stillafool Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 We are in a relationship... So you are in a relationship and she's calling all the shots? I thought she wanted to take it slow so how can you be in a relationship? Doesn't a relationship mean sex?
Diezel Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 We are in a relationship... Does she know that you are in a relationship, too? Because if she did, she wouldn't be saying to "take things slow with no pressure". 1
Author tim505 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 Thanks! She is really a nice girl
Author tim505 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 I asked her if it was official that were in a relationship and she said she wanted it to be so we started dating. After she just said she wanted to take it slow (the relationship) with no pressure. I'm going to be less available and let her ask me more of the time when she wants to get together at least for a while
Gaeta Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I asked her if it was official that were in a relationship and she said she wanted it to be so we started dating. After she just said she wanted to take it slow (the relationship) with no pressure. I'm going to be less available and let her ask me more of the time when she wants to get together at least for a while Is that what you got out of posting on here? Pretending being less available is called Playing Games and that will backslash in your face. Just be yourself. If being yourself isn't good enough for her than you 2 are not compatible. What is the purpose of dating? It's to verify chemistry and compatibility.
Maleficent Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 I asked her if it was official that were in a relationship and she said she wanted it to be so we started dating. After she just said she wanted to take it slow (the relationship) with no pressure. I'm going to be less available and let her ask me more of the time when she wants to get together at least for a while Sounds like fun. Enjoy! ...
Author tim505 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 Yeah your right i need to be myself.
Author tim505 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 i just dont understand what she might mean when she said she was extremely cautious of me
Gaeta Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 i just dont understand what she might mean when she said she was extremely cautious of me She does not trust you. She has classified every man in the same category as her ex. How you like being kept at a safe distance because of another dude's mistake? She is not ready to be in a relationship. She needs to work on her issues.
Author tim505 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 i disagree with that. i know by the way we talk that shes into me and she does enjoy being in a relationship. she did say her last bf was controlling but idk maybe she is just scared i will do the same?
lovexocoach Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 It's still very early in your relationship. She has no idea what you will be like as a boyfriend. Only time will tell. She has trust issues because of her past experience with her ex BF. It takes time to build trust so take things slowly with her. Be yourself, make yourself available to her, no game playing, romance her, woo her, have fun. Good luck.
todreaminblue Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 With the last guy I went out with he would call me whenever he was bored so quite often...wouldnt matter what i was doing.....i would run out of things to say...and for me thats rare...very rare.......i would get anxiety.....in the silences......the phone calls were so long .....i think what your gf has done is set up a really productive communication guidelines....she is being open and honest with you so resentment doesnt build and thats a good thing...i am going to be exactly like that when i start anything with any guy....because i do like my retreat time.......my ear actually would hurt from holding the phone to it that long....nah ....never again....btw ...he still calls me when he is bored and he is with someone else........but the calls are quick and infrequent now ......because i say i have to go...... your gf is doing the right thing by both of you........deb 1
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