changeofseasons Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) So tonight I'm blocking the guy i've been involved with for too long (if you want to read more about my situation here's the link http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/535030-even-worth-grieving-over), last week we had the relationship talk, i wanted a yes or a no, he gave me a maybe after we see each other more. I cried hard that night, a few days later i started to get counseling and decided to go NC until im completely over him, which might be forever depending on how well i heal. Anyways, i asked him to hang out this weekend, he said yes but he didnt know when for sure, it's 9:30 on a Sunday night, no contact from him. I decided to wait til Wedsnesday to block him but i think its needed because he disrespected me again even though i totally knew he was going to do this. I'm just nervous even though im doing the right thing. I'm blocking him off FB and its gonna suck because he's always at the top of my list for everything so it's going to hit me every time i go on messenger or look at my friends list. I deserve so much more, and he's going to regret it, but i have a myriad of emotions. This is like breaking up with somebody, but in a weird way. Anyone have any positive words for me? Edited June 29, 2015 by changeofseasons
Bradt Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Hi.I can relate to your story.And l,yes block him if you feel that he do not respect you.I'm a guy that also got dumped by my disrespectful ex-gf.I been going N/C for a couple of weeks(appox. 2months).It felt like hell and I also just wanted ti call her and check her FB.I pushed through that.I met someone the weekend and most of depression changed to a smile... I want to say even if it feels like theres no1 else out there for you.Trust me there will be som1 that will respect u and u will ask yourself...why did I take all the $$$ from my ex.It will get better. 1
loveiswar101 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Yes, it's hard, really hard. Actions speak louder than words, in both instances in you and him. Him - Using you now and emotionally blackmailing you. You - Action - follow up with above and block him...NC...heal...move on. Good luck 2
Author changeofseasons Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 Thanks guys, i woke up feeling a bit gloomy today but it's to be expected right?
OldSoul86 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Thanks guys, i woke up feeling a bit gloomy today but it's to be expected right? Hi changeofseasons, it is definitely to be expected. I was reading one of my many post breakup books this morning and I read something that you may find interesting. When you bounce around emotionally (e.g., feeling good one day followed by feeling bad the next) it means that you are healing the layers of your emotions. The author said he would be concerned if you didn't ping pong around emotionally. Ride those waves, address the pain, forgive yourself and your ex, and keep putting one foot in front of the other! 1
Author changeofseasons Posted June 30, 2015 Author Posted June 30, 2015 I have this weird thing where i really want to embrace my happiness but i know it wont last forever so i fear that im going to lose it soon. Meh, gotta keep going.
OldSoul86 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 I have this weird thing where i really want to embrace my happiness but i know it wont last forever so i fear that im going to lose it soon. Meh, gotta keep going. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Cry if you need to cry, go somewhere private and scream and yell if you need to. Getting all of the feelings out is much more conducive to healing compared to repressing and bottling them up. 1
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