antonio1149 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 If she is cute and has a nice figure, she'll do better than if she's average or worse. Dating is not just a thumbs up/thumbs down situation based on one feature--guys will look at the whole package and if the hair problem is more than compensated for by other positive features, she should do okay. 1
SawtoothMars Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Ok, my friend wants to date, but is concerned this beauty flaw will stop her from getting and keeping guys. She suffers with a lot of facial hair; mostly on her neck and jawline. She uses a cute electric razor and puts on makeup to cover it. I could never tell she has any unless I was really looking or she pointed it out. Then maybe I would see a few dots, bumps, few hairs or a hint of a shadow in good light, but again I would never notice on my own. However, she is especially concerned a guy will be able to feel it. Her face is kind of rough and stubbly if you rub against her face a certain way. She is working on finding better methods to get rid of the hair, but right now this is the best she can do. So do you think a guy shouldn't date her because of this? Would this be a deal breaker for you, if everything else was good? My sister has a friend who can damn near grow a beard. The lady is married with two kids... so I don't think it holds her back. 1
elaine567 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Infertility and other problems associated with her PCOS may be more of a hindrance to her in finding a life partner than some hair. She needs to work through the medication to find what she can take, and not rely on "natural" stuff to treat her PCOS. Polycystic ovary syndrome - Symptoms - NHS Choices
katiegrl Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Just shave it. Not joking. Shaving will cause it to grow back thicker and darker... in a few years she "will" be able to grow a beard.....literally!
minimariah Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 You can't just take a pill and it will be gone. you can. as someone with PCOS - birth control solved that exact problem your friend has. and i had 0 sideeffects. did she even bother to consult her doctor about her options? also - STOP WITH THE RAZOR RIGHT THIS SECOND. you NEVER go with razor on your FACE. it's either wax or other less invasive options, i recommend wax. everything has sideeffects - you have no choice but to deal with it. and for rough face problem - moisturize, moisturize, moisturize + say HELL NO to the razors! 1
PegNosePete Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Shaving will cause it to grow back thicker and darker Sorry, this is a total myth Shaving cuts the hairs off so it might look thicker/darker on the first regrowth than if you remove the hairs totally by plucking or waxing etc. But it does not make one bit of difference to the thickness or darkness of the hairs. If that worked then I would be shaving my head every day! Google it 4
kendahke Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Ok, my friend wants to date, but is concerned this beauty flaw will stop her from getting and keeping guys. She suffers with a lot of facial hair; mostly on her neck and jawline. She uses a cute electric razor and puts on makeup to cover it. I could never tell she has any unless I was really looking or she pointed it out. Then maybe I would see a few dots, bumps, few hairs or a hint of a shadow in good light, but again I would never notice on my own. However, she is especially concerned a guy will be able to feel it. Her face is kind of rough and stubbly if you rub against her face a certain way. She is working on finding better methods to get rid of the hair, but right now this is the best she can do. So do you think a guy shouldn't date her because of this? Would this be a deal breaker for you, if everything else was good? She needs to find a dermatologist who is skilled at using a YAG laser if that hair is dark, or electrolysis if the hair is blonde/white. It may take a few sessions and can be expensive, but it is a worthwhile investment in her own peace of mind if she feels that her facial hair is a hindrance to her happiness. Or find a guy who is into hirsute women. I think the kind of guy she needs is one who doesn't care what his friends or other people think of the woman he's with. Are you that man? If not, then you should step aside and let her go find one.
katiegrl Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 you can. as someone with PCOS - birth control solved that exact problem your friend has. and i had 0 sideeffects. did she even bother to consult her doctor about her options? also - STOP WITH THE RAZOR RIGHT THIS SECOND. you NEVER go with razor on your FACE. it's either wax or other less invasive options, i recommend wax. everything has sideeffects - you have no choice but to deal with it. and for rough face problem - moisturize, moisturize, moisturize + say HELL NO to the razors! ^^I agree with this....my own sister had acne from PCOS, and as soon as she went on the pill it cleared up. And agree, STOP shaving!!
kendahke Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 you can. chances are, what that pill does is keep hair in the non-growth or shed state, which means the hair on the head will also stop growing or may start shedding. A pill will address all the hair on the body, not a specific kind of hair. Does she also want to thin out the hair on her head? 1
kendahke Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 The thing she probably has the most to be concerned with with shaving is ingrown hairs. At the very least, she should consider waxing before shaving, although my dermatologist said that shaving doesn't cause the hairs to grow in thicker--they're just cut at the surface of the skin as opposed to being yanked out at the root, where a new, tapered tip is generated and that pushes through to the surface.
xxoo Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 chances are, what that pill does is keep hair in the non-growth or shed state, which means the hair on the head will also stop growing or may start shedding. A pill will address all the hair on the body, not a specific kind of hair. Does she also want to thin out the hair on her head? Birth control pills will regulate her hormones for her and fix the hormonal imbalance that is the root of the problem. She won't lose hair on her head. Birth control pills do have other side effects, but there are a ton of them out there and some work better for an individual woman than others.
road Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 One word. Electrolysis.... it's expensive but well worth it. Won't interfere with your poc marks either. There is also a little hand held gadget on the market called the "no no" - $300 approx.. When used regularly, it removes hair from the entire body, including your face, permanently. Will take about six months. The above. Though first she needs Dr's care on hormonal imbalance and sound medical advice on how to get rid of the hair.
Gary S Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Bring her to me and I'll wax her, and we'll rip those suckers out until she starts screamin' her daddy's name! 1
stillafool Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 So do you think a guy shouldn't date her because of this? Would this be a deal breaker for you, if everything else was good? I don't think this would be a deal breaker if the rest of her looks are okay. If she has a cute body and face she will still get dates. 1
kendahke Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Birth control pills will regulate her hormones for her and fix the hormonal imbalance that is the root of the problem. She won't lose hair on her head. Birth control pills do have other side effects, but there are a ton of them out there and some work better for an individual woman than others. She should see an endocrinologist.
minimariah Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 (edited) chances are, what that pill does is keep hair in the non-growth or shed state, which means the hair on the head will also stop growing or may start shedding. A pill will address all the hair on the body, not a specific kind of hair. Does she also want to thin out the hair on her head? nope, nope, nope. you have to understand what PCOS is first & how it's treated. the hair you have on your head (which is there naturally) is NOT the same as hair you have growing uncontrollably on your cheeks, chin and neck. what pills do - they "calm" your hormones and keep them in balance so those areas that have gone wild (hence the hair growth on unusual bady parts) will "calm down". your hair isn't growing on your cheeks, chin & neck because that's normal - it's growing there because your hormones are out of the control. your other body hair grows on your head, legs... because it IS normal and because it's SUPPOSED to grow there & it's not connected with your hormonal balance. some women cannot handle BC, so that might be a problem but there is other medicine which treats PCOS. if she is diagnosed with PCOS - that's a serious condition + there is a treatment for that and you don't go to your endocrinologist - you see your gynecologist. your gyno will send you to do hormonal & blood tests in order to figure out what treatment suits you the best. Edited April 16, 2015 by minimariah
kendahke Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 (edited) I mention the endocrinologist because the ovaries can mask an issue with other glands in the body, which also deal with hormonal issues, according to my doctor. http://www.virginiahopkinstestkits.com/pcos.html There are several reasons why doctors don’t recognize the role of progesterone deficiency in PCOS. They may not be aware that the hypothalamus responds not only to the rise and fall of estrogen, but also to the rise and fall of progesterone. Since standard tests usually indicate that a woman with PCOS has plenty of estrogen, and she is still having periods, the doctor assumes she is still ovulating and producing plenty of progesterone. The odds of a woman having estrogen dominance and progesterone deficiency rise to 50 percent in the female population by age 35, yet doctors rarely measure progesterone concentrations. They may fear giving progesterone because of all the side effects caused by synthetic progestins, and may not be aware that natural progesterone, unlike synthetic progestins, is remarkably free of side effects when given in normal physiologic doses. Edited April 16, 2015 by kendahke
regine_phalange Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I got blonde hairs under my jaw which are not very thin. No big deal. A boyfriend of mine once said "hey! you got a girly beard! cooch cooch! :love:". and that was about it. I don't recommend laser for facial hair, it can make the situation worse on some people (a well known paradox). Electrolysis, as someone else said, might be the solution. It's cheaper as well.
mammasita Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Shaving will cause it to grow back thicker and darker... in a few years she "will" be able to grow a beard.....literally! Pffffft. HUGE myth. Shaving is the best option with least side effects. Shaving hair: Does shaved hair grow back thicker? - Mayo Clinic 1
hotpotato Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 (edited) It doesnt sound like a deal breaker. Its not like she has a full blown beard. Im more concerned that this flaw that may be imperceptible to others is hurting her self esteem and confidence. If she needs tp fix the problem first then come to the dating world with more confidence, that would be understandable. +1 for waxing Maybe she could try microneedling, silk peels, or microdermabrasion to soften her skin. Silk peel is probably the gentlest, and an aesthetician may pluck a few hairs, too. Edited April 16, 2015 by hotpotato 1
katiegrl Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Good point, they are two separate friends though Why aren't "they" posting? This site is free. 1
Leigh 87 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I consider myself pretty to some people and even a girl who looks like me can't find asomeone I want to date AND who wants to date me. Dating is hard for women without facial hair. Women who are unattractive or average simply have to be open to more men than women who have more options. That's all. I know obese women who found great love stories. My cousin is totally loved up with his obese Mexican bride. I have a crappy nose but I still manage to find men who think I'm very attractive. Your friend has a flaw. As do most of us. I don't let my sort of big nose stop me from dating. Nor should your friend let her facial hair stop her. 3
minimariah Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 (edited) Shaving is the best option with least side effects. not when it's on a woman's face. shaving your FACE (when you're a woman) is the LAST option you should be thinking about - your facial skin is not supposed to be shaved with a razor, as simple as that. it's different than men's + razor makes your skin incredibly rough and it damages it. so waxing would be the best option. whatever, as long as you keep any kind of razor away from your face. ladies usually use waxing as normal part of shaving, the small hair under above their upper lip and on the chin. NO ONE should be doing it with a razor. and the hair IS thicker and sharper when you're shaving with a razor - i can definitely see a difference when i'm doing razors vs wax so it's far from a myth. Edited April 16, 2015 by minimariah
mammasita Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 not when it's on a woman's face. shaving your FACE (when you're a woman) is the LAST option you should be thinking about - your facial skin is not supposed to be shaved with a razor, as simple as that. it's different than men's + razor makes your skin incredibly rough and it damages it. so waxing would be the best option. whatever, as long as you keep any kind of razor away from your face. ladies usually use waxing as normal part of shaving, the small hair under above their upper lip and on the chin. NO ONE should be doing it with a razor. and the hair IS thicker and sharper when you're shaving with a razor - i can definitely see a difference when i'm doing razors vs wax so it's far from a myth. OMG Stop ITS A MYTH. Women shaving their face? 5 Benefits to shave your face too ladies! | Elegance and Beauty Reviews 1
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