testit Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Hi, Married since years separated jan. quick question: My wife and I have been legally separated in maryland since january. Last night we got togehter and fooled around. No penatration. Oral and stuff like that. She started the whole thing not me. Will this legally mess up my separation agreement in maryland. Emotionally i sure it will mess me up since I really miss her and she doenst miss me. I dont know if this was a game ora way to get out of the spepartion agreement. ai dont trust her but ai trully love her. I really enjoyed being with her. Any advice would be grand!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Each state has different laws but I'd guess separation based more on residence and less on sexual activity. Do you see this night together as part of some reconciliation? Why the split in the first place? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Separation vs. Divorce in Maryland | DivorceNet.com You may have reset the clock on the separation, depending on what your current situation is and what you're planning to do. If she is resisting the divorce, then she can use this to delay it - if she can prove it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author testit Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 She said it out relationship that is the problem nothing else. I think a affiar was the reason. She said it was not just that we dont get along. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 The biggest risk you're facing is getting her pregnant. That would certainly add some complication to your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author testit Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Separation vs. Divorce in Maryland | DivorceNet.com Is it still separation if we live in the same house but sleep in separate beds? No. The rules are very strict in Maryland. To be considered separated, spouses must: not live in the same house, and not have sex with each other. WHAT DO THEY MEAN BY SEX........only penatration or anything (oral , watching etc) Link to post Share on other sites
WasOtherWoman Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Separation vs. WHAT DO THEY MEAN BY SEX........only penatration or anything (oral , watching etc) Well, if you ask Bill Clinton.... (sorry, I don't mean to make light of your situation, it was just too good to pass up) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Separation vs. Divorce in Maryland | DivorceNet.com Is it still separation if we live in the same house but sleep in separate beds? No. The rules are very strict in Maryland. To be considered separated, spouses must: not live in the same house, and not have sex with each other. WHAT DO THEY MEAN BY SEX........only penatration or anything (oral , watching etc) It's just what they can prove. It's pretty easy to prove if you two do not live in the same house or not. However proving you had sex? It only becomes an issue if one of you talks about it to the judge. Separation sex is like Fight Club. 1) The first rule of separation sex is........you don't talk about separation sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sportsguy4 Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Well it just depends on what you want out of the situation. This past February after 10 months of separation my wife and me agreed to meet and try and talk to her pastor to work out our marriage. I got there and she had bought condoms and preceded to be the aggressor all 3 days I was there, and just wanting to screw over and over again.... Two weeks after that weekend she calls me and says we're done, and as of last Tuesday I am divorced. I haven't heard from her in more than 3 months now. Idk if you can handle fooling around if the relationship doesn't last. As for me it totally screwed me over in my mind and I'm still reeling from it. Can't believe she could do what she did, and I've pretty much had to start over emotionally from that weekend and I'm still not getting better from it. If it's no big deal for you to fool around and her possibly still leave then go for it, but if you think in the slightest bit it would F with your mind then I sure as hell don't recommend it. Worst thing I ever did, was allow her to do that, that weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 I really miss her and she doenst miss me. I dont know if this was a game ora way to get out of the spepartion agreement. ai dont trust her but ai trully love her. I really enjoyed being with her. Does she have a history of being manipulative and sneaky? Using a situation to get what she wants? If so, you are right to be concerned. If not, she was probably just horny and knew you were a sure thing. I wouldn't read too much into it. If you can't just enjoy the sex without feelings getting involved, then just say no. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Separation vs. Divorce in Maryland | DivorceNet.com Is it still separation if we live in the same house but sleep in separate beds? No. The rules are very strict in Maryland. To be considered separated, spouses must: not live in the same house, and not have sex with each other. WHAT DO THEY MEAN BY SEX........only penatration or anything (oral , watching etc) Ask your lawyer, and if you haven't already, make the separation or divorce filing official. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 I think a affiar was the reason. She said it was not just that we dont get along. Then use the same strategy she's using regarding the affair - deny, deny. deny... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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