pteromom Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Rather than think about what to do right now, think about the future. If you are open to marrying him and starting a family with him, you have to ask yourself before you even go there - - are you willing to respect an ongoing relationship between him and the mother of his child? This may include visits to her home; having her included in family events; having him go fix things at her house; meeting her to discuss stuff with their son; having to see her on holidays; sometimes having her come first for the sake of their child? - are you willing to respect the way he parents his child, even if you don't agree at all? Are you willing to be understanding that there may be different rules or circumstances for his son and any children you have together? - are you willing to let any comments and judgments from his ex or her family just roll off your back? - are you willing to come second to his child always? - are you willing to just shut your mouth and listen when he is venting about his ex? - are you willing to act like his ex is a wonderful kind person around his son - for the rest of your lives together? Getting into a LTR with a divorced parent is NOT for the faint-hearted. No connection or chemistry or feelings are going to wash away the reality of the issues you will face. Link to post Share on other sites
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