Halcyon Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 So just thought I would post an update to this thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/510443-she-contacted-me-today I've been casually dating, nothing serious and also working on some personal issues especially around the fact I tend to bury emotions rather than addressing them overall I'm doing pretty good. My ex started contacting me again a few weeks ago, after a few months silence after I told her I couldn't be friends, mostly pointless communication. I called her out on it and once again reaffirmed that it was not going to work as us just being friends and that if she wanted to talk about what happened then we could. She agreed and we both prefer talking in person so we met up yesterday and had a long conversation about what had happened, what had gone wrong etc. It was pretty much what I had suspected, that she had gotten cold feet because of our age difference but she still had feelings for me and was very confused. It became pretty emotional as it's quite clear we both still care about each other a lot. We couldn't come to an agreement because she worries it won't work out and I don't feel we could have a meaningful friendship without these feelings being an issue. So we agreed to have a think about it and meet again next week to decide how we are going to go forward. Overall a very mature and respectful meeting no hard feelings or anything like that, somewhat frustrating but we will see what happens next week. I know some people were following my thread so I thought I would write an update.
Ruby65 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Sounds like her most recent interest isn't panning out as she hoped and now she once again wants to be sure you're available as a Plan B option. Stop meeting up with her -- you're just feeding her ego (and her apparent need for drama.) It doesn't take several meetings and lunches and days of thought and months of silence to say you want to get back together. It takes a few seconds in fact, to say six simple words: "I want to get back together." You don't have anything to discuss with her unless and until she's said those words to you. Walk away. She's played this game before. If she's ever serious about getting back together, she'll move heaven and earth to let you know it! 1
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