kaylan Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 (edited) This is a follow up to my most recent thread about a girl Ive been casually dating. (if it helps we are both late 20s) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/500709-why-would-woman-volunteer-her-partner-count-early Anyways, we hung out this weekend and shared more of our relationship and dating history. From what she told me, her first real boyfriend was towards the end of college. And then they broke up not long after graduation and she didnt date or have sex with anyone until this summer. I found that hard to believe, because she seems to have a healthy sex drive. I just had a hard time wrapping my mind around how a girl could go years without sex. And then after that drought, take it upon herself to meet guys online for no-strings sex. And then apparently after a few of those situations got complicated or didnt work out, she tried Tinder (hence how we met). When we talked about why she barely dated in highschool, college, and early adulthood, she just says she was focused on other stuff. And that she usually has a small window where she gets interested in dating. It just makes little sense for a girl whos barely dated all this time, all of a sudden get an itch and try to cure it with CL and then Tinder. Her situation just seems odd. And given my taste in women in the past, Im cautious (my bad taste in women lol). I am just unsure of whether to take her on her word...because her situation seems different than what Im used to with women who will do the FWB thing with guys they dont know well yet. For some reason I have a nagging feeling that Im walking into drama. I took a break from any sort of online dating myself for several months this year. And honestly, this year only one girl was pretty chill, and provided me with no drama. Also Im just trying to be safe healthwise...so granted this girls partner count is low (according to her), but since the summer has been a bit risky. Not that I havent dated around similarly...I just feel like Ive gotten much of that out of my system. This current girl and I are approaching our situation as a casual friendship that has physical options...but experience has taught me that I should prepare for drama or someone catching feelings potentially. One thing I do like is that she is very open about her history and what she wants outta this. So the lack of guessing games and push-pull is very nice. Anyways, thoughts? Edited November 17, 2014 by kaylan
Author kaylan Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 self bump for input =P I guess Im just looking for a way to not be paranoid about ending up in an annoying situation.
Leigh 87 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I didn't have sex from age 20 to 24.... Despite having a healthy sex drive. It happens. I know men who go a year or more without sex. They only want sex with a girl they really like?
Gloria25 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 You'll pretty much know by spending time with her... People can only hide their fangs for so long...The more time you spend with people, you meet their friends, family. You see where they work, what they do with their spare time. You check out their social media. You have casual convo with them....
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I don't think there's anything wrong with her. And I don't understand what you're paranoid about. What would be weird about a girl wanting to have sex after a long drought? can you blame her? I was celibate from the age of 20 to 28. Try that? and then I went crazy in my late 20's and had sex with like 6 different men. Anything to get as many notches on my belt. The same with men who like to do it with woman, keeping score. Not having sex or being single for long periods of time makes you go stir crazy. Trust me. I think if she is a woman who wants to express herself sexually who cares if she does it in her late 20's or late 40's. There are people who go on dates and have lots of sex after a marriage break up. No different. I think all power to her to be honest!
Author kaylan Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 You'll pretty much know by spending time with her... People can only hide their fangs for so long...The more time you spend with people, you meet their friends, family. You see where they work, what they do with their spare time. You check out their social media. You have casual convo with them.... Id hope this is the case. However some people are very good at hiding the fangs. Thanks for the responses everyone.
Divasu Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 self bump for input =P I guess Im just looking for a way to not be paranoid about ending up in an annoying situation. Haha. You're funny. What would that "annoying situation" be exactly?
Author kaylan Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 Haha. You're funny. What would that "annoying situation" be exactly? I dont even know. Whenever I plan for a possible outcome, I get surprised by a different outcome. All I know is my dating life has never just been relaxed and fun. Something always comes up. 1
Divasu Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I dont even know. Whenever I plan for a possible outcome, I get surprised by a different outcome. All I know is my dating life has never just been relaxed and fun. Something always comes up. Well, that's a good start (identifying). Continue to explore.
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