'Perfect imperfections' - the random or unconventional things you find attractive

[Shepp]

Not the widely agreed stuff like honesty, good values or a sense of humour but the random things that you find unexplainably attractive but would never put on an 'ideal partners list', the things that none of you friends get or just the little actions that your partner doesn't even know you dig..

 

 

I'll kick off:

- Beautiful girls who drive really cruddy beat-up cars.

(No idea why? Maybe to do with not being materialistic, dunno!)

 

- Seeing a girl messy.. theres something insanely hot for me about a girl rocking that slightly-dragged-through-a-hedge look, hair out of place, sweating, splashed in mud or paint or something after decorating a room, or mucking out stables or even gutting a fish.

 

- Sarcasm. My Mrs has a very dry sense of humour that a lot of people would find offensive unleashed at full throttle.

I know a lot of guys who feel the complete opposite but I honestly like girls who hide insecurity or vulnerability behind this façade of gritty toughness, I find it hot! If she's able to drop the act around me and be herself, us against the world like, then she most likely has me hooked!

 

- Wet hair - not like on some perfume ad on the telly where the model gets out of the pool but like where she's been caught in the rain, or been in the sea but the suns started to dry it out a little. I dig that!

 

- A good appreciation for food.. someone who'll be my buddy at the Mexican buffet & get stuck in getting meat out of crabs legs.

 

- Winking. Sounds cheesy & a little old fashioned, but whenever she winks at me, in a roomful of people at a party or simply in the kitchen washing up......damnnnn!

 

I can definitely think of more but we'll run with that for now!

[Haydn]

Winking, i love that!

 

We are out somewhere and she glances over a gives me a quick wink.

 

Her face in full concentration when reading a book or doing sudoku....

 

Could stare at her for hours.

 

The way she pulls her hair behind her ears......

[GoldieLox]

Sarcasm and a dry, brutal, twisted sense of humor, absolutely.

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Someone who enjoys spending time on the beach, nit just sitting on the sand with a pair of headphones on, but someone who likes to get out and play in the water and have fun jumping in the waves, splashing and laughing.

 

Someone who is gentle with animals and children

 

Someone who loves the garden

 

Someone who isn't tied to their phone and can leave it at home

 

Someone who likes to go for long drives, taking the back roads with just a map and no gps, visiting small towns and villiages

 

someone who is not centered on 'things" and how to get more of them

[GoldieLox]

 

Someone who isn't tied to their phone and can leave it at home

 

Good one.

 

Someone who doesn't have Facebook or any other form of social media!! (I'm in my late 20's though so, good luck with that one)

[Tayla]

The soulfull swagger. They have a little skip in their step, I swoon as they are walking near...

 

Shepp, any gal who can pull off a sarcasm that is done with such wit, is indeed worthy of attractive commentary.

 

The laughter that produces tears...It has no rhyme or reason...but dang, to have that full on belly laugh is awesome!

 

The way my guy will *sigh*, after I said something soo unreasonable....as if to say.."My poor poor child," yup we gotten to the point of communicating with Little gestures that say more. His sigh is endearing.

[Jessie1231]

A British accent absolutely kills me. I just love it.

 

The guy I'm dating now has this shy part to him that I adore. He gets a little nervous in unfamiliar situations which we end up in a bit since we take odd little trips together when we can. Anyway, he gets nervous about the weirdest things, like ordering something he can't pronounce in a restaurant. He's a good sport about it, and I do tease him a little. But I actually find it quite adorable. He's not shy in any other way, he's more outgoing than I am in most ways. So it's really cute to me that random little things make him shy.

[Gloria25]

-A Caucasian guy who is into black women w/o being a "wigger" or trying to be black (i.e. the slang, dress, hat with stiff brim).

 

If you are Caucasian, please continue to be so. If you like me, a black woman, w/o feeling you have to like Obama, rap music, weed, bling - you got me dude!!!

 

It is one thing if you genuinely like stylish cars, rims, and rap music - but to acquire those "tastes" just cuz you think it will make me (or other black women) like you more, you are insulting me and what you're doing is akin to "black face".

 

One time in the military, a peer was giving me a ride to X place. He had NPR on his radio, and changed it to some R&B station and asked me if I liked that station. He had no clue that while I don't listen to NPR on the regular, I do enjoy talk radio. So, I guess black people aren't into talk radio? I don't think he meant harm, but it pissed me off.

[Gloria25]

-A "quite/reserved/stoic" person (like myself) who can rock the room when you least expect it.

 

I was thinking of a lot of Edward Norton type characters - where you think he's soft, weak, etc and then he does stuff like (woah, wait one minute).

 

That's a lot like me. One time I said a cuss word and people looked at me with surprise. I've had many say that they will never 'get me' and yep, they probably never will.

 

So, that's me - I have many sides to this coin. I like a guy who can be quiet like me, but when you least expect it, they are swinging from the ceiling in private

[loveweary11]

Love completely non materialistic girls... girls who give zero f's about what other people think. Just like Shepp's example of a rough car. Case in point... my yoga instructor chick wearing thrift store stuff in SoBe and having a famous fashion magazine stop her for a photo shoot.

 

I like short bob cuts on lots of girls. Many of them look so cool with them.

 

The criminally insane... Love a girl who is just a little nuts.

 

A nearly offensive, horribly mean sense of humor... the type that might get one banned from Love Shack.

 

Fake stuff... eye lashes, boobs, extensions.... guys always hate these things, but they don't bother me at all if done well. I even like them.

 

Generally funky and weird chicks. Basic bitches bore me to death.

[loveweary11]

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[Art_Critic]

a girl who has better porn favorites in her browser than I do

 

I always found the way my wife sleeps.. listening to her slight occasional snore or just the way she breathes breathtaking...

[90s kid]

Quiet confidence.

 

Someone who loves to read.

 

A man who is just as comfortable in a nice suit as he is in a t shirt and jeans.

 

A kind smile.

[Davey L]

-A Caucasian guy who is into black women w/o being a "wigger" or trying to be black (i.e. the slang, dress, hat with stiff brim).

 

If you are Caucasian, please continue to be so. If you like me, a black woman, w/o feeling you have to like Obama, rap music, weed, bling - you got me dude!!!

 

It is one thing if you genuinely like stylish cars, rims, and rap music - but to acquire those "tastes" just cuz you think it will make me (or other black women) like you more, you are insulting me and what you're doing is akin to "black face".

 

One time in the military, a peer was giving me a ride to X place. He had NPR on his radio, and changed it to some R&B station and asked me if I liked that station. He had no clue that while I don't listen to NPR on the regular, I do enjoy talk radio. So, I guess black people aren't into talk radio? I don't think he meant harm, but it pissed me off.

 

So true. My wife is black African but I never pretended to be like a black man. I figured if she wanted a black man she could have found one, not a white guy pretending to be black, and therefore was presumably OK being with a white guy.

 

To me the cultural differences, different values, different views on things that keep life interesting at home. I'm firmly of the "opposites attract" opinion; I never had a gf of my own nationality or background.

[newmoon]

a guy in glasses.

 

a guy in glasses who is sitting down and reading... i find it an incredible turn-on

 

a guy who can go without any internet or electronics for at least a week.

 

a guy with more than one dog.

[jen1447]

A nearly offensive, horribly mean sense of humor... the type that might get one banned from Love Shack.

That's a good one. I like mean streaks in women specifically, but not sadistically so. Moreso a woman who can skewer someone who's deserving of it and almost go too far, but who can then pull back and show mercy when she's got them on the ropes.

 

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I also like sexual exhaustion. That sort of condition where it's like the last round of a heavyweight boxing match and they both sort of just hug each other. It's complete and utter capitulation to the sex, and I find that amazingly clarifying. In those moments, sex is almost adversarial. Not non-consensual, but a sort of contest of wills almost. The love comes after it's finally done and you've spent everything that can be spent.

 

And I love seeing a woman look up at me with her chest heaving and breathing heavily after I just got her to do some crazy sh*t - again almost with animosity but also with an underlying sense of admiration and gratitude. There are no smiles in that space, really no language even ....the desire's gone for the moment and all that's left are the basic building blocks of our humanity and the fallout of primal, pre-rational sex. Love it!

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A guy who doesn't think fart jokes are the height of comedy...

[mrs rubble]

I'm a sucker for chivalry, nothing more appealing to me than beautiful manners.

[amaysngrace]

The strong silent types that own a room just by being in it but can still chat up a crowd very easily.

 

I love strong men.

[Syberia]

A southern accent.

 

Large women (as long as you're not morbidly obese, "plump" and "curvy" are great)

[Toodaloo]

Big noses, I just like a big nose on a man - I don't know why...

 

A little bit of love handle. Yes I admit I do not like the skinny look, I like a bit of chunk and covering over the 6 pack!!! Not too much but enough... More rugby player than footballer!

 

I also smell armpits when ever I can but we have already done that and I know that there are many others on LS who are also part of the SSS (Secret Sniffer Society)...

 

Blokes in boots. I like work boots on a man... Something masculine and rough and ready about it...

 

Stubble...

 

I hate hate hate hate hate to see a man cleaning. Washing up is OK but ironing, hoovering and general cleaning I hate hate hate it.

 

So tempted to say "hello boys" in my very British accent!!!

[hotpotato]

I will second this one. Years ago I had this woman hit on me at my job by standing outside my glass door in the rain. All she had to do was look at me through that door and I was done. All she had on was a t-shirt and some short shorts. She was thoroughly soaked. One of the sexiest things I have ever seen, and I will always have that image of her in my mind.

 

 

 

White guys are awkward! A lot of us feel like we have to try and like something black so we don't look racist or something. My go-to for those situations is Chris Rock. Love that guy.

 

Awww lol. I like white guys who are really white, like country club white lol. If hes white n nerdy thats even better. I dont know why. *shrug*

[loveweary11]

Toodaloo reminded me of smell. I love the smell of the right woman's scalp. Her hair kind of dirty and unshowered so it's giving off a good scent.

 

I go in for a sniff when they have their heads buried in my chest. (i go for the short ones)

 

Kind of a scent that doesn't urn you on, but makes you feel a rush of love. Very hard to explain.

[SammySammy]

Fit woman with thick thighs. I don't know why that is so sexy to me.

 

A woman who is comfortable with her natural appearance. Natural hair, nails, boobs, eyelashes ... whatever. Completely comfortable with herself with no makeup or anything extra. That's very appealing too.

[hotpotato]

Love completely non materialistic girls... girls who give zero f's about what other people think. Just like Shepp's example of a rough car. Case in point... my yoga instructor chick wearing thrift store stuff in SoBe and having a famous fashion magazine stop her for a photo shoot.

 

I like short bob cuts on lots of girls. Many of them look so cool with them.

 

The criminally insane... Love a girl who is just a little nuts.

 

A nearly offensive, horribly mean sense of humor... the type that might get one banned from Love Shack.

 

Fake stuff... eye lashes, boobs, extensions.... guys always hate these things, but they don't bother me at all if done well. I even like them.

 

Generally funky and weird chicks. Basic bitches bore me to death.

 

Oh really! hehe I don't think men hate those "fake" things as much as they claim to.