Marina5 Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 1) We dated for 4 months, got to know each other over the course of a year 2) We're teens (under 18) 3) His reason for dumping me was that he just wasn't ready for a relationship, but he said that we could still be friends 4) He seemed VERY INTO ME until one week prior to the break up, when he was a little less physically affectionate and didn't see me quite as often (but that could be because of parental intervention--see 9). 5) Up until MINUTES before the break up he texted me ALL throughout the day (as he always did after we started dating) asking about my opinions, interests, what I was up to, giving me updates about his life, saying good night, etc. 6) I was recovering from surgery... so maybe he just texted all the time because he felt bad for me? We discussed many other things beyond how I was recovering though 7) He bought me flowers about a week before the break up due to my injury 8) He always kept up with doing me little favors/being a gentleman 9) One of his parents (who he is VERY close to/who he allows to control nearly his ENTIRE life) made it clear they did not like him dating. They wouldn't allow us to be completely alone together. 10) He is very passive (conflict avoider) and aims to please his parents first and foremost 11) I was his first gf. As far as I know he hasn't dated in the months since. 12) I said I couldn't be friends for a while because I didn't trust him. He sent the last text saying he was sorry, and neither one of us has initiated contact since. 13) After, he didn't help me with my injury, but acted like a polite stranger up until last month. Now, he acts like I don't exist. 14) I've actively avoided him, making sure he was uninvited from a gathering of mutual friends. 15) When people ask his best friend what happened, he says it just "kind of faded"/"ran its course" 16) Due to mutual religious beliefs, we weren't sexual Why do you think he broke up with me? Did he get bored of me? Did his parent make him (is he embarrassed to say so)? Was he just not ready?
LovelyDaze Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Why do you think he broke up with me? Did he get bored of me? Did his parent make him (is he embarrassed to say so)? Was he just not ready? Hello Marina. It could be for many reasons. It is possible at your young ages he truly wasn't ready for a LTR(long term relationship), his parents may have intervened in some way, he could have met someone else, his feelings just flamed out, or all of the above. It DOES hurt to think of all of those possibilities but trust us that you will be just fine and will be loved again for certain. It doesn't look that way right now at all, we know. My own mother remarried the love of her life at age 51 and is still married to him today some decade later. If you see on these boards, NC(No contact) will be recommended. It is a way for you to think clearly about what you do and don't want in a relationship, heal from breakup, and become a happier and wiser person for it.
Ducktape Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Hello Marina5. Recently, another member, sanddollar, had EXACTLY the same story happen to him, down to the detail. Shocking coincidence right? I suggest you read her thread and take all the thoughtful advices the members took the time to write for her to think about. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/509752-what-caused-break-up 1
LovelyDaze Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Hello Marina5. Recently, another member, sanddollar, had EXACTLY the same story happen to him, down to the detail. Shocking coincidence right? I suggest you read her thread and take all the thoughtful advices the members took the time to write for her to think about. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/509752-what-caused-break-up Well, whaddya know! Plus answers there to boot...go figure. Doppelganger??
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