Novice Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Background story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/531991-deeply-conflicted I was cleaning today and came across old letters that she'd written for me, photos that were signed on the back by her, and little notes that we used to write each other. Reading them was crushing, especially since I thought I was starting to recover. What do I do with old letters? Especially when a huge part of me would rush back to her if she sends 1 text.
alphamale Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 just keep the letters in the attic for a few years. look at them later and they will bring back fond memories. 2
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If you can't bring yourself to get rid of them now as part of your healing process, do put everything from her letters, photos, trinkets, gifts etc. away. Seal it all up & put it in your attic or the most inaccessible place in your closet for at least a year. Then you can revisit throwing it all out. At that point it will mostly be junk.
ravfour4 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I'm surprised by the answers you were given so far. I'd say just throw them out. I threw all mine out long ago, I read them and I remember what they said, I no longer need to keep them around as they will only make me sad and bring me back to a time that I can no longer go back to.
Tayla Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 i agree. keep them. I savor those letters and a time in my history of life. I want my heirs to know a part of my life when I am gone. Its a part of who i was... once upon a time. You"ll be glad in years down the road... that person you were will have evolved and that picture or letter will put in perspective the couple you were. My grandson laughs when he sees that I dressed in mod clothes . He thought i was an actress in theater attire! Makes for funny conversations.
Jimmyjackson Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Keep them, when my ex dumped me my friend told me to burn my letters and photos but I decided against it. Haven't looked at them since the break up, stored them away and forgot about them until i read this. She was part of your life at one point, and whether you believe it now or not you learnt stuff from the relationship and grew as an individual. You'll look back on the memories one day and be thankful for it all. They will also serve as a reminder of who you used to be. 1
dumbass2 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 (edited) Sounds like you had some great times with her, so I'm with most everyone in that you keep and stash far away. You might look back at them later in life and they'll just remind you about a great chapter in your life and something you learned from. I still have some letters stashed away and run across them from time to time from girls 20 years ago. Brings a smile to my face. If it was a bad break up and resentment, then obviously a different answer. Edited June 18, 2015 by dumbass2
alphamale Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I'm surprised by the answers you were given so far. I'd say just throw them out. why do you say that? i have pictures from some of my exes that i look at once in a while and only good memories come to mind. all the bad memories are long gone and forgotten. 1
leavesonautumn Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Keep them for now. I found an old box of memorabilia from my ex of 5 years after over a year of being broken up and I was able to easily toss it out with no emotion. If it was a good relationship, I probably would have kept them. 1
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