Do you find men who play video games unattractive?

[LookAtThisPOst]

Its a visous cycle there is pressure to be even with your online peers if you're not up to par you cannot participate, people dont want you, and that doesn't even matter anyway you need to be up to par just so you can play the games content.

 

The only type of people this truly benefits the are ones who get paid to play.

 

I loved wow I was really successful I was a damn good resto druid, people would pay me gold to heal groups the love was awesome, but eventually the time, stress and pressure all adds up and it gets to a point where its like you're overworked and you crash hard (I don't mean sleeping) I mean with being able to keep up with your character and still have enjoyment.

 

Omei!

 

OMG! LOL....I used to play WoW, liked it a lot! I was a 57th level dwarf hunter.....

 

Remember the scene in Forrest Gump where he's running indefinately and people are running with him only to have him stop out of nowhere? and said, "I think I'll stop running now"

 

Something like that.

 

That's how it felt when I was traveling between cities in-game. Just logged out and never looked back. I got tired of the grinding and also I hated laboring finding people to join me on quests.

[Els]

I used to play WoW. The guild I was in started off as a casual raiding guild, but gradually got more and more serious. The raiding eventually started to feel like a second job, especially when I was being asked to sign up for more of them,(once or twice a week was enough for me, I have other things to do!).

 

That's without considering the grind of dailies... They weren't essential for a while, but the last few expansions (post wotlk, really) have made it so that every serious raider needs to spend an hour or two a day on those just to keep the pace. No thanks!

 

I may go back to wow one day, but I'll never do the grind of daily quests and the second-job obligation of raids again. It's just too much.

 

Haha, yeah, the dailies in Pandaria were brutal from the sound of it. I didn't usually bother, unless I happened to be logged on when guildies were doing it, in that case it was very quick and quite fun since we were on Vent chatting and stuff while doing it. Our guild also went the opposite of yours - we were quite serious in TBC and WoTLK, then became more and more casual as we matured and had real life obligations. We/they (I didn't attend a lot of the time) didn't even manage to down normal Garrosh last xpac.

 

I'll never go back to serious raiding either, unless I was paid to do it.

[Woggle]

I managed to get my wife hooked on Grand Theft Auto to the point where I might buy her her own console and game so I can have mine back.

[Diezel]

A lot of women will hate on a guy that plays video games as if playing on Facebook, watching reality TV, and texting all day are somehow better. I wouldn't worry too much if women like your hobby or not.

 

/thread over

enigma32 wins.

[Omei]

For some that keep talking about the quest grind in wow its actually wiped out entirely now you have a Garrison that's like your personal little house/city

[Andy_K]

Omei!

 

OMG! LOL....I used to play WoW, liked it a lot! I was a 57th level dwarf Hunter...

 

Pah! If you weren't max level and raid geared on at least two characters, you're a part-timer

[preraph]

There's no way I would have a guy around who wanted to spend a lot of his time on video games. It's completely asocial. It has no value at all as far as getting anything out of it. It's a completely nonproductive pastime that doesn't improve or expand you in any way. It's mindless and people who play them habitually are trying to escape something.

 

It differs from social networking in that it isn't social, so no good comes out of it. But yes, I agree social networking online can be too much of a good thing and that everyone needs to go outside their house and put down their smartphone once in awhile and go to physical things with real people!

[Michelle ma Belle]

Playing video games or watching reality television or texting or whatever is all fine and dandy as long as it does not interfere with one's life in terms of school, work or relationships and especially when it effectively replaces time with a partner.

 

Having hobbies, whatever they may be is important and healthy. The issue many women have with them (and this goes both ways as well) is when they feel like the hobby takes over and even quality time with their partners is compromised by a need to check in with their obsession.

 

Video games on their own is NOT the issue. It's the rest of it that can potentially become an issue.

[most_distant_galaxy]

The men I've met who played video games weren't unattractive because they didn't play all day long (well in some occasions they did but it was not the norm), they played interesting games and they also had other hobbies. I don't think it's childish, I think playing games in general is a good way to de-stress. I also like playing some girly games on facebook which are probably sillier than the ones that most men prefer.

[Shining One]

It has no value at all as far as getting anything out of it. It's a completely nonproductive pastime that doesn't improve or expand you in any way. It's mindless and people who play them habitually are trying to escape something.

That's a bit extreme, don't you think? My career in IT started with video games. I was a beta tester in my late teens and I made more money than I could flipping burgers. Video games also drove me to understand computers and technology better. You may not have gotten anything productive out of them, but you can't speak for everyone.

[Andy_K]

It's completely asocial. It has no value at all as far as getting anything out of it. It's a completely nonproductive pastime that doesn't improve or expand you in any way. It's mindless and people who play them habitually are trying to escape something.

 

Spoken like somebody who's never played a game.

 

Asocial? Some games are extremely social. And I don't mean just with online strangers. Playing and chatting online with real friends is every bit as social as facebook, and there are a multitude of social games that can be played by multiple people in the same room for 'real' socialising.

 

As far as being completely nonproductive goes, that is no more the case than for games than a great many other hobbies and pastimes. Most TV shows, for a start. A good chunk of fiction books too.

 

I think you have in your head the image of a mindless drone playing call of duty into the early hours of the morning. There is a whole lot more out there.

[SomeDude16]

Spoken like somebody who's never played a game.

 

Asocial? Some games are extremely social. And I don't mean just with online strangers. Playing and chatting online with real friends is every bit as social as facebook, and there are a multitude of social games that can be played by multiple people in the same room for 'real' socialising.

 

As far as being completely nonproductive goes, that is no more the case than for games than a great many other hobbies and pastimes. Most TV shows, for a start. A good chunk of fiction books too.

 

I think you have in your head the image of a mindless drone playing call of duty into the early hours of the morning. There is a whole lot more out there.

 

But is it really "real" socializing if the only connection you're making is a result of the video games?

 

A good chunk of fiction books are nonproductive? I hope you are kidding. Last time I checked reading comprehension and analytical skills are very practical, applicable, and valuable skills to have, especially on the job market.

[Maleficent]

Spoken like somebody who's never played a game.

 

Asocial? Some games are extremely social. And I don't mean just with online strangers. Playing and chatting online with real friends is every bit as social as facebook, and there are a multitude of social games that can be played by multiple people in the same room for 'real' socialising.

 

As far as being completely nonproductive goes, that is no more the case than for games than a great many other hobbies and pastimes. Most TV shows, for a start. A good chunk of fiction books too.

 

I think you have in your head the image of a mindless drone playing call of duty into the early hours of the morning. There is a whole lot more out there.

 

I agree with everything you said.

 

However not all pastimes have to be productive. It's called a pastime because it passes the time.

As long as what you are getting enjoyment from it, I don't see why one pastime would be considered 'better' because it's 'productive'

 

Seriously, what are most of us doing here? lol

[Andy_K]

A good chunk of fiction books are nonproductive? I hope you are kidding. Last time I checked reading comprehension and analytical skills are very practical, applicable, and valuable skills to have, especially on the job market.

 

I didn't say they were nonproductive... Just that it would be no more true to label all games as nonproductive as it would to label all fiction books that way. Skills acquired from many games are just as useful as those you've listed.. And in many cases, the same.

[MidwestUSA]

Spoken like somebody who's never played a game.

 

Asocial? Some games are extremely social. And I don't mean just with online strangers. Playing and chatting online with real friends is every bit as social as facebook, and there are a multitude of social games that can be played by multiple people in the same room for 'real' socialising.

 

I was smiling ear to ear one night when I overheard my husband playing marriage counselor to one of the guys he met gaming. He spends probably half the time playing, and half the time chatting.

 

He reconnected with some guys he hadn't talked to in 8-9 years, since both his shoulders froze up and he was no longer able to play. I don't consider these guys, who helped him thru some tough times, to be any less of friends than if they lived next door. He's met many guys here in the states, and a few across the big pond. Most are also on his Facebook, and I've 'met' them, and their families.

 

That console was my best investment in 2014! He nearly cried when I gave it to him, because we really couldn't afford it at the time.

[EveAFlame]

Unattractive?! No way! We can play together! I get along better with gaming nerds than jocks or artists or any other group.

[me85]

"Unattractive" ? Not at all.

 

I'm not a hardcore gamer like I used to be but I do still play. I'm a 29 yo female and all my past boyfriends were gamers. I have no problem with that what so ever.

[soyou]

I'm a women. I totally dont mind if he likes to play video games. As long as he knows how to balance life, I'm absolutely fine with that.

 

If my future bf plays games, I'll spend my time on minding my own business (reading, online shopping, going to massage place, getting my nails done).

 

Once in a while, I'll grant him access to bring all of his friends over, playing games day and night through weekend. I'll make sure all of them get foods, weeds, beers, or vodka ;-)).

[GravityMan]

It hasn't been an issue with most of the women I've dated. Heck some of them want to play with me. The "video games are for children" stigma is still around particularly among older folks, but is slowly fading away.

 

Just make sure it's done in moderation (that goes for any hobby or pastime) and doesn't encroach on your other adult personal and professional responsibilities.

 

And preraph, there are games out there including some popular ones that are highly social...both face-to-face and online. The entire industry has been moving in the "more social" and "more connected" direction for awhile now. There's even some single-player games that have some sort of integrated social component.

 

Maleficent is right on about not everything needing to be productive. I don't care about being productive when I play a game, watch something on Netflix, go to the bar with friends, watch one of my favorite sports teams or read a Stephen King book. I just want to unwind and have a good time.

[contact1]

I'm a women. I totally dont mind if he likes to play video games. As long as he knows how to balance life, I'm absolutely fine with that.

 

If my future bf plays games, I'll spend my time on minding my own business (reading, online shopping, going to massage place, getting my nails done).

 

Once in a while, I'll grant him access to bring all of his friends over, playing games day and night through weekend. I'll make sure all of them get foods, weeds, beers, or vodka ;-)).

 

Put this on an OLD profile and you will be swamped with men from across the country wanting to date you

[PetitePixie]

I'm a girl and play video games so no, it doesn't make a man unattractive to me.

I guess it could be a problem if all they do is play video games and have no time for anything else but other than that it should be fine.

[chimpanA-2-chimpanZ]

I used to have a "no videogamers" rule that was quite unfair, but I'll try to explain my logic at the time. There was an unfortunately positive correlation between guys who loved video games and guys who were immature. I was looking for a man, somebody who could work on cars and drink whiskey and smoke cigars (all things I really enjoy), and I just didn't see those traits in the guys I met who played video games. But the truth is that there are plenty of men who are quite manly and fans of video games. I was being narrow-minded.

 

My current boyfriend plays a game on his phone, usually before bed or while waiting in line, and every now and then plays video games on a console system. That doesn't bother me at all as I can occupy myself otherwise. He's also very mature and has dozens of other hobbies. As others have said, it's all about balance. If a guy is advertising himself as a super hardcore gamer who spends hours and hours every day, or to the point where games are his entire identity? No thanks.