the middle of any crap!
Toodaloo Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I would. Sometimes its better to just walk away. Do girls not have any dignity these days? What ever happened to real friendship?
carhill Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 If I'm reading this post correctly, you and your girlfriend, both divorced parents, are on a break so, hey, life is to be lived. " When we first got together she was separated from her husband of 10 years and was officially divorced 2 months into our 5 month relationship! I know she has a lot to deal with now and knew what I was getting into and knew I shouldn't have but the heart is a funny thing!" So, apparently one of her friends wants to 'hang out'. Can you hang out with a woman without things becoming sexual? IDK. Have you before? With this one? Etc, etc. If your GF is still processing her D or, more likely, is interacting with the co-parent of her children, well, things can go sideways. Write it off to timing, enjoy the break and the company of women who you choose. That may be none. It may be hanging out with this friend of your GF. It may be going out on dates with other women. It's all up to you.
LeslieKnope Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I would. Sometimes its better to just walk away. Do girls not have any dignity these days? What ever happened to real friendship? Yes, we do. This one just happens to be an opportunist. Look, is this lady friend shameless? Yes. Do you want to 'hang out' with her? Probably not, if only for the myriad of complications involved. And frankly, you can find other girls who aren't friends with your ex to 'hang out' with. Take it as flattery. You haven't even put yourself out on the market yet and already someone's interested at some level. That's awesome! You're likely not ready yet, but it's nice to know they'll be lots of potential women to date when you are. Take care!
Chi townD Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Sounds like a set up to me. Your Ex might have put her friend up to it to see what your response would have been. To see if you would jump at the chance so soon after the break up. That would give her an idea if she meant anything at all to you. It might be possible.
Author 912brian24 Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 Sounds like a set up to me. Your Ex might have put her friend up to it to see what your response would have been. To see if you would jump at the chance so soon after the break up. That would give her an idea if she meant anything at all to you. It might be possible. I thought the same thing! She's a beautiful girl and if the situation was different it would be a no brainier but I'm just going to let it go!
mightycpa Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 (edited) I thought the same thing! She's a beautiful girl and if the situation was different it would be a no brainier but I'm just going to let it go!I'm going to give you another possible way it went down: X: Hey GF, how's it going? GF: Hey X, how's it going with you? How are you doing with your breakup? X: I'm ok. I really thought I'd miss him more than I do, but you know what? I'm really OK. GF: Really? So no regrets? You never think about getting back together? X: Truthfully, I don't think about him at all. I mean, it's not like he's some horrible guy or anything, he just wasn't for me. GF: Hunh. Well, let me ask you this.... would you mind if I gave him a call? X: You want to go out with him? GF: Yeah, why not? The old cooter's starving for a little action, you know what I mean? X: Ha-ha, I sure do! Yeah, that's fine, give him a call. Here's his number. Don't tell him I said anything, it might hurt his feelings. GF: Mum's the word. It will be just between him and me. But on the other hand, if your ex did send her to get a reaction out of you, that's GAME-PLAYING, pure and simple, and both of them deserve an OH YEAH! from you. Edited August 13, 2015 by mightycpa
Gus Grimly Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Maybe the friend has had a crush on you for a long time and now that you are single she wants to grab you before someone else can. If it is a mind game then you can just say goodbye to both of 'em. Really, who cares? I say go out and have some fun.
Author 912brian24 Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 Maybe the friend has had a crush on you for a long time and now that you are single she wants to grab you before someone else can. If it is a mind game then you can just say goodbye to both of 'em. Really, who cares? I say go out and have some fun. I said screw it and texted her! She said her friend was crazy to let me go and she said and I quote "I'm not letting anyone else scoop you up" ha! 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 @ mightycpa - Hahahaha. Entertaining dialogue for sure. And the stuff porno's are made from But I don't think it works that way... A "setup" sounds way more plausible to me.
Gus Grimly Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I said screw it and texted her! She said her friend was crazy to let me go and she said and I quote "I'm not letting anyone else scoop you up" ha! Excellent! That's really great man. You never know, she could end up being a terrific person. I figured that might have been her intention. Don't make her a rebound if possible. Just play it cool and have fun!
Author 912brian24 Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 I'm going to give you another possible way it went down: But on the other hand, if your ex did send her to get a reaction out of you, that's GAME-PLAYING, pure and simple, and both of them deserve an OH YEAH! from you. HAHA!!!! Best reply ever! She's gonna get the oh yea!
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 she said and I quote "I'm not letting anyone else scoop you up" ha! Oh boy. I'd be very leery of someone who makes statements like this so quickly after your BU (only 2 weeks). IME - this is the type of person who comes on strong and fast, probably because they have created some weird fantasy about you. But then bolts just as fast when they realize their fantasy was just that... fantasy. Or finds someone else who interests them more. Hopefully you don't get too invested while she is "in" to you. My guess is it wouldn't last long. She will just monkey-branch to someone else... Do you know her history with men at all??
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