Starks Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Omg, this made my night. sorry but the jokes on you. if he hasn't tried contacting you for 11 weeks you can bet he doesn't give a **** 2
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 You're all right. I was trying to get some validation. He never tried to communicate, that's right. But he was also blocked so I'll never know. Maybe the fact that he made this fake profile with his same user name was a sign he was planning to contact me, but who really knows, right?
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 You're spending way too much time focusing on a guy who dumped you almost 3 months ago. No offense, but what are you trying to achieve by obsessing with the online dating profile(s) of a man who left you? Please move on and stop looking for him. I absolutely agree. Thank you for opening my eyes. I haven't blocked him yet but I will continue with my life. If he decided to let me down 11 weeks ago, he doesn't deserve my time obsessing over a silly online dating profile. Life is so much more than that. Also, I'll stop going online. I'm still not ready to date anyone and I really don't want to meet anyone either. I contacted an old flame and he replied. He's always excited to hear from me and he wants to meet me soon. I don't know what to do. We only had a first date and we kissed two years ago. It was nice but my ex was always interfeering so I never got the chance to know this guy well.
Laurenhergensen Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I had a tough day yesterday. I cried, I felt that my ex was the only one who I could have an intimate and close relationship, regardless of how much he deceived me. So I unblocked him. From Facebook, phone, and one online dating site. Turns out the minute I unblocked him, he changed his profile pic and deleted some other pics from his online dating profile. I was just wondering if maybe this was a weird coincidence (him changing his profile pics etc) or it was maybe intentional. Either way. I'm 11 weeks no contact, and it's all been said from my side. The reason I blocked him and went no contact back in March is because he said he wasn't in love with me and that I could start seeing other people if I'd wanted to. i think you shouldn't be thinking if anything could ever happen again. If he told you that he doesn't love you, he's made it really clear... And if he speaks to you again, by the way you talk about him, i would say you will think he changed his mind and he's starting to feel things for you... BUT! guys are idiots, and you should know that... if he speaks to you again, he might want just to have a little fun and then BYE. How would you be aware of this when you seem to be really into him? i think the healthiest thing you can do, is to just eave it there, and if he talks to you, you should be really alert and aware of the possibilities. Of course, no one says its impossible he changed his mind, but you should be taking every step carefully just so you don't end up hurt
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 i think you shouldn't be thinking if anything could ever happen again. If he told you that he doesn't love you, he's made it really clear... And if he speaks to you again, by the way you talk about him, i would say you will think he changed his mind and he's starting to feel things for you... BUT! guys are idiots, and you should know that... if he speaks to you again, he might want just to have a little fun and then BYE. How would you be aware of this when you seem to be really into him? i think the healthiest thing you can do, is to just eave it there, and if he talks to you, you should be really alert and aware of the possibilities. Of course, no one says its impossible he changed his mind, but you should be taking every step carefully just so you don't end up hurt Thank you. I agree, it's really unlikely if a guy said he didn't love, to suddenly change his feelings. I think it from my perspective, if I don't love someone now, I don't think I'll love him ever. I'm cautious, and I really don't expect anything from him.
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 He just sent me a text: "I saw you online and wanted to know how you're doing. I hope I'm not bothering you". Just that. I read it but didn't reply. I honestly don't know what to say to him anymore.
Yummm Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 You say nothing, you're moving on and don't need to be set back! Stay strong
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 You say nothing, you're moving on and don't need to be set back! Stay strong No, I haven't replied. I ignored. Then, I saw he visited my profile twice. If he'd really want to have a relationship with me, he'll try harder. I will not reply to breadcrumbs. He said I could date other people, that he didn't care. Now he might be showing remorse for all the things here done and said to me. I will not say a word, but he can still see me online, dating others.
Yummm Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 He told you he's willing to let you find other people, you don't want him to have a relationship with you. Stay strong girl and keep up NC. @Dyna, yeah I didn't read the OP's name properly
BC1980 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 OP, I think that indirect contact (usually via social media in today's world) can be far more dangerous/damaging than direct contact. With social media, you can literally have access to your ex's life 24/7. Also, with social media, we have to fill in a lot of the story. We start wondering what else is going on, and we start believing everything we see. Your mind runs wild. I think social media is one of the most damaging things during a breakup, and it's amazing how many people come to this forum with questions about social media. Social media provides unlimited, all day access to an ex, so it ensures you can't move on. I was talking to someone I work with yesterday who can't understand why, after 5 years, she is still hung up on this guy who is marrying someone else this weekend. Turns out she's FB friends with him and probably checks his profile daily. She has some quasi friendship with him over social media.
seminoles84 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Back to full NC. You are clearly not ready to see or hear from him. Only when there is true indifference should there be any contact. It's for the best.. Good luck!
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 I'm feeling really sad right now ignoring him. It's killing me but I get that there's nothing he'd say that it'll make me feel better. He repeated several times he had his walks, he was incapable of having a relationship, and at the end he said that he wasn't in love with me, that I could go date other people. He kept himself looking in several dating sites and commenting on other women's pictures even though I said that it was bothering me he felt the need to get attention from other women all the time. He tried to respect what I said but I think he didn't love me enough to consider having something exclusive with me. I honestly don't think there's return from that and for this reason I have nothing to say but ignore. It's sad though, he may be regretting letting me down so many times. Anyway, I'm feeling really low right. Thinking I'm really rude for not replying.
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Posted June 19, 2015 Ok, I replied to his text "I'm very well, good luck" not really expecting he'd text back at all but he replied instantly wanting to engage in conversation. I acknowledge I read his text but didn't reply. So he sent me another text 20 min later asking why I haven't contacted him before and that he thinks of me. He also asked me about a guy I was about to see when we just broke up. Again, no reply from me. He sent me another two texts in a row that I hadn't even seen yet but the last one is about this guy i was about to meet, again. I'm taking until the morning to see if I'll reply at all or no, but how selfish he is. after all that has happened he still has the nerve to inquire me about my private life, like if I still were of his property when he never gave a dime about me. How immature is this.
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 21, 2015 Author Posted June 21, 2015 While I know I should be focusing in MY thoughts and not on his, I'm a little curious about what he may be thinking right now. I blocked him right after he started to tell me by text that he's not ready to fall in love with me, that I should date others, that we could still text and hug and kiss each other but that essentially, he's not ready to give up on having sex with other women or date other women. That he's not going to be exclusive with me. I said fine and blocked him, and this was three months ago. I unblocked him last Wednesday. At that point, he created a fake online dating profile, and when he saw I unblocked him, he rapidly "improved" his official dating profile still keeping the fake one active. He then proceed to text me. I replied a day later. He replied to that text immediately but he only got silence from my side. He texted me four more times that night. I still never replied. I did visit his fake online profile, as a way to show him I discovered it. I don't know why I did this honestly but I guess I'd feel very stupid if it was me who made a fake profile and he visited me. What is he may thinking at this point? I'm not contacting him and not roiling either to his texts, because I'm still sad it didn't work out and he showed me he didn't care. I think he may feel guilty he let me down? Or not?
dangerbang Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 Really weird situation. Fake dating profiles? What? Anyway, who cares what he thinks, he's clearly not that into you. Forget about him and don't look him up or contact him ever again.
minimariah Posted June 21, 2015 Posted June 21, 2015 what did he text you about those times you didn't reply? what did he say?
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 21, 2015 Author Posted June 21, 2015 what did he text you about those times you didn't reply? what did he say? It was something like this: -I saw you online and want to know how you're doing. Hope I'm not bothering you -I'm doing well. Good luck -hi!!! You look you're doing well!! You posted some cute pics!!! He continues (me only silence) over a period of two hours: - hey I haven't heard from you and I think about you. Are you dating that cute guy? - I mean, dating me... - I'm the cute guy!!! Annoying, right?
Author brokengirl85 Posted June 24, 2015 Author Posted June 24, 2015 I understand the need to compile all my threads in one but this one is actually too long and difficult for people to understand from the beginning. I'm actually have a question and I appreciate some input. Since he last texted me that annoying texts (message is in my last post here) he deleted his OLD profile. Just like that. I know he may have have other girls he's interested in but men he gives up that easily! I ignored him a couple times and he just gives up. And disappears. Very cool I thought he, at least, would try to engage me, or try to insist a little more. Not the case. Three months no contact, I ignore his texts, and he just deleted his profile and disappears. Why is that???
OK_computer Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Don't worry about It. Apps like Tinder is just for a hook up. You want to really meet someone? Take a book to a Barnes and Noble bookstore a few times a week and sit in the coffee area. You'll probably come across a nice guy or two studying. Also, join meetup and look at joining a book club, dancing, a singles activity group, or even just a 30 and up group. People got married long before tinder and match and if you look back in your past I'm sure you'll discover that you've had more significant connections and relationships happen outisde of OLD or a bar. What's OLD?
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 (edited) It's been days I wanted to post this thread because it's really bugging me. I've blocked ex three months ago and unblocked him three weeks ago. He contacted me by text saying he's seen me on a dating site and that he wanted to know how I was. I replied the following day saying I was good, best wishes. He tried to engage in conversation at that point but I never replied back the four texts he sent. After one week he deleted the online dating profile (he once said he only have it bc of me, that I was the only interesting person there). He still keeps other profiles on though. My questions are: why he didn't insist? Why he just deleted his profile? Why is he not asking me why I don't reply? Why he gave up that easily? Why? Reason for breakup: he said he wasn't in love with me and he wanted to continue dating other women at same time Edited July 1, 2015 by brokengirl85
DexterLS Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 It's been days I wanted to post this thread because it's really bugging me. I've blocked ex three months ago and unblocked him three weeks ago. He contacted me by text saying he's seen me on a dating site and that he wanted to know how I was. I replied the following day saying I was good, best wishes. He tried to engage in conversation at that point but I never replied back the four texts he sent. After one week he deleted the online dating profile (he once said he only have it bc of me, that I was the only interesting person there). He still keeps other profiles on though. My questions are: why he didn't insist? Why he just deleted his profile? Why is he not asking me why I don't reply? Why he gave up that easily? Why? Reason for breakup: he said he wasn't in love with me and he wanted to continue dating other women at same time What did you expect? He is probably as confused as you are. Stick with NC and move on.
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 What did you expect? He is probably as confused as you are. Stick with NC and move on. I expected him to keep talking to me, to insist a little
Yummm Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 Shouldn't have expected anything, it's the over analysing when breaking NC that does damage and sets you back. Nothings changed so there should be nothing that concerns you, chin up and move forward
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 Shouldn't have expected anything, it's the over analysing when breaking NC that does damage and sets you back. Nothings changed so there should be nothing that concerns you, chin up and move forward Did I do the right thing ignoring? 1
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