NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I tried to make peace with my ex after he broke up with me. For a long time he told me that there was nothing wrong with me. We were in a long distance relationship well recently I reached out to apologize and just make peace to be friendly not trying to get back with him or anything and he says that there are no hard feelings and that he just wants to be left alone and put this all behind him. I'm glad we were able to be peaceful about it but I can't lie it kind of hurt to hear him say I would just rather not talk to you. I told him if I did or said anything to offend him I'm sorry he responded and said it's cool we broke up don't try to fix it...it happens and said again he just wants to be left alone and then he blocked me. I felt horrible but I know there is nothing I can do about it. No matter how nice I was to this person I still got blocked but he keeps his other ex on his friends list. His other ex has a boyfriend I wonder why he did me like this why did I get blocked? only positive responses please...no negative rude or mean comments
losangelena Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 OP, this isn't intended to be negative, but it's almost impossible for us to know why your ex blocked you. What can I say? Some people stay on good terms, some don't. For whatever reason, your ex thinks no contact is best. I doubt it has anything to do with how nice/not nice you were. It's hard right now, but the best thing you can do is respect his wishes and move on. It'll get better over time.
doeblin Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I'm sorry you feel this way. There is a good reason people advise NO CONTACT on Loveshack. Check out these stickies: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/337989-no-contact-nc-guide-long-walk-consolidated-discussion You really shouldn't ruminate on his reasons. There is no going back. You should focus on yourself and on your own future. Break out of old habits and create new ones. You are going to get out of this rut!
ExpatInItaly Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Why did you break up? You said you wanted to apologize - for what, exactly? If you broke up on bad terms, he might just not want to revisit difficult feelings. Or, he could potentially be seeing someone else and doesn't want to upset her by keeping in contact with you.
pewpew Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 It's hard but the best thing to do is just forget about him and move on. The more you go over why he's acting the way he is will only drive you crazy as you will probably never find out. I have been in relationships in the past where we broke up and one of us said we will stay friends but it rarely works. The best thing you can do is move on and not over analyse why he may not want to talk to you. Look at it as his loss! 2
DoesntGetIt Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 You can't force an ex to be friends. If he wants to be left alone, simply leave him alone. Sometimes exs go on to be friends, other times they don't. Move forward and be done with it. 1
Author NJooo Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 Why did you break up? You said you wanted to apologize - for what, exactly? If you broke up on bad terms, he might just not want to revisit difficult feelings. Or, he could potentially be seeing someone else and doesn't want to upset her by keeping in contact with you. well our breakup didn't end so well alot of things were said that shouldn't have been said. and as far as him seeing someone else my friends would tell me that they would see him out with a girl...but then another day they would see him with another girl and that they heard that he gets around. alot of my friends didn't understand why i got in a relationship with him given his reputation but i didn't know he was like that. but no the breakup really didn't end well.
joseb Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 "he says that there are no hard feelings and that he just wants to be left alone and put this all behind him. " Sounds fine to me. Block him too, no reason to stay in contact is there? Makes it much easier to move on.
smackie9 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 He broke up with you...he isn't looking for friendship, he just wants to move on and forward. The relationship ended on a bad note....he is done.....wants to shake it off. 1
Adele0908 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 He probably is a mean person and doesn't really like you. He is looking for ways to abuse or hurt you. There are people out there who just like this. Doubt you did anything wrong, except be an easy target for this toxic person. Be glad he is gone. Pray to be become a stronger woman. 1
casey.lives Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 personally.. I don't do friends with exes. i really want the love of my life to have my all.. not some semi quasi dismal thing with exes lingering and making me emotionally unavailable. The word friend means a lot to me. im not a fake pretentious person. 1
Gaeta Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Some ex I was able to remain friends and others I could never ever be friends with because no matter what seeing them or their name would hurt. You are an ex he cannot remain friendly with and for some reasons he is capable to remain friend with this other girl. Maybe he loved her less and when they broke up he didn't feel as bitter as he feels toward you. After a break up the one that wants to remain friends is always the one that loved the less during the relationship. Usually the one that loved the most is too hurt to even consider a friendship.
Versacehottie Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Best guess: is it is still hurtful to him and he just doesn't want to think about it in any way or keep the door open. Some people like to rewrite the history of a breakup and they can't really do that with new information staring them in the face that draws their emotions back in. Another secondary less likely but still possible guess: he has acquiesced to a new gf who doesn't want him to have contact with you. Don't take it too personally. It's his way of dealing with your particular break up. Not the normal thing people discuss when starting a relationship: "if we break up, how will you treat me afterward". Even if they did, once it happens and feelings are hurt, all bets are off. Best advice: move forward yourself and focus on your next goal. And if it's a relationship, I'm sure in no time this won't even bother you.
Author NJooo Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 You have given the best comment on here and you're right I need to be stronger and I think he played on that weakness he knew I cared for him but was selfish and only thought of himself he even wanted me to quit my career in the military for him just because he wanted me around him all the time. And my friends tell me that they hear he gets around
Author NJooo Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 personally.. I don't do friends with exes. i really want the love of my life to have my all.. not some semi quasi dismal thing with exes lingering and making me emotionally unavailable. The word friend means a lot to me. im not a fake pretentious person. My friends and people who were not my friends thought he was a sh*tty person
Lois_Griffin Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 well our breakup didn't end so well alot of things were said that shouldn't have been said. and as far as him seeing someone else my friends would tell me that they would see him out with a girl...but then another day they would see him with another girl and that they heard that he gets around. alot of my friends didn't understand why i got in a relationship with him given his reputation but i didn't know he was like that. but no the breakup really didn't end well. So you're saying he a was big cheater and when you called him on his sh*t, he acted like the break up was due to YOUR actions. Typical. He's a greasy little weasel. Stop reaching out to someone who completely disrespected you in every POSSIBLE way. Why would you go looking for friendship from this ass?
Author NJooo Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 So you're saying he a was big cheater and when you called him on his sh*t, he acted like the break up was due to YOUR actions. Typical. He's a greasy little weasel. Stop reaching out to someone who completely disrespected you in every POSSIBLE way. Why would you go looking for friendship from this ass? I don't know if he ever cheated these were girls they saw him with some time after the breakup they were just calling him out for getting around I guess
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