DatingDirection Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 What would you tell your younger self? What advice would you give your younger self on love, dating, relationships, self image and career advice? I'll start by answering my own question: #1. No matter what happens to you in life, make sure you're smart with money, make sure you're financially independent, and have enough savings for food, rent and emergencies, always for at least 3 months. 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 - Take more risks. Challenges are good for you, and bring out the best in you. - Start working out. It's going to be harder to start once you're used to being unfit. - Finish your album. Don't listen to mum, you never know what might happen if you do. - Never stop practicing piano. - Forget about that one girl you keep thinking about. She won't date you. 1
Harold of Andraste Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 If a woman says no to a date. Walk away and never speak to her again. 1
contact1 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Invest all the money you can get into Google stock when it first was being made, you can thank me later. 2
Gloria25 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 In regards to relationships datingwise, I pretty much posted here what I would have posted here...http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/518297-what-do-you-wish-you-knew-when-you-were-younger Careerwise? I would tell myself that taking a job/career move just cuz of the money was not a wise choice. In the military I did that and ended up in a branch I hated, was male dominated, and it resulted in me not staying in. Same thing now as a civilian. A couple of years ago, I "jumped" into a job with perks and money - even though I just started a good job - only to have entered hell for real. I won't go into details - but, let's just say that place is/was beyond toxic and has a revolving door. Also, I would tell myself to not run at the first sign of trouble. Maybe if I stayed in the military and put in for a branch change I would have retired. If I would have stayed at X job instead of running when "rumors" started that we would not be made permanent - I would not have fell into hell-job...cuz, other people I knew stayed and while they ultimately left, they left after getting that last promotion I would have gotten and left when they felt ready instead of making a rash decision based on fear. Eh, but then again, I left abruptly cuz I didn't want to get laid off. I only have "my" income and did not want to suffer a lay off. Life in general? -I would tell myself to be "sweeter" to people. My dad told me as a young woman that 'you can catch more flies with honey' and I've learned that it doesn't hurt just to be nice, to smile - even to people that are fing you over. On some jobs I've held where I've dealt with the public. If you start frowning and/or acting funny - they shut down and/or suspect you're gonna deny their case and start arguing. So, just have a poker face and smile and get them out of your office and/or off the phone. Also, being mad takes up so much energy and just makes things tense. It can also turn other people who would support you against you cuz of your attitude. -I would tell myself to stop trying to "confront" people. Stop trying to prove you're right (even if you are 100%). You can't win with some people. Stop wasting your time. All you're gonna do is make the situation worst. They are not gonna break down and say "oh, I was wrong". So, I've learned just to be "smarter" when dealing with certain people. Like at work they want you to participate in X. Well, it's no skin off your back to shell out the bit of money. I didn't want to shell out the money cuz I know they are mismanaging it. But the peeps managing the money are kissing the boss' butt and if you don't pay, they are gonna run to the manager. I don't plan to stay in this job, so to keep the peace and to get the manager to give me good job references - I'm gonna play ball and just pay the bit of money instead of confront them about how they spend it. -I'd tell myself that no matter how bad things get, don't stop enjoying life. Yes, stress does not make you horny and you don't wanna be around people cuz you're moody, but I've learned that in life, we will always have challenges, stress, etc. If you shut down and stop living every time something happens you'll be wasting your life. Life is about balance. Our family, kids, friends, hobbies, physical activity, etc - is what recharges our batteries and gives us the strength to deal with the roller coaster which is life. Moneywise? I'd tell myself to not try to bail out the world. I spent and still spend a lot of money trying to "help" family members and their situation never improves. Yes, while I've gotten a helping hand (not money) from others and our grandma was a blessing, it's good to help people now and then, but don't shell out cash after cash, etc..out of some sort of "yuppie" guilt. You worked hard and sacrificed for what you got. God gives us all choices in life. Their choices landed them where they are and as you can see, even though you tried to "help" them, they just get into more crap. -I'd tell myself to just don't swipe the card. Yes, when I made more money - and while I believe I live a frugal lifestyle - I wasted money on a lot of things. I'd go out on a nite on the town and as a minimum spend like $100.00. I didn't even care to cut coupons. Now, I am forced to look at the brand of food I buy for the doggies, how many times I buy a simple mocha, etc...trust me, you'll be amazed on how much money you waste. Ok, I said enough for now. Besides, I want to enjoy my fried chicken salad and beer!!!
autumnnight Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Don't worry about everything. It's ok to go parking. Don't let your mom run your life Don't overshare Screw the idiots. You rock whether you're perfect or not. Period. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 DON'T MARRY HIM!! Love yourself first and dream BIG. 3
Keith1970 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Be confident. Patient. Less sarcastic. More sweet and positive. Don't give into her, no matter how hot she is and how horny you are...save yourself for just a bit longer. Go home and take matters into your own hands. 1
BluEyeL Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 DON'T MARRY HIM!! Love yourself first and dream BIG. ^^I'd tell myself this. 1
gaius Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Nothing, my younger self wouldn't listen to anyone. And I wouldn't deny him the pleasure of figuring it out for himself. 3
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