LonelyRomeo Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Hi There, I just wanted some advice, I have been living with a woman for almost 2 years now and since the last year or so, I have been having a lot of sexual fantasies about her. I know trying to hookup with a flatmate is not a good idea, but I would have thought that if it was just a one time fantasy I have had that it was nothing, but it's a regular occurrance that I dream of her and sometimes even wake up during the night highly aroused There has been occasions where she has had a gentleman over (never really the same guy) and this has made me a little jealous to be honest - wishing it was with me Should I talk to her about this? should I act on my desire to be with her sexually? or at least try to? This woman is driving me crazy with desire. I have seen her in various states, getting out of the shower wrapped in a towel - really gets me going. I just want to approach the subject with caution as I don't want to have to end up living somewhere else, but I need to let her know somehow or another Please - any suggestions would be appreciated
Poppyolive Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I had a roommate once that i slowly fell for. I went back and forth thinking about what go do, say. Eventually he made the moves and were together 6 years.
VengeanceGuidesMe Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I read a story about a guy who got put on the sex offender list for watching his flatmate sleep while wanking it. So whatever you do, make sure it's not that.. or that she's super out cold? I would be weary about telling her in case it makes **** awkward. Maybe try subtle flirtation. I had a roommate that was a beauty, we made out, but then again I was moving out in a less than 2 weeks, so it wasn't awkward at all.
HereNorThere Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 You're single, right? That means 100% of your relationships have failed at one point or another for whatever reason. With that kind of track record, is it worth giving up your home to indulge a fantasy? You think you're jealous of those guys now, wait around and see what happens if you mess with her. The chances of this turning out well are pretty much zero. Most likely, you'll creep her out and she'll feel super uncomfortable and you'll have to move. Even if you were successful, eventually something would happen and you would break up, and then the stuff really hits the fan. Not even with a neighbor, dude. No freakin way a roommate. P.S. - The fantasy is always better than the reality.
yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 Well, there's this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/489513-too-good-true Basically, moved into a flat with a gorgeous girl and her daughter... Second night she seduced me! WE stayed together 9 months, but the fact that she was my flatmate to start with wasn't a factor. HOWEVER, you meet your partner doesn't matter, just make sure your attraction isn't purely physical. You live with her, is she super awesome even if you DON'T want to bang her...really...?
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