westernxer Posted April 23, 2005 Share Posted April 23, 2005 Every guy wants to be with a MILF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Milf Posted April 24, 2005 Author Share Posted April 24, 2005 Once again, thank all of you for your thoughts and support. First of all, the date was cancelled. Jim and I have since spoke and we both agreed that it is wrong. After I knew that I could have him if I wanted him I lost the attraction towards Jim. I have decided that I will just take a few steps back when he is with my husband. It started out so innocent. At first I was just emotionally attracted to him. Then I moved onto a physicall attraction, now I find myself fantsizing about him. I take full responsibility that I could have stopped this months ago but it was "fun" at the time. Now spending time with my family I dont even know what I was thinking when I decided that it would be okay. I feel so horrible. This entire scenero has been playing repeat in my head. I couldnt imagine the guilt I would get from actually following through with this! I have decided that I am not going to discuss this with my husband, it is not worth the heartache for him. I have taken care of the situation and feel confident that I will not allow this to happen ever again. I am very proud of myself for making the right choice. I owe alot of it to all of you. Just to hear somebody else tell me what I already know helped. Thanks again! M.I.L.F. Link to post Share on other sites
HotCaliGirl Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 I am very proud of myself for making the right choice. I am SO proud of you too Milf! I have been waiting eagerly to hear a follow-up from you. I've been hoping so so hard that you wouldn't go through with it because I knew it was the hormones taking over a decent person who knew it was wrong and who has a good husband and children who don't deserve any of the heartache that follows an affair. So many scenerios - what if you developed deeper feelings for Jim and left your family for him? - things you can't control or imagine could happen, just like the possibility of an affair at the time you got married. You already made that big step to resist temptation and let your head lead your actions. I agree that you shouldn't tell your husband about it - sometimes that could do almost as much harm and he will have this vision in his mind of you with his friend and it might ruin both his friendship and your marriage. Try to go back to how things used to be and don't make an extra effort to avoid Jim so that it won't seem suspicious. It appears that he too was mature about it and maybe he is a good friend after all. Again, it was the strong attraction that was blurring everything and you both overcame it. I'm so happy about your decision that your post has made me cry!!! Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 (Hands HotCaliGirl a box of Kleenex) Link to post Share on other sites
HotCaliGirl Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 sniif, sniif - thank you boo-hoo-hoo Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Good job Milf. Definitely don't tell your husband about any of this. Let it go...and keep doing the right thing Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 MILF, the fact that you asked the "judges" on LS for advice tells me what kind of advice you wanted to hear. You knew that people would tell you NOT to do it and it means that deep down in your heart you never wanted to do it. It's pure physical attraction and is not worth the pain. How would you deal with the feeling of guilt 'till the rest of your life? Don't you think you would hate yourself for doing it? You should stop seeing Jim. You agreed that you're sexually attracted to each other, now agree on stopping the communication. Tell your husband that you think he is attracted to you and is making you feel uncomfortable...just don't tell him the whole truth cuz it will hurt him badly. You're a good girl for not letting the affair happen. Just don't do it, because you don't want it. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Sorry I still call this BS. Eventually sooner or later this guy is going to come around again and propostion you. Good chance he's already cheated on his wife (if he's married). He is NOT a friend to your husband. If my friend tried hooking up with my wife I would kill the bastard. Needless to say I would NOT want to hang out with him or do things with him knowing he's wanting my wife. That in itself is showing disrespect to your husband. Just because you are scared that your husband's friend might say something about how you wanted him too, morally you have an obligation to tell your husband. Remember those vows you took. They weren't just words. As long as your husband remains close to him it keeps the door open of possibilities which are not good. You need to end this "now" and not with just words. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 IMO, I think honesty is the best way to go. You definitely dont want this guy to show you're emails to your husband. I would rather be the first one to tell my husband, than to have someone else do it. You will hurt your husband, and you might ruin your relationship, but keeping a secret this big will definitely destroy it if he ever found out. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Nothing has happened yet, though. Why should she tell him this when supposedly she doesn't plan on doing anything about these feelings for the other man? Some things are better left unsaid. I think this would cause much more trouble than it's worth. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Imagine this... "Honey, I, uh, almost slept with Jim behind your back. But everything's okay now." "WHAT! C'mere, woman!" ... Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Hmmm... maybe i'm mixing threads Link to post Share on other sites
Author Milf Posted April 28, 2005 Author Share Posted April 28, 2005 Nothing has happened, and nothing is going to happen. I made the decision alraeady. I felt guilty just having the lustfull thoughts. I couldnt even imagine how I wiould feel if I actually acted on our impulses. As the matter of fact he was over last night with my husband. I had a second to talk to him privately and we both agreed that this was a crazy thing to even consider. So, I am just going to let it go and not allow myself to be in a situation where the temptation is there. M.I.L.F. Link to post Share on other sites
wanting to heal Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 My wife called me the perfect husband, then cheated on me. She said it was a drunken one night stand, but that is a copout. You cannot imagine the hurt I feel. She tells me that I did about all she could ask, but she had a curiosity. I do not understand it, she is my passion, not another woman. If you want to do this, just leave. My dad cheated on my Mom and then took me to meet the woman. It affected me for life. Sex is the union and the bond of marriage. If you have it for someone else, then do the guy a favor and let him go rather than hurt him. Otherwise you should get medical help. The fact that you have thought this out really scares me. The other guy is a user and wants a lay. I expect that from a guy, but somehow we think women will show more respect. Respect for theirselves and for their kids. Get a vibrator, try new sex stuff with your hubby. If you still need more, then go get it. Just do not drag him through the mud. You are probably hot and think you are overqualified for the old man. Then, go prove it to yourself. But don't come running back. I have stayed with my wife, but I think I may still leave. It has been a month. I hardly sleep, have lost 10% of my body weight and I feel like a sucker. My mind will not shut down. You username says it all. My wife thought she was a MILF too. Well, you and about a million other women could easily get f***ed by a guy. Most think with their dick anyway. If you think with your twat, then go find someone your equal. Link to post Share on other sites
New_Wife Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 I'm sorry for your pain. Maybe you've used your experience to help someone else by sharing it though. I hope you do heal and chose the best path for you. I'm impressed by your clarity of emotional expression. (and you're thinking 'and I should care because...') MILF - I have a hard time typing that. I'm glad you chose to opt out of this disaster. Look for your self esteem somewhere else - all women are MILF's with beer goggles on - it's not really an accomplishment that some guy wants to bang you. Honestly - that can be said of 80% of the female population - even the ugly ones. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 Personally MILF, I think you should tell your husband. The greatest reason is that he deserves to know that his so-called "friend" is actually a sneaking little maggot who is out to pork his wife. With friends like that, who needs enemies? He won't be happy about any of this. But he will be somewhat reassured to learn that you finally did what was right and stepped back from the brink. You guys will have some issues to work out... but it's much easier to work on them when everything's on the table. Link to post Share on other sites
Silver Tree Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 One angle on this not covered so far-- directly-- is the spiritual side of our connections to folks. ... especially to those we are close to. It's one of the reasons someone who is being cheated on finds out- They will have a way to know even if they do not technically have any way of finding out... Congrats on avoiding a situation which would have brought a lot of pain into your life and into the lives of those you care for. Link to post Share on other sites
teebee Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 If you haven't read my thread yet please find time to do so. My advice is there's no happy ending after cheating. You will be treated like garbage and I don't know you really understand that. good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted May 19, 2005 Share Posted May 19, 2005 MIL, I don't understand if your h is so perfect why do you feel the need to cheat .. most women would die to have a perfect h ..i personally think you don't deserve him .. i can't believe you would try to pursue his friend that is so wrong!! He deserves better than you .. If you want someone else tell him so he can divorce.. you will hurt him if you do it while you married .. Let him find someone that won't cheat and he can trust.. Link to post Share on other sites
OneFaith Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Hmm.. I know this thread should die since the resolution to MLIF's dilemma is over and done with (maybe), but what the heck -- I'll give my opinion after reading this. MLIF -- nothing is perfect, the people in this world, nor the marraiges that are in it. You would be deluding yourself to think that your marraige was/is perfect. It's obviously not. In a perfect relationship, you wouldnt have been wanting to "bed" another man, let alone while your husband is mounting you during intimate moments you're imagining Jim. You're escaping, from what? I do not know. My suggestion is find out what is making your heart and mind wander, if it wasn't Jim, then it would have been someone else. I have no idea what MLIF means or what it stands for, however, what I do know is that you should confide to your husband about your situation with "Jim". It would be a shock if your husband retorted back the same thing about your "good friend" would'nt it? You never know. Perhaps he may have something he would like to confide back to you. Any way you slice it, if you're honest about it, this may cause a gap between the both of you for awhile but -- in the long run, I believe it will do your marraige good by doing so. Im a true believer in open communication and honesty. It pays because in the end -- it will bind you closer than you can imagine or break you apart. Just imagine, if your thoughts could ruin your marraige, what would the "act" in itself do -- if you decided to go through with it (not speaking of the present). Hope you are really doing what you say here and not telling LS what you think we want to hear. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
portableversion Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 One faith MILF stands for "Moms I like to f***k" its from the segment of the porn industries where supposedly the woman is married and has kids but she looks good and she has sex with strange men. Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Originally posted by OneFaith Hmm.. I know this thread should die since the resolution to MLIF's dilemma is over and done with I'll concur and perpetuate my own complaint! Link to post Share on other sites
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